AIBU to have been upset when my DH mentioned he was going to send a txt to a female he works with who has recently had a baby to say Happy First Mother’s Day? Bit of background this same female stepped in when we split last year and started writing a list of things he would take from OUR home and things he would need to buy. We had already made this list, knowing the items we had in our home! Even if we hadn’t he is in his 40’s almost 20 years older than this lady! Had his own house and was a single parent when I met him so not a man child who had never been responsible for himself before! We sorted things out with him admitting to gambling, and crossing an emotional line with this same colleague who he regards as a friend. This woman would often cry to him in the workplace etc. After flipping it round and asking him to be totally honest and tell me how he would feel if I was crying on another mans shoulder or comforting another man so often he realised just how emotionally invested they had both become in each other. The apology came and one of the ground rules for us getting back together was that he would only txt her when it was work related. Reason for this was she was txting at 7am weekday mornings or late at night. So aibu for going a little crazy when he said he was going to txt her at the weekend to say Happy First Mothers Day? For context he has sisters who have children and he NEVER txts them to wish them a happy Mother’s Day and also never txts our close female friend who’s son is his GODCHILD to say it either.
Sorry, first time posting but I am being made to feel like I’m being unreasonable here.