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Can anyone say they have 100% stuck to covid rules for the last year?

374 replies

fedupandgrumpy000 · 11/03/2021 15:18

Just out of curiosity, can anyone say they completely have? e.g. no meeting up in groups slightly more than 6, sneaking the odd visitor in, not keeping a 1m distance when socialising, going out more than once a day in 1st lockdown... etc etc, just interested to know really!

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Fieldsofstars · 12/03/2021 06:50

Yep!

HugeAckmansWife · 12/03/2021 06:50

But we will never be 'Covid free' unless you literally sealed everyone inside for a month with a supply of food and absolutely no exceptions to being allowed out, including life and death emergencies. I'm assuming and hoping no-one is suggesting that as an option. Whilst we are shopping, working, travelling to work, to swap kids between parents, deliver things, the virus will spread 'legitimately'. The rule breaks on here are minimal at best. No one has said they as a massive gathering and ten went out huffing over people. Those who haven't seen anyone for 18 months and are proudly saying 110% don't make me feel ashamed of myself, or guilty or anything else, just sad that so much fear (much of it misplaced) has been created, not o speak of the nasty judgemental element.

TheKeatingFive · 12/03/2021 06:53

Hell no

zxy12 · 12/03/2021 06:56

No. I've kept to mask wearing, shopping alone and not seeing friends inside. But I've had walks with three friends and I've started seeing my elderly parents inside. They've had both vaccinations. Sometimes it's a task that may fall under care of a vulnerable person, such as fixing their computer or tv. Other times it's not and it's coffee or lunch.

MaxNormal · 12/03/2021 06:56

No I have not. Mostly broken the stay in areas rules but there's probably others.

sashh · 12/03/2021 06:59

Yes, and it is hard.

ChocOrange1 · 12/03/2021 07:27

@FenceSplinters

It makes me so sad to see how many people haven’t followed guidelines. I’ve not seen my elderly parents for 18 months 😔
Covid guidance has only been around for 11 months, so 18 months is not just due to that. You hadnt seen them for 7 months off your own back anyway (including Christmas 2019?) Presumably they've been vaccinated now so you could go and see them on 29th March
DipSwimSwoosh · 12/03/2021 08:07

I meet more than one friend for a walk occasionally. That's it. Not seen friends or family throughout otherwise.

MintyCedric · 12/03/2021 08:18

@YanTanTethera123

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

HugeAckmansWife · 12/03/2021 08:29

Fipswimswoosh but why not? Unless CEV there's been plenty of options within the laws and guidelines to see people in various iterations of groups, singly, outside, etc. There's no glory or medals for doing it 'best' when it serves no actual purpose.

marsmars · 12/03/2021 08:32

@happymummy12345

Please seek help

MeltsAway · 12/03/2021 10:10

What I find really disturbing about some responses on this thread is the way that those of us who have followed the rules are being cast as somehow "holier-than-thou" or suspect in other ways.

It's very "mean girls" sneering at the "goody goodies."

HugeAckmansWife · 12/03/2021 10:27

I hope I'm not coming across that way. I just genuinely think that many people have jettisoned all judgement and common sense and are making themselves ill with anxiety when it is not necessary or sensible. I think the harshest comments have come from the '110%' people throwing around 'selfish twats / fuckers' to those of us who have chosen to retain some careful, informed autonomy.

LadyDanburysCane · 12/03/2021 10:52

@shinynewapple21

I have to say I cannot understand when posters are saying they haven't seen their elderly parents for 18 months unless they live in different countries .

There has been plenty of scope within the rules for distanced outdoor meet ups or even window visits.

I work in a school - no masks, no social distancing. I feel that I am a “dangerous” person for people to see and there is no way I am putting my elderly FIL (asthmatic) and his wife (under cancer treatment) at any additional risk. FaceTime serves us just fine and safely.
Imnotdeadyet · 12/03/2021 10:57

I can't .

A few weeks ago my carer got.asymptomatic.covid. So I had to.self.isolate.and test. My test.was negative.so I got.ready.to do my 10 days.at.home.

