To think it would be better to just scrap mother's day altogether?

[AlexaShutUp]

Every year, I read threads on MN from mothers who are miserable on mother's day because their kids have made no effort, their partners have made no effort, their exes have made no effort, and this morning even that their in-laws had made no effort. It seems to cause more angst than joy?

I have no personal axe to grind - my dd is fantastic at showing her appreciation and making me feel special. I enjoy the effort that she makes for mother's day, but I don't actually need this because she is generally grateful and appreciative every day.

AIBU to think that the people who feel respected and appreciated on mother's day probably feel respected and appreciated most of the time anyway, and for the people who sadly don't feel respected and appreciated all year round, mother's day is just another way of making them feel crap about this?

Does anyone who feels taken for granted the rest of the time actually feel that mother's day helps them to feel valued?

@Thetigerdrankmywine

We buried our little cat today, after finding out on Monday that she had lymphoma. Didn't really feel like doing mother's day.

I'm sooooo sorry.

for you.

@InFiveMins

I have a wonderful mother but have to listen to friends being upset because they've lost their mothers, another friend being in tears all day because her mum walked out when she was 11 and never came back, and will have colleagues moaning all day tomorrow that their kids and partners made zero effort...

It's such an unnecessary day and I wish it would be scrapped, along with Fathers Day and Valentines Day!

I agree with this. I can't see the point of it all anymore either. It all needs consigning to the history books! It's a huge waste of money, as people are expected to buy cards and gifts and flowers. (In addition to having to fork out for family birthdays, and for Christmas...)

And, as has been said, the people who have no mother, or no father, or no partner, end up feeling really shit, when loads of other people are gushing all over facebook and instagram, and posting pics with said family members, and ALLLL the pressies they had!

We have Grandparents day in September too! More bloody fuss and cost! And they have mother's day and father's day too FFS!

Sorry to derail it a bit. Thanks for the
When I had dc, we started going out for lunch on md with my parents, so it's more about the event than kids celebrating me. I already know I'm top human. Last year obvs vanished.

Today was wondering if little cat had passed peacefully in her sleep or whether the vet would need to be involved. Kids were a bit preoccupied.

I think for some mothers day has turned into a competition.
"Look at how much Timmy got me for mothers day" (Timmy is a dog)

I've had a lovely Mother's Day and had thoughtful gifts from my teenage/adult daughters. I've also seen my elderly mum. It has been a lovely treat in a difficult time - we need these small celebrations.

Why get rid of something that many enjoy? I don't celebrate Easter, I'm not asking you not to. People who are underappreciated by partners are often subject to the same treatment by their children and if that is the case then they really ought to work on their relationships.

Itsigginningtolooklikelickdown. I thought simnel cake was for Easter, not mother's Day?

I don’t generally feel appreciated through the year by my children, they are pretty self centred at their ages but this morning I woke up to tiny little arrows pointing from my bed to the living room and 2 home made cards that said they loved me. It was really nice to see that they even thought about Mother’s Day and it felt damn good they wanted to make me cards. It was that little pick me up after months of lockdown, homeschooling and feeling like all I do is nag my kids. I don’t think we should abolish it, I think we should teach our children how much even small gestures can make the people that care for them feel appreciated even for one morning a year, and why it’s important to show your appreciation for people who do so much for you

I don’t agree it should be scrapped but I do agree that the women upset are probably upset a lot because they’re generally not treated especially well or they have bizarre expectations.

I like flowers and chocolate - tulips from the supermarket and a homemade card are perfectly adequate for me. But my DH is kind and caring all the time. I don’t expect or want breakfast in bed etc. More extravagant stuff would be odd.

We usually have a nice lunch with PIL which is low-key and very pleasant.

It was, originally , a church event ' the mother the church' Mothering Sunday.
Rubbish ! It was the only day óf the year women and girls in service could go home to visit their mothers

Lol that's like saying, 'if you don't like the fact I didn't get you anything for Christmas, let's just stop celebrating Christmas'

I don't think it should be scrapped. I do think it should return to its origins though.

Nope! It was lovely for me. Back off with your doom and gloom. If your dh didnt make an effort he's a knob!