To feel this crushed

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About 3 weeks ago I started speaking to this guy who lives in London, we hit it off and the connection (even just through FaceTime initially) was amazing.

He decided to drive all the way to Cornwall and rent an Airbnb for a week to 'see me' whilst also working.

He arrived last Friday and was busy seeing 'friends' until he eventually met me on Tuesday night. We then met again on Wednesday night, this time I went back to the AirBnB he was staying in. Another amazing night and we connected on more than an emotional level... ugh

Since then, he hasn't been responding to my calls due to being "knee deep in work" or "on a work conference" (until midnight on one night).

I then, after a bit of digging, found that a girl had left a review for the AirBnB commenting on how amazing their stay had been last week. He was there with a girl the whole time :'(

Fuck knows where she was when he met me Tuesday and Wednesday but I genuinely feel crushed. The lies. The false hope. It's just too much right now and I can't stop crying.

I know it was only 3 weeks but that was speaking everyday, getting on so well etc and then equally having an amazing connection in person. It felt so genuine.

Airbnbs are still taking bookings, I just had a look. They just advise you that there is a lockdown in England and that failure to follow the law is a criminal offense.

He could have lied and said he needs the Airbnb as he's on a business trip or something like that. The host isn't going to check if it's true.

The threats should be reported to the police via 101.

How does he know your address? You stayed at his so why tell him your address?!

until he eventually met me on Tuesday night. We then met again on Wednesday night, this time I went back to the AirBnB he was staying in.

Love to know where you went on the Tuesday. With nothing open, apart from a McDonald's drive through, did you spend the evening in the local park on the swings?

There's currently fuck all else to do down here.

So he was apparently staying in an apparent AirBnB with an apparent girlfriend, who you managed to track down on social media from the miniscule information that is left on AirBnB reviews (it's worth applying to MI5 with those spying skills)...where was this girlfriend on Wednesday night when you apparently went back to his holiday shagnest? Wandering round a 24 hour supermarket, since there's fuck all else open at night during the lockdown you appear to have forgotten about?

Where was his girlfriend when you went back to his airbnb, OP? It's not really normal is it, going away with your partner somewhere on holiday and they're out all one night and then they demand you a stay out all night the following night. And it's not as if he would have been able to change the bedding... so neither of you noticed that the bed had been occupied by another woman? No long strand of hair, no perfume scent, no make-up smudges on the pillow? You're both hairless, odourless non-makeup wearing people?

Honestly, what a lot of drama over nothing. You all sound like teenagers.

Disregarding the breaking of lockdown rules, just block him and move on. You have hopefully learned a lesson here. People are not who they say they are online and you can't have a "connection" with someone that you've only spoken to online.

Just tell him this nasty piece of shit
By Text

That he did not Satisfy in bed Cause his willy was far too small for you !

Or
Just tell him by text

That he was Hopeless Shit in bed

You wished you Could have had a dildo a sex toy from Ann Summers Store instead !

😁

He sounds absolutely horrible. Actually a vile piece of work. I’m so sorry this happened to you OP. I can understand how incredibly upsetting this is. It’s so utterly cruel and hurtful. A similar thing happened to me. I was seeking a guy for a couple of months. Asked him if he would like to spend the weekend together for my birthday. He said he was visiting somewhere with his friend (male) for the weekend. I then find out by looking at a girls Instagram profile that he had as a friend that she had posted photos of them together on a romantic city break that weekend.

When I find the courage to date again, I’m going to ask them up front before I sleep with them and explicitly ask if they are seeing or sleeping with anyone else or have any intention to and if they are, we will part ways right now. The cool girl attitude gets you nowhere if you are looking for a meaningful connection and it just ends up in tears. I think it’s so sad that women are too afraid to ask questions up front that they really want to know or be afforded a decent level of respect or honesty from the man without her being accused of being hysterical or needy. Dating has become so utterly shit. Men withhold information because they know that all girls (apart from ones just looking for NSA sex) wouldn’t sleep with them if they knew the truth.

@Waxonwaxoff0

Honestly, what a lot of drama over nothing. You all sound like teenagers.

Disregarding the breaking of lockdown rules, just block him and move on. You have hopefully learned a lesson here. People are not who they say they are online and you can't have a "connection" with someone that you've only spoken to online.

You wouldn't be upset by something like this?

Thats not right.

Very few people are that hard about having se with someone who turns out to have strung them a bunch of lies.

Your comments are more appropriate to someone who hasn't met their online paramour, not someone who has been on a romantic break with one.

@GreenlandTheMovie no, I wouldn't feel upset about someone I had only known for 3 weeks. But then I wouldn't be having a "romantic break" with someone I'd only known for 3 weeks. I don't really understand why people become so enamoured so quickly with what is essentially a stranger.

Are you guys seriously buying this?? Like all of it??? 🤨

Oh, yes. The bits with the COVID police swarming in on any perceived infraction like heat-seeking missiles are eminently believable.

On the other hand it is surprising that after all these months anyone's got enough energy left for all that righteous indignation.

To address the question, he’s a lying twat who used you, which is not going to make you feel better right now BUT it proves that never seeing him again or getting into anything deeper is a very good thing. If he did this sort of thing to you when you were in love it would be even worse.

Onto Covid, which is the issue that inadvertently arose due to your post. Covid IS relevant here because you want sympathy and advice from the same people who were staying locked up while you spent the night meeting a bloke in an air bnb. Totally unnecessary and it’s really pissed me off that you’re mentioning it so casually. ALL of us have needs that aren’t being met right now, people we’d love to see and places we’d like to go. If you’re going to break the rules don’t come on here and casually drop it in like it’s no big deal. Assume those defending this are doing whatever the fuck they like too.