I had recently been discharged from hospital for.a.serious skin infection related to.diabetes . The wound still not right, so GP wrote a prescription for me.over.the phone and my carer contracted me to give me number of volunteers who could do collection for.me but they were busy and I needed them right away as.prone to.sepsis. I didn't know anyone near n I felt.i could.ask.so I 🚶to pharmacy.to get.them

I know.was.wrong but either I'd have got.sick or.I'd be in a serious panic attack as monumental health issues were playing up.badly and I couldn't qccess my weekly .group.therapy. I.was.feeling suicidal

Imnotdeadyet · 12/03/2021 11:02

I was terrified my friends (one of who lives near me) might see.me.outside.and report me.as it.was.on my FB about needing to self.isolate. But I didn't know who else to.call. I do have a parent.with a car.but my friends don't know that I have issues with that parent.cos of.past.abuse.

I probably.did kill a.granny but when am in that panickd.state (I have complex PTSD) I go into survival mode and can't think of anyone else

TabbyM · 12/03/2021 11:05

Yes, not wanting to drown in my own lung fluids / or cause other people to,

Imnotdeadyet · 12/03/2021 11:22

I did end up telling my friend and saying "think am gonna get fined for this!" I. didn't want t check rules and whether i could be prosecuted, I hope she would give me some.reassurance so she said she would look it up or ask someone and get back to me but it's been a few weeks now and everything fine

Loopyloututu2 · 12/03/2021 11:26

No, I haven’t. I’ve done the best I can. I don’t look down on people who have though - my dm has but she has a CV dh, completely understandable that some would stick to it rigidly to minimise their risks. I don’t really know anyone else who has 100% stuck to “the rules” though.

Imnotdeadyet · 12/03/2021 11:31

@Loopyloututu2

No, I haven’t. I’ve done the best I can. I don’t look down on people who have though - my dm has but she has a CV dh, completely understandable that some would stick to it rigidly to minimise their risks. I don’t really know anyone else who has 100% stuck to “the rules” though.
Exactly!
Imnotdeadyet · 12/03/2021 11:32

@TabbyM

Yes, not wanting to drown in my own lung fluids / or cause other people to,
With all.due respect, none of us want that
MeltsAway · 12/03/2021 11:34

I think the harshest comments have come from the '110%' people throwing around 'selfish twats / fuckers' to those of us who have chosen to retain some careful, informed autonomy

The problem is - and it has been said here many, many times - is that one person's "careful, informed autonomy" is another's "being put at risk."

If there's one thing this pandemic should teach us, it is that we need to be aware NOT of the risk we suffer from others, but the risk WE pose to OTHER people.

Too much self-centred thinking ...

Firstbellini · 12/03/2021 11:36

My workplace recently took out the hand sanitisers because they are too expensive and took down the protective screens because customers find them unfriendly. I am mixing with huge numbers of people at work and am in the clinically vulnerable group. As a consequence I don’t see much point in following the rules outside of work.

Imnotdeadyet · 12/03/2021 11:36

@MeltsAway

I think the harshest comments have come from the '110%' people throwing around 'selfish twats / fuckers' to those of us who have chosen to retain some careful, informed autonomy

The problem is - and it has been said here many, many times - is that one person's "careful, informed autonomy" is another's "being put at risk."

If there's one thing this pandemic should teach us, it is that we need to be aware NOT of the risk we suffer from others, but the risk WE pose to OTHER people.

Too much self-centred thinking ...

Some.of us didn't have a choice but to break the rules are though. I didn't
Imnotdeadyet · 12/03/2021 11:40

@MeltsAway

I think the harshest comments have come from the '110%' people throwing around 'selfish twats / fuckers' to those of us who have chosen to retain some careful, informed autonomy

The problem is - and it has been said here many, many times - is that one person's "careful, informed autonomy" is another's "being put at risk."

If there's one thing this pandemic should teach us, it is that we need to be aware NOT of the risk we suffer from others, but the risk WE pose to OTHER people.

Too much self-centred thinking ...

We are not all.self.centred.

Covid isn't the only health issue out there. Am not gonna risk my health just because of another deadly health condition out there..I went to four to breaks he rules and am now proud that i did that time, but what.else.could.i have done. In was very careful, wore a.mask, used hand sanitiser

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