Page 12 | Can anyone say they have 100% stuck to covid rules for the last year?

fedupandgrumpy000 · 2021-03-11T15:18:55+00:00

Just out of curiosity, can anyone say they completely have? e.g. no meeting up in groups slightly more than 6, sneaking the odd visitor in, not keeping a 1m distance when socialising, going out more than once a day in 1st lockdown... etc etc, just interested to know really!

leiaskye · 12/03/2021 11:40

No, not 100%.
I have been to my mums when she was really down, but consider that as looking after a vulnerable family member. We’re not in a bubble though so not sure if it properly counts.

Met up with my daughters friend & her dad in the park the other week. I did offer to take both girls myself but he declined the offer. His daughter suffers with anxiety & really needed to see her best friend (my DD).

Not going to sweat it.other than my mums, I’ve been in no-one else’s house, & always try to stay 2m away from everyone. Not always possible, especially in supermarket though.

Imnotdeadyet · 12/03/2021 11:42

@Firstbellini

My workplace recently took out the hand sanitisers because they are too expensive and took down the protective screens because customers find them unfriendly. I am mixing with huge numbers of people at work and am in the clinically vulnerable group. As a consequence I don’t see much point in following the rules outside of work.

Firstbellini that sounds frightening. Mind you I do carry hand sanitizer With me everywhere and always have done

lubeybooby · 12/03/2021 11:42

Yes, 100%

I just prefer knowing I haven't contributed to any potential spread

Loopyloututu2 · 12/03/2021 11:44

The problem is - and it has been said here many, many times - is that one person's "careful, informed autonomy" is another's "being put at risk."

If there's one thing this pandemic should teach us, it is that we need to be aware NOT of the risk we suffer from others, but the risk WE pose to OTHER people.

Too much self-centred thinking ...

It’s not necessarily self centred thinking though, that’s a sweeping generalisation. Going to a party in someone’s house could be considered selfish yes. But say, allowing your ds who is feeling mentally very low to visit his gf? Is that selfish? Or is it just making your own assessment of whether the MH of your dc’s is more important than the extremely minuscule risk of this leading him to spread covid to someone? Or allowing your dd to meet two friends in the park and get a takeout coffee? Or going out more than once a day because you are having very dark thoughts and exercise is the only thing that helps?
There is a difference between people who are happy and able to stay at home for a year and those who take small risks in order to stay sane and well.
I find the people who are very judgemental and sarcastic are the ones who hold others to their own standards despite not knowing anything about individual circumstances.

If you’ve stayed at home and followed the rules 100% good for you! I haven’t and I’m ok with that and wouldn’t change anything I’ve done. It was necessary at the time.

stablefeet · 12/03/2021 12:06

@Firstbellini

My workplace recently took out the hand sanitisers because they are too expensive and took down the protective screens because customers find them unfriendly. I am mixing with huge numbers of people at work and am in the clinically vulnerable group. As a consequence I don’t see much point in following the rules outside of work.

That's bloody awful! But - isn't it even more reason to follow the rules outside of work? If you're more at risk of picking up the virus wouldn't you take every precaution you could to protect people around you and your friends and family?

HugeAckmansWife · 12/03/2021 12:07

imnotdeadyet.. No, you probably didn't kill a granny. That's the point I'm trying to make, that you were clearly in a difficult situation and having had a Negative test, you did what you could.

Morporkia · 12/03/2021 12:12

Yes. DH is immunocompromised so have been extremely strict with shielding etc in order to protect him. My MH has suffered more in the last few weeks mainly due to MIL thinking that because we’ve had first jabs we’re ok to travel across 2 counties for a visit 🙄

HugeAckmansWife · 12/03/2021 12:13

But I'm not putting others at risk without their consent. My dad is CEV but after lockdown 1, he resumed seeing me and my kids. It's his choice to undertake that risk and should the worst happen I would not feel guilt. I respect his autonomy. I only see additional people who choose to see me and who are taking a similar approach, I'm not out randomly hugging strangers.

bridgetreilly · 12/03/2021 12:15

I had a handful of illegal hugs. No regrets.

I don't think I've done anything else, though.

cerealgamechanger · 12/03/2021 12:15

Us. To. The. T.

bridgetreilly · 12/03/2021 12:16

There has been plenty of scope within the rules for distanced outdoor meet ups or even window visits.

LAst summer you were even allowed socially distanced indoor meet ups for a while. It was glorious.

