AIBU to get son’s hair cut

[fedupslummymummy]

I have an autistic DS who is 17. He has a huge sensory issue with hair and not being able to get his hair cut is distressing him immensely, so much that he’s starting to pull his hair out in clumps. He is now hugely self-conscious and wears a hat full time. He’s also very anxious about going back to college this week as he knows people will comment.
For background info he won’t let me anywhere near his hair...I clippered it for him during lockdown 1 and he was traumatised both by my inept barbering skills and the feel of my ancient clippers on his head.
A good friend is a hairdresser. Hearing his plight she has offered to come round and try and salvage his hair. I appreciate it’s at huge personal cost and I’m immensely grateful.
I mentioned it to my parents...DM is aghast as “it’s against the law and he needs to learn to wait”. DF is a bit more pragmatic and says I need to take a common sense approach and do what I think best. So WWYD??

He is pulling his own hair out and is vulnerable so this would fall under care and support for those who are vulnerable. I’m very much for people sticking to the rules so that we can get out of lockdown etc but not at all costs and tearing us hair out is a sign of significant distress so I would fully support your friend coming round. You can open the windows and wear masks to minimise risks.

Hope it goes well and he’s ok OP.

Great update. ..glad he feels so much better.

Well done OP, if you can get a dog clipped within the rules (for wellbeing) then surely that applies to a human with sensory issues.

@fedupslummymummy

I have an autistic DS who is 17. He has a huge sensory issue with hair and not being able to get his hair cut is distressing him immensely, so much that he’s starting to pull his hair out in clumps. He is now hugely self-conscious and wears a hat full time. He’s also very anxious about going back to college this week as he knows people will comment. For background info he won’t let me anywhere near his hair...I clippered it for him during lockdown 1 and he was traumatised both by my inept barbering skills and the feel of my ancient clippers on his head. A good friend is a hairdresser. Hearing his plight she has offered to come round and try and salvage his hair. I appreciate it’s at huge personal cost and I’m immensely grateful. I mentioned it to my parents...DM is aghast as “it’s against the law and he needs to learn to wait”. DF is a bit more pragmatic and says I need to take a common sense approach and do what I think best. So WWYD??

Just do it and have the decency to keep your mouth shut.

Don't go around making a thing of it