To be annoyed about lockdown poem posted in my FB running group feed

[rookiemere]

I probably am , but then I feel I am not.
I am a member of a FB running group. It's been wonderful- never met anyone in person, but its women only and people post pictures of their runs, and generally talk about running related matters. When I am finding lockdown circumstances tough, it's the only feed that I look at.

So just now a lady has posted a schmalzy poem about how our DCs will get through lockdown, how no one will ask what grades they get in 20 years time - err yes employers might actually do that, and they'll have happy memories of doing jigsaws with their families and clapping for carers. Usual nauseous stuff, I think resilience may be mentioned as well.

I actually have the rage as a result. It's a running group. I am on the running group to escape from thinking about coronavirus. Not all DCs will get through this unscathed, it's delusional to think they will. I personally know of quite a few teens now with depression and school refusal because of the circumstances.

I know I should just ignore it, but I'm just so angry that I can't just have a happy covid free place. Should I post something or ask to get it deleted?

A 'how nice ' reply should do the trick.

We need the poem for context. Obviously 😬

I’d probably ignore but seeing as you have the rage, I’d maybe reply and say ‘understand the sentiment, but this group is my one Covid free safe space, genuinely don’t want to see anything about it on here’. Then watch the cats start flying...

I’d feel the same. It’s fuck all to do with running and you have every right to expect a group about running to be free of covid related bullshit.

I’ve been in a few different fb groups and the only ones that are worth sticking with have clear guidelines about sticking to the topic you’re all there to discuss.

Can you report it to the admins and say it’s not relevant/appropriate?

You could point out that a running group is not really the place for that... But that usually starts a bun fight about how everybody is suffering and you need to look on the bright side and things like that poem uplift people and she was just trying to be positive- jees, can nobody be positive anymore.

It's probably not worth it.
Take heart that no doubt a lot of mners roll their eyes at those kinds of posts and agree a running group isn't the place to share that.

@AGirlCalledJohnny I'd love to post the poem, but it would take a lot of writing. Perhaps an indication of the type of poem is that is is prefaced with:

A beautiful reminder that our kids are strong, resilient and very special...❤️....

I don't want to cause ructions, but she has read the attitude in the room wrong and I'm narked.

@AnneLovesGilbert yes I might report to the admins, that's probably the best thing to do. I do that a bit with non suitable posts in the Positive Coronavirus Group I'm in too, that's only meant to be jokes and fun, but then you get rubbish about masks and covidiots and suddenly it's less fun.

I'd ignore it, it's annoying but Facebook requests for things to not be posted always end in a ridiculous amount of back and forward and drama.

That's why I love my midcentury furniture group so much - that sort of shiz would get you banned on there. If the guidelines allow then report. If not, hide the post then you won't even need to see it again.

I've reported it. Let's see what happens.

Is the group pre-moderated? Does an admin have to publish posts before they go up?

Just respond by clicking the frowny face then block all posts from her (you can do this in groups) and move on without her crap.

@AnneLovesGilbert no not pre-moderated.Not really a need to do so until now, it's a private group where you pay to run a certain distance then get t-shirt at the end of the month.
It's been so good for me during lockdown as I love seeing the pictures round the UK of peoples scenery from their runs and thinking about if I'd like to go there post lockdown.

Of course coronavirus inevitably trickles in if people have to self-isolate or post vaccine or covid itself and that's fine. But to bring it onto the board unnecessarily is simply not on, in my view, maybe everyone else is fine with it.

A little ‘what’s this got to do with running?’ Under the post might help? Or, if you are right and she has read the room wrong, the best things is just to ignore and hopefully everyone else will too and then she’ll just stop it.

It seems to have disappeared now. Equilibrium restored.

I don't get how some people simply don't understand that a) coronavirus does not need to be the focus point of everything and b) their views are not universal .

I probably wouldn't say anything but I find the type of person who posts these things re. Pandemic tends not to be very negatively affected by it...

I agree i hate positivity to.

Yanbu. Glad it has disappeared. That would have given me the rage too. Go for a run - you’ll feel better.

Glad it's disappeared. Deep breaths! It's important to have non Covid obsessed outlets so hopefully the group will now get back to normal.

I'm with you OP and glad it's gone

Sod off to Hallmark Cards might do the trick.

I understand why it would annoy you but I'd ignore. Brexit and Covid arguments on DM quickly get angry and nasty so the last thing I'd want is to make things uncomfortable to socialise with the group.

My kids are exam age so a poem about their results not mattering would piss me off until they got into uni or passed enough GCSEs to study what they want for A-levels.

I'm an admin on a sports-related group and we have a fairly zero tolerance approach towards this kind of wank (basically, WTF has this to do with rugby?).

If it's gone now, hopefully you can assume that an admin has got to it, but pls remember FB admins are people with lives and sometimes said lives get in the way.

Yes my daughter has developed agoraphobia and extreme anxiety. Is that in her poem?

Thanks for those who understand.

Maybe my reaction is disproportionate, but the running group has really been a saviour for me since last May, there's plenty of other places to post coronavirus gubbins.