AfternoonToffee · 12/03/2021 12:18

@MeltsAway

I think the harshest comments have come from the '110%' people throwing around 'selfish twats / fuckers' to those of us who have chosen to retain some careful, informed autonomy

The problem is - and it has been said here many, many times - is that one person's "careful, informed autonomy" is another's "being put at risk."

If there's one thing this pandemic should teach us, it is that we need to be aware NOT of the risk we suffer from others, but the risk WE pose to OTHER people.

Too much self-centred thinking ...

Again, going back to my experience, my rule breaking of being in a group of 9 outside posed incredibly less risk than the numerous people who have needed to be in and out of MIL's house, which have been within the rules.

CarlaH · 12/03/2021 12:18

Yes

TheFuckingDogs · 12/03/2021 12:21

Some of you are really gonna struggle to re-enter the real world 😢

Frequentflier · 12/03/2021 12:27

@TheFuckingDogs

Some of you are really gonna struggle to re-enter the real world 😢

Why? I don't think so. I expect to get my vaccine next month and by May DH will have had his second. Surely it makes perfect sense to wait until we have a 80% chance of not dying before we break all the rules.

Kindperson · 12/03/2021 12:29

Yes 100% I have. And I have reported people who traveled from tier 4 to visit my parents in Somerset. However, it's all relative and sometimes people need to take a calculated risk for their own ot others wellbeing and I wouldn't judge them for that.

AlfonsoTheTerrible · 12/03/2021 12:48

@TheFuckingDogs

Some of you are really gonna struggle to re-enter the real world 😢

Why?

I am looking forward to life returning to a semblance of normal and have a list of things I want to do / see when it's safe to do so.

Firstbellini · 12/03/2021 12:59

‘But - isn't it even more reason to follow the rules outside of work? If you're more at risk of picking up the virus wouldn't you take every precaution you could to protect people around you and your friends and family?’

My friends work in similar crappy jobs where they are at high risk in the workplace. Other than the family I live with, my family are at the other end of the country so I haven’t seen them.

sunflowersandbuttercups · 12/03/2021 13:04

Nope. I only know one person who has. I also don't know anyone who's had COVID.

The only person I know who's followed the rules 100% is my dad, who hasn't gone into a single shop or building since March last year. He leaves the house daily for exercise but doesn't do anything else.

FatAnneTheDealer · 12/03/2021 13:06

Absolutely not. Many of the rules were/ are arbitrary and stupid. Covid did not rob me of the ability to think critically.

I am, and have been, both careful and respectful. I am confident that I have put no one at risk at any time (which is, after all, the point of the rules). I am neither a murderer nor a "selfish fucker".

I have reported @DebbieGetsTheJobDone because I think her remarks about mental health are a disgrace and although she probably won't be deleted, she ought to be ashamed of her comments.

LadyDanburysCane · 12/03/2021 13:07

@TheFuckingDogs

Some of you are really gonna struggle to re-enter the real world 😢

No I’m out in the “real world” every day for work and THAT is why I follow the rules. My working means I could catch it so I don’t break the rules and risk passing it on.

I can’t wait to get back to normal and hug my daughter, see my brother etc but not until it’s allowed and safe.

LadyDanburysCane · 12/03/2021 13:13

I also don't know anyone who's had COVID.

Whereas I know many people who have had it. All but one of them is a member if school staff, a police officer, a care worker or a school pupil. Several hospitalised. All still with us thank goodness.

18% of the staff at my school have had covid. One seriously.

RizzleRazzle · 12/03/2021 13:16

I have broken the rules a couple of times. Went to see my grandma when she was diagnosed with cancer and I've seen my mum a couple of times when I wasn't supposed to for walks.

RaspberryCoulis · 12/03/2021 13:24

Nope, did in the first lockdown. Then when it all started again in autumn less so, since Christmas not at all.

Obviously i'm not breaking into closed shops or restaurants. But the kids have had friends in over the last few weeks, my hairdresser was here this week giving us all a haircut, i've had a friend in for coffee, taken teenage DD to the shops with me rather than going alone, and completely ignored the Scot Gov's silly rule about not leaving your local authority area.

FireflyRainbow · 12/03/2021 13:30

Nope. I did until this lockdown then my son got ill and needed surgery and we had to stay in hospital for bloody ages and it was shit so i hugged my mum and sister who aren't in my bubble 😱 I don't feel i did wrong.