To think OH prank isn't funny?

[afternoonnapqueen]

Today is the day I hear if I got the job I wanted I'm really banking on getting it and will be gutted if I don't.

I get terrible anxiety I worked myself up so much last week I had a panic attack. OH has been pranking me this morning of No caller ID he even got his brother to join in.

I kept thinking I missed the call and was wondering why they couldn't hear me when I kept saying Hello, I was getting my self into a right mess.

OH and his brother cracking up laughing messaging each other, now they've put me in a terrible mood.

AIBU to think this isn't funny or am I just too serious?

I hope 11 pages of unified support tell you that you have every right to feel upset, OP. This is not a ‘prank’, it’s abuse. It goes in the same category of insult followed by ‘only joking, you’re so humourless!’ It’s meant to undermine you. I’m guessing it’s by no means the first time he’s done this sort of thing. I would be reconsidering the relationship in your shoes.

@afternoonnapqueen

That is awful.

Not funny, your DH sounds a dick.

An immature dick.

Hope you get the job.

@afternoonnapqueen

I'm in tears over it all he's saying I've ruined the day because I've got in a mood over it all. God I hate him so much! He's trying to say he was preparing me for the call.

I have just asked my son about this.. {Who used to wind me up sometimes over different things} and he says ''That is completely not right''.

He thinks that isn't even ''A wind up'' which should be at least mildly amusing... but this isn't. It is really playing with your head and confidence, which is a mean thing to do.

@Thelnebriati

afternoonnapqueen Get a second phone for real life grown up stuff and don't give either of them the number.

This is good advice - if you insist on staying with him, that is.

Hope you got the job, OP.

That isn't funny at all.
What a childish selfish dick. Does he have form for this shit?
Wait until you get the job and then play an hilarious joke in return such as letting the air out of his tyres or popping a haddock in his underwear.
Or just tell him you no longer want to be with him...

Late to this but everything crossed tightly for you and good job news. Your DH is a dick.

@Blockedoff - totally agree with your statement on the first page that the boyfriend's a cunt. I don't like using that word, but it does seem apt in this case.

I'm really shocked at what they both have done. Are you the main earner OP? Honestly I cluldn't be with a man who treated my anxieties as a form of constant ridicule for Him and his Brother.

Get rid 🌺

@FilledSoda

That comes from a place of anger . He doesn't want you to get that job.

This

Good luck with the Job OP 🍀

Did you get the job OP?
Sounds like he is threatened by you moving up (and on?)

They called and just let me know I have been shortlisted but they need to do another three more interviews. Their are 6 positions so fingers crossed I am one of them. Will find out for definite on Thursday she said.

OH has been sulking and apologised and said he took it to far. Still think he is twat though!

Jokes that aren't funny are a 'legitimate' way to express hostility. He doesn't want you working & he's gaslighting your distress. I'm willing to bet he's emotionally abusive over other stuff too. I hope you get the job: & please rethink being with someone who doesn't want you to be successful & happy.

Oh he is. He’s an insensitive, disrespectful, callous twat. Make no mistake about that.

He is a twat op. Well done @afternoonnapqueen!!! Still keeping it crossed.

Tell him nothing OP 🌺

Good luck OP, come back and tell us the results, we are all rooting for you

Good luck xxx excited to hear the outcome!

I’d leave some divorce papers on the kitchen table.

Then when he confronts you, decide by his reaction if you say it’s real or a prank.

What does he have to sulk about? How is he the wronged party? Odd.

Good luck and hope you get one of the roles.

As far your OH, he doesn't want you to get this job. I don't want to glibly say LTB, you have 2 young children but what I will say is make sure you cover yourself financially as best you can.

Only you know whether him and his brother are just incredibly childish or if there is something more sinister behind it. I would struggle to trust him..

@afternoonnapqueen

They called and just let me know I have been shortlisted but they need to do another three more interviews. Their are 6 positions so fingers crossed I am one of them. Will find out for definite on Thursday she said.

OH has been sulking and apologised and said he took it to far. Still think he is twat though!

Well done on the job front. Hope it is good news on Thurs.

Home front - yeees. Not quite so good. 2 kids in only 4 years, DH not working? I've only read some of the other posts but yes I think there is resentment there. How well do you really know him? I would be fairly quickly encouraging him back to work. Perhaps you can request flexible working so you both share child care and working.

Sorry I meant to say i think he is a total childish twat. Why wouldnt he wish you well with this?

What an asshole. I hate people who think upsetting someone else is funny.