What is your partners issue that you choose to accept and deal with?

[chuckb4ss]

Esther Perel says 'there is no such thing as the one and that every couple has issues. The question is which issue do you want to deal with? You pick this person you will deal with these issues, you pick that person you will deal with other issues'. So what are your partners issues that you choose to accept and deal with?

Snoring. And after he has had a cold he continues to cough for up to a month in a way that you would be sure a piece of lung is about to fly out.

He had OCD and everything needs to be clean.

My husband goes to bed at 1 to 2am and gets up at 9am. He rarely gets showered and dressed before midday. I wish it wasn't the case but am used to it after nearly 30 years.

It was different when the children were little I should add.

He’s a Christian.

Needs major direction with cooking it’s annoying but he’s very clever and funny so I can put with it. He hates my messiness.

I prefer a little spoon for pudding too! Makes me feel like I’m getting more pudding.

Totally feel the same way about a pudding spoon !!

He watches me!!! Doesn’t want to take part in DIY or gardening but will hover around watching me do it! It drives me up the wall - either get involved or leave me to it!!!

Farting.

Aggressive driving.

His ADHD. He cannot help it obviously, but it can be exhausting.

Snores like a warthog, can’t find anything but doesn’t look either, just ‘man looks’ and expects us to do everything together...

Is it a special teaspoon or just any teaspoon?

My dh is an absolute darling but sometimes he asks me so many questions about what I’m doing that I told him it was like being married to the gestapo. We both just laughed though, we never seriously argue or fall out really.

The noises he makes when eating. We play music at dinner time so I don't have to hear it.

The sound makes me want a divorce!

He watches football. So. Much. Football.

@Iamthewombat

Derailing, but I think if I knew my partner felt this way about a spoon and I was laying the table, I'd give him the spoon. To save him having to get up?

The special spoon is a teaspoon. I want to at least attempt to pretend that we are normal when guests are round!

I understand him

@StormcloakNord

His snoring.

I mean it really is awful. Imagine an overweight walrus died, was reanimated, then swallowed a harmonica & caught covid. Times that by around 5 and you have the noise my husband makes in his sleep.

He can't prioritise despite having to really think before making any decisions.
He'll spend 3 hours deciding how he's going to go about his tasks for the day, which probably have a combined working time of two hours.

It's probably harder to live with me, though. I'm very much an act first, think later kind of person.

His bloody routine. I mean I'm pretty organised and like structure but wtaf. We have to tag team workouts in the morning as we have a young DC (the slots he's set are 7.30 and 8.20) so I feel I'm in a rush from waking up.

Him working from home - not much space from each other but also zero quality time.

He puts up with a lot more though!

My dsis was married to a man whose whole family showed their appreciation when eating a nice meal by making what she described as orgasmic noises. She found it quite disturbing.

... and pretty much anything I say/any suggestion etc I know his knee jerk response is to disagree. It's exhausting! We then end up turning a molehill into a mountain then he admits he agrees with me.

Think I'm slightly missing the point here as I'm not convinced I put up with some of this stuff - I challenge it but it keep happening so perhaps I do put up with it in some way!

His incredibly low sex drive. Makes me feel shit but I love everything else about him and couldnt imagine leaving over it, so just put up with it.

Taking eighty bajillion years to get around to things.

Like learning to drive or writing wedding thank yous.

He's much better at the day to day stuff, but anything that takes a bit more effort he takes forever to get started on.

Arsenal fan.

We’re equally petty/particular about certain things, but those certain things are different things. We’re currently at war because he keeps putting the soap dish in the wrong place so I have to keep putting it in the right place.

His lack of urgency. He is so laid back at times I just want to shake him, But he makes me laugh like no-one else ever has, he has held me up things got too overwhelming and throughout the last year he has kept me going during the worst time in my life. I would not be without him.

I'm still waiting for the breakfast he said he was going to make 30 minutes ago mind.

@SimonJT

"Arsenal fan".

You're clearly a saint for putting up with this.... 😘😅