To think this is actually worse than No Mother's Day gift?

[NoNotEver]

Woken up early this morning by 3 year old. Resist getting out of bed by turning on the TV for him, but it's no good, he's bouncing around raring to go. OH sleeps in another room, but could surely hear him stomping around the landing and being loud.

Came downstairs to find a card and a little plant on my desk.
Nice gesture I guess, he got me something, more than some years.

But actually, it kind of felt like a slap in the face.
He knew that I'd be up before him, in fact he knew that even after we all got up he wouldn't be up for a considerable time afterwards, such that he'd better stick it on my desk as he'd not be getting up to give it to me until well into the day.

I'd sooner he got me nothing and pretend he forgot it was mother's day so as not to effectively be saying:
"Have a nice mother's day, on your own with three kids, while I stay in bed."

Me and my DH take it in turns to get up with the kids. I got up yesterday, he got up today.

Why aren't you agreeing to take turns? Have you talked about this with him?

There are a lot of women disappointment on Mother's Day... He will have thought getting you a card and gift was doing his bit. It probably wouldn't have occurred to him to try to ensure you had a perfect day.

Dont overthink it.

If you're really bothered, go wake him up, thank him for the card and gift, and ask if he's getting up now so you can have a lie in.

I think many men are uttet pisstakers every day of the year with looking after their on kids. My partner was utterly awful when the children were little. I guess it just seems worse on a day where things might be nicer for you but look at it in a more holistic way. Why can't he share getting up at the weekend?

This isnt about mothers day, its about him doing his share of the early mornings all year round. That's what you need to address.
I get it, I've been there.

Go and wake him up and ask him to look after the kids while you go back for a rest. Remind him that it's Mother's Day and you would have liked a lie in.

Talk to him about how selfish he is.. tell him. And when he gets in the inevitable mood, ignore him.

I agree with another poster, why don't you take turns getting up?
I'm up today but only because DH had to work last minute, otherwise I would have had the lie in.

Send your kid in to jump on him!

Let me guess - he works hard all week and needs to catch up on sleep at the weekend? Selfish arse.

Go and wake him up then!!

And from now on bring in a system where you get a lie in on Saturday and he gets one on Sunday, or similar. If he doesn't get up on his day, go and wake him up and go back to bed.

DH can't leave the house at the moment (he's overdue an operation). I bought my own Mother's Day card weeks ago. Handed it to him yesterday evening to write on behalf of our disabled son. Got up this morning - it's still on his side table, unwritten. Hmmmmph.

Open the door to his bedroom and encourage the 3 year old to practice his trampolining skills. Later in the day have an adult conversation about him getting lie ins.

Why didn’t you send the three year old to jump on him instead?

The only thing I ever really wanted for Mother’s Day when mine were little - and I was married - was a lie in. Regularly didn’t get it!

Divorced now, and was brought tea in bed by my 12 yo. 7 yo also doesn’t prevent me from having a lie in.

It comes good in the end!

But yes that’s a bit shit of your DH!

How old are your DC?

Why does he sleep in another room?

@ChocOrange1

Go and wake him up then!!

And from now on bring in a system where you get a lie in on Saturday and he gets one on Sunday, or similar. If he doesn't get up on his day, go and wake him up and go back to bed.

Yes it sounds like a system is needed where you both get a lie in!

Why didn’t you go and wake him up? DH and I have an agreed system of lie ins so that we both have a chance to catch up on sleep.

We got up together and dh cooked me breakfast on behalf of ds.YOU should be getting the lay in not him! Make sure you do the same to him on Fathers Day

My DH is working a long shift today and got up at 6am and helped the kids make cards and decorate, made pancakes with the kids for me. Then let me sleep until the latest he could and woke me up with coffee and pancakes. He didn’t buy anything but the effort was way more than a shop bought box of chocolates. YADNBU.

Tell the kids to go to him, go and tell him you're getting back in bed and its mother's day and you would like a cup of tea? I mean yes it'd be better if you didn't have to tell him definitely, but that doesn't mean you should grudgingly carry on. Get back in bed OP!

YANBU. Unless you're about to drip feed that he works nights, he should have got up and either let you have a lie in or just been around and made a fuss of you (your choice!).

Even in our house, where my wife gets 99.5% of the lie-ins (I'm just much more of a morning person!), she still gets up on my birthday and Fathers Day.

@EggysMom

DH can't leave the house at the moment (he's overdue an operation). I bought my own Mother's Day card weeks ago. Handed it to him yesterday evening to write on behalf of our disabled son. Got up this morning - it's still on his side table, unwritten. Hmmmmph.

That's rubbish. Hadn't he heard of Amazon or online shopping?

Accidentally mistake him for the plant pot he got you and water him whilst hes in bed ...he would obviously have to wake up because you cant sleep in a wet bed lol.

It is pretty shit, but why didn't you take the toddler in to daddy and say "Get up you lazy bum, it's Mothers Day, I'm having a lie in, here's dc raring to make mummy breakfast".