DP is still asleep. DC haven't even acknowledge that its mothers day.

[yellowbeaker]

I do so much for all of them. I am 11 weeks pg and shattered, its been a really rough few weeks for me with incredibly low iron levels and awful nausea/headaches/fatigue.
Last night the kids wanted to go get eggs and bacon etc for breakfast from the shop so I took them.

I woke up before everyone else so enjoyed some quiet time with a book. 3 hours later DP is still asleep and my 2 teens are just doing their own thing. No hugs, no cards, no breakfast in bed. (although DD has tidied her room which was rancid so I guess I should count my blessings!)

I am dressed. I feel like fucking off to my mums house with her gift on my own and leaving them to get on with it. I have never expected anything much, we have a rule in our house that gifts have to be home made or thoughtful gestures (like running me a bath, or dd gave me a foot massage a few years ago) I really appreciate stuff like that but it just feels like no one cares or can even be bothered to be nice. Facebook is filled with pics of everyone else being spoilt.

I just feel a bit hurt that DP couldn't set an alarm and rally the kids around to do something nice.

Unfollow EVERYONE on FB. Then you can choose who to look up and see what they are up to. Much better for my MH.

So many posts like this on mumsnet today it makes me feel really sad.

Ah I know how you feel. Single parent and got flowers and a text from dad and ex MIL but that's it, no one to be there and do something special on the day. Hope you had a nice day with your mum x

Feel your pain, I do everything for this family as well as having a very stressful job. All house chores, bills, every thing, cooking, cleaning, everything. Today I thought someone would at least make me a cuppa tea. Fuck all. Well tomorrow they getting beans on fucking toast for tea. Spent the day decorating, after I made Sunday lunch for everyone - but I am so ungrateful, he cleaned up after it. I am just a maid clearly. Sorry, it’s mumsnet, I needed to vent on this thread!!!!!

@Workinghardeveryday that’s terrible. Do you have a partner? How old are the kids?

@justilou1

Go to your Mum’s. Don’t even say goodbye. Have a lovely time with her. Women are invisible in their families anyway.

Speak for yourself.

Yes, go to your Mums. just two Mums together, both having a peaceful and nice time.

My kids are adults so dh had put the cards in a drawer and forgot .
He brought me a cup of tea and I asked him where my cards were.
Can’t understand mothers that get cross but don’t say anything.

I am very sorry these things have happened to you.

Let me wish you the very best, and an extra wish for having all your efforts so unappreciated.

Stay well!

I got fuck all. It hasn't been mentioned. I sent my mum a card and I rang her , had a lovely chat, made plans to meet up when restrictions are relaxed. We're not big on fussy presents, I'll take her some flowers when we meet up at Easter. I didnt get as much as a hug from my kids. It feels shit doesn't it?

@Defmy

Unless religious, Mother’s Day is just a day on the calendar

Mother's Day isn't a religious holiday, that's Christmas!

Mothering Sunday in the UK is based on religion.

Mothering Sunday has been celebrated on the third Sunday in Lent, in the UK and Ireland, since the 16th century. The date varies in other parts of the world. Many countries follow the US and celebrate Mother's Day on the second Sunday in May.

It began with a religious purpose, and was a originally a day to honour and give thanks to the Virgin Mary, also known as Mother Mary. Such celebrations required people to visit their 'mother' church.

Lacucuracha
Yes, he woke up at 11 in a mood. I just needed to vent. It’s one day!! He is currently sat eating pizza. I made the dough for him in between decorating. no interest what I am having to eat. (Can’t eat pizza, not allowed diary). I wouldn’t normally give it a thought, it’s Mother’s Day though!! FaceTime my mum this morning and got told how ugly I am and need filler and shit. Don’t know how I didn’t cry. I know she would be mortified if she thought she had upset me, but I just didn’t need to hear today of all days how I look old ☹️

My kids are twins 10 and 15 year old

@Workinghardeveryday why are you working a stressful job (or any job!) and also doing all chores, cooking etc? I’m not surprised you want to cry, you’re doing too much.

And your mother! She sounds like a piece of work too!

@Lacucuracha don’t know, I just think I was brought up to do all these things makes you a good mum although I know really that is not true! Just feeling sorry for myself I suppose and very tearful. Wouldn’t normally tell anyone but so nice I can on here! Thanks for your post xx

Was disappointed in my two older teens, but DD1 came through tonight.
I was wished happy mother’s day and made 2 cups of tea by DD1 during the day.
DD1 has exams coming up, and shops are closed.
At 9:30 tonight a beautiful handmade card and home baked cake appears. Thank DD1!!! That’s all I needed, just some recognition of the day.
DD2 made no effort, just wrote in the card her sister made, I am not impressed.

What did you arrange for Father's Day?

don't do Hallmark Holidays, days spaced out in the calendar for purely commercial reasons, I much prefer an unexpected and random card, gifts /flowers etc, as it means I have been thought about and not just a date entry that people have been told to observe.

@areyoumeop

don't do Hallmark Holidays, days spaced out in the calendar for purely commercial reasons, I much prefer an unexpected and random card, gifts /flowers etc, as it means I have been thought about and not just a date entry that people have been told to observe.

likely works out much cheaper too 🌺

My best Mothers Day when the kids were younger - DH took them camping the night before and they got home at 3 in the afternoon. I slept late, had a bath and read my book.
Go and see your Mum and have a lovely visit. Don’t be sucked in by performative happy families on FB.

performative happy families
This is a red herring and what people tell themselves who live with bad-mannered, selfish people.

Be sure to return the favour on Father's Day

@MrsKeats

performative happy families This is a red herring and what people tell themselves who live with bad-mannered, selfish people.

Not necessarily. I think there are (broadly) 4 types of family

1. Those that get on well and help each other out all year round but don't much bother with days like Mothers' Day
2. Those that get on well and help each other out all year round and make an extra fuss on days like Mothers' Day
3. Those where mum feels like an ignored skivvy all year round and being ignored on Mothers' Day is the final straw (these are the ones we get most MN threads about)
4. Those where mum feels like an ignored skivvy all year round but the family do make an effort on Mothers' Day, usually to huge fanfare.

I'd personally rather be in family (1) than family (4).

Well I'm in 2 then and I don't like all the slow drip drip I see on this site which is eroding the idea that there is a good way to behave.
I see a lot of excuses for horrible behaviour and making no effort at all.

I had a massive tantrum Sunday
My DS1 woke up shouting
DS2 did make a magnet but didn’t sign it !!!!

It’s all bullshit , we have these high expectations
They are never met
Our day is ruined
Onwards OP x