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Is this a bit weird ?

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Flowers24 · 17/03/2021 16:42

I often chat to a guy in another department at work when we were office based, just a chat here and there, we linked up on Fb and chatted now and again on messenger. Now he is messaging me daily and even said he saw me come to the office the other day (I had to collect something, didnt know he was there) and said have I done my hair as i looked amazing.....next he is asking me to meet him early one morning so we can walk alone in a woodland area he knows and really enjoy each others company. I politely said that sounds nice and he said ' I want to go tomorrow now' so I made excuses.
He is married with kids too and what seemed a friendship with a work colleage now feels a bit weird. He wanted me to message him the other morning when he woke up as needs his fix of me.

Should I back away?

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Flowers24 · 18/03/2021 16:32

Tbh thought he meant having a chat just us but can see it a bit clearer now 😬, also that there's a little wooden shelter to go.in 🤔

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Wendyhause · 18/03/2021 16:43

Haven't had time to read all the posts so this may have been mentioned but if he is asking for an early morning text or a midnight one it means one thing and one thing only. He wants to wank while reading it. Simple as that.

If it was me I would have told him straight to EFF OFF. Similar things happened to me with more than one colleague and I put them in their place straight away! One laughed and told me I must be frigid. WHAT? and the other one seemed all hurt and told me I must have misunderstood. No mate I didn't misunderstand at all.

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Flowers24 · 18/03/2021 17:23

Ive been too nice as thought it was just a friendly chat but some things started to seem odd and came on here as needed to check my own thoughts

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ContessaDiPulpo · 18/03/2021 17:37

You haven't been too nice OP, you were just nice to your friend, which is what you thought he was. Now you've realised your perception of the situation isn't accurate, and you've reassessed. Simple as that - you have done nothing wrong.

BeagleEagle · 18/03/2021 17:39

@Flowers24

I often chat to a guy in another department at work when we were office based, just a chat here and there, we linked up on Fb and chatted now and again on messenger. Now he is messaging me daily and even said he saw me come to the office the other day (I had to collect something, didnt know he was there) and said have I done my hair as i looked amazing.....next he is asking me to meet him early one morning so we can walk alone in a woodland area he knows and really enjoy each others company. I politely said that sounds nice and he said ' I want to go tomorrow now' so I made excuses. He is married with kids too and what seemed a friendship with a work colleage now feels a bit weird. He wanted me to message him the other morning when he woke up as needs his fix of me.

Should I back away?

Dont go for a walk alone in a woodland area with him JFC

HeartsAndClubs · 18/03/2021 17:50

God if some bloke was messaging me that he needed his morning fix so to text him first thing my first reaction would be to think “what a creep.”

And I would be really uncomfortable with the idea of someone suggesting going to a really remote wood. I’m not generally a suspicious person but that would ring alarm bells for me in terms of whether he would take no for an answer .

At this point I would be inclined to tell him to F off, and if he doesn’t, have a word with his manager/hr.

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Flowers24 · 19/03/2021 13:16

Thanks, I've ignored yesterdays message...

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ContessaDiPulpo · 19/03/2021 13:24

I think you will need to send an actual message to him though OP. Otherwise he will keep going and feign confusion at how your feelings have suddenly changed (to his mind)

katy1213 · 19/03/2021 13:29

You don't need to back away - you need to tell him to fuck off.
How old are you? You sound too innocent to be let out!

georgarina · 19/03/2021 13:33

You said it seems like he's been watching you walk into work, texting you for his 'fix' and asking you to meet in the woods ... he sounds like a stalker or kidnapper! Do not go into the woods with him!! Actually quite scary

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Flowers24 · 19/03/2021 13:43

I'm in my 40's!

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OldEvilOwl · 19/03/2021 16:33

Get him told! Ignoring is obviously not working

Tal45 · 19/03/2021 16:55

He is creepy and scary. Are you single? Does he know? If you are single then make up a new boyfriend and say you'd both love to go on a dog walk with him and his wife. x

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Flowers24 · 19/03/2021 17:18

I am married with teens as is he

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RootyT00t · 19/03/2021 19:39

OP....

I'm going to assume given MNs update that you arent on the wind up, but are you either young or quite naive?

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Flowers24 · 19/03/2021 21:22

Unless you count 40's as young I must be naive m

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