To be a bit fed up with DP and his KFC...

[BeansOnToastWithCheese]

Me and DP have been TTC for a long time, I finally got pregnant last year but it ended in a MMC. I had lost some weight before this, but am now committed to losing more before we TTC again to reduce the risk of another miscarriage (as much as possible - obviously losing weight is no guarantee). So, I'm counting calories, walking the dog for an extra hour a day and doing 40 mins of hard-ish cardio 4 times a week. It's working well (disclaimer - I'm also using Ozempic to help) and losing between 1/2 a stone and a stone a month. But...

I'm really sick of making such a big effort to lose weight and eat well while he doesn't do anything. I know my BMI is more important when it comes to TTC but he's overweight too and is going in the opposite direction to me. I just feel like I'm making ALL the effort and he's doing nothing.

He's just had a pizza delivered, and I feel bad about it but I lost my temper. To be clear - I didn't criticise him for eating the pizza - I just said how difficult it is to stay on track when he's getting that sort of thing delivered. A bit of moral support wouldn't go amiss, etc. I'm sure I'm just jealous that he doesn't need to do any work - it doesn't really matter what his BMI is - but, when I tried to get him to see if from my point of view he denied he'd find it irritating if our roles were reversed. I just don't believe him. So, AIBU?

Tonight’s takeaway is a red herring.

He is overweight and continuing to put on weight.
The likelihood is that your child will become overweight.
It’s not being a good role model, and it’s not being a good father.

Stop TTC until you are both working towards a healthy weight. It’s not all up to you.

[quote GreenSlide]**@Sunflowers095* I didn't see @GreyhoundG1rl* making stuff up about you and your partner, and you're the one telling everyone who doesn't agree with you that they're enabling men to be useless. So its hardly a one way street. If you're going to get personal about posters who are just giving their opinion, as OP invited them to do, then don't act all innocent when you're called out. [/quote]
Ah yes and when the other poster said "Your post is a pile of steaming horseshit, sorry.
Oh, and completely wrong on all levels. Sad life, my arse." That was lovely too.

I'm aloud to have my opinion too - if some posters can't handle other people matching their nasty energy they should probably reconsider their own behaviour :)

Well, I suppose you're half right. But that poster guessed I'd never had a supportive partner in my sad little life, so I think the nasty energy came my way first!

@GreyhoundG1rl

Well, I suppose you're half right. But that poster guessed I'd never had a supportive partner in my sad little life, so I think the nasty energy came my way first!

Funnily enough if you look through the times things have been posted your nasty posts were first :( surprise surprise eh

Maybe you're reading the thread upside down?

@GreyhoundG1rl

Maybe you're reading the thread upside down?

Or maybe I am reading with comprehension :o

Was there any conversation before he ordered the takeaway, like do you want a salad or anything? Or did he do it secretly? Talk to each other.

Is your issue that he’s not being supportive or that he’s also overweight?
Tell him it to inform you and eat it in another room if it bothers you that much. Him already being overweight is another topic entirely

So what ! As long as he isn't eating junk every day?

So what ! As long as he isn't eating junk every day?

He's overweight and getting larger. What might that suggest? Maybe not every day but too often? Ffs it's in the original post.

What I do is I would eat one peice from the box or a small bit and freeze my bit for later while still having my healthy meal and salads.

So a meal for two would last for two days to one person.

He can buy his junk while I get healthy. Each to their own. I can only advise

@ChampagneWorries

Dh is on a diet and is policing everything i eat. Its irritating, i decide when to lose weight not him!

Hes counting the calories in my food and comparing it to his etc

He asks me to weigh myself at the same time as him and he writes it down etc.

When i lived with my parents and went on a diet the family werent expected to change their eating habits. I ate what i wanted to and so did they.

This sounds unbearable! Tell him to pack it in!

OP, don't be the food police. If you must, tell him to eat it somewhere else.