What is your partners issue that you choose to accept and deal with?

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Esther Perel says 'there is no such thing as the one and that every couple has issues. The question is which issue do you want to deal with? You pick this person you will deal with these issues, you pick that person you will deal with other issues'. So what are your partners issues that you choose to accept and deal with?

You first, OP.

He's not affectionate or communicative. But I'm very independent and self sufficient. On the other hand he is kind, fair, loyal and a seriously intelligent/talented person. So I find him interesting and safe and I'm proud to be with him. He's also adventurous in life and in bed, even if he's not into talking about it after😅

Obsessed with eating pudding using his ‘special spoon’. When we have guests and I’ve laid the table, he will get up and change the spoon he has been given for his special spoon from the drawer.

@Iamthewombat that's pretty minor!

Yeah I can deal with spoon fuss.

When's your copy deadline?

@Neap

You first, OP.

He has what I feel is an unhealthy relationship with his family which can impact us. But with time I have come to understand why this is and accept it, but it still makes my blood boil at times lol!

@Iamthewombat

Yeah I can deal with spoon fuss.

Derailing, but I think if I knew my partner felt this way about a spoon and I was laying the table, I'd give him the spoon. To save him having to get up?

@bitheby would it really matter?

A few. But I have a special spoon too!!

Derailing, but I think if I knew my partner felt this way about a spoon and I was laying the table, I'd give him the spoon. To save him having to get up?

The special spoon is a teaspoon. I want to at least attempt to pretend that we are normal when guests are round!

@Iamthewombat

Derailing, but I think if I knew my partner felt this way about a spoon and I was laying the table, I'd give him the spoon. To save him having to get up?

The special spoon is a teaspoon. I want to at least attempt to pretend that we are normal when guests are round!

I don't think that is so strange! Is him getting up to switch spoons not more attention grabbing than giving him it in the first place? If anyone commented you could say 'we ran out of spoons and DH drew the short straw (/spoon... boom boom)'

Before we broke up over something unrelated, I chose to put up with my partner's accidental physical rudeness in public places. He just didn't have any self awareness and would frequently do things like let doors close on people, stand/walk directly in front of people, not acknowledge people if they stepped aside with a nod or a thank you. It did grate on me.

The special spoon is a teaspoon. I want to at least attempt to pretend that we are normal when guests are round!

TEASPOONS FOR EVERYONE! NO to spoon judging.

A little bit tight with money.
We have separate finances thankfully.
I used to feel I didn't have enough in common with him due to older traditional views - though we are the exact same age. He's has much older religious parents.

He plonks down on the sofa too hard. It's creaking. That's about it really, he's pretty dreamy.

I prefer eating pudding with a teaspoon. I think the reason is I want small bites to enjoy it rather than mouthfuls. No desert really lends itself to a big spoon!

His snoring.

I mean it really is awful. Imagine an overweight walrus died, was reanimated, then swallowed a harmonica & caught covid. Times that by around 5 and you have the noise my husband makes in his sleep.

@bitheby would it really matter?

It would to me

@WishingHopingThinkingPraying

I prefer eating pudding with a teaspoon. I think the reason is I want small bites to enjoy it rather than mouthfuls. No desert really lends itself to a big spoon!

I second that emotion. I have a nice long sundae spoon (which I nicked from a Wimpey burger place 40 odd years ago) which just makes everything taste so much better than any other spoon I own.

When ever we order a burger for home delivery, she has to have burger relish, mayo and ketchup and mustard all in the same bun, disgusting

Oh god so many things. He makes a one pot meal and uses 12 pans. Gets the milk out and leaves beetroot hand prints on five cupboards. Is clumsy to the point of scraping/damaging walls. Is forgetful, unorganised. Loads the dishwasher front to back. Generally crap with domestic stuff. Not always communicative emotionally. But is kind, thoughtful, generous with effort and time and money. Hardworking. Always there. So smart, so funny. Has integrity, basically. Forgiving. Couldn't give a shit if I let him down on minor things. Encourages me to to go easy on myself. Supportive. Will always make my favourite dinner.

The list of things he puts up with me is longer.

@StormcloakNord

His snoring.

I mean it really is awful. Imagine an overweight walrus died, was reanimated, then swallowed a harmonica & caught covid. Times that by around 5 and you have the noise my husband makes in his sleep.

😂😂😂

His mother. Thank goodness we moved 1200km away.

@StormcloakNord

His snoring.

I mean it really is awful. Imagine an overweight walrus died, was reanimated, then swallowed a harmonica & caught covid. Times that by around 5 and you have the noise my husband makes in his sleep.

Your DH isn't my dad by any chance?? 🤣🤣🤣