To be annoyed about lockdown poem posted in my FB running group feed

[rookiemere]

I probably am , but then I feel I am not.
I am a member of a FB running group. It's been wonderful- never met anyone in person, but its women only and people post pictures of their runs, and generally talk about running related matters. When I am finding lockdown circumstances tough, it's the only feed that I look at.

So just now a lady has posted a schmalzy poem about how our DCs will get through lockdown, how no one will ask what grades they get in 20 years time - err yes employers might actually do that, and they'll have happy memories of doing jigsaws with their families and clapping for carers. Usual nauseous stuff, I think resilience may be mentioned as well.

I actually have the rage as a result. It's a running group. I am on the running group to escape from thinking about coronavirus. Not all DCs will get through this unscathed, it's delusional to think they will. I personally know of quite a few teens now with depression and school refusal because of the circumstances.

I know I should just ignore it, but I'm just so angry that I can't just have a happy covid free place. Should I post something or ask to get it deleted?

Totally agree! I run to think about stuff that isn’t covid related! Glad they’ve removed it.

@Seriouslymole already did my long run this morning!

It sounds a bit wank, but is your scrolling finger broken? Just move on. I get sick of Covid-related crap, but if I lost my shit every time someone sent me an irritating meme, I’d have deleted my parents and most of my friends from WhatsApp by now.

It’s a Facebook group - block her and let it go.

And just to be clear, for people like @picknmix1984, your daughter is still ‘ strong, resilient and very special...❤️’ as twattish poem lady said. Developing issues such as anxiety or depression while living through a situation the likes of which the world has never seen before, or that situation exacerbating existing issues, does NOT mean that you aren’t special or resilient. Surviving those conditions every day is absolutely a form of resilience.

People talk about past hardships the nation has been through, but they almost all had such a huge social element, WWII especially; I mean, women who might otherwise be alone with their husbands and children gone would gather with other women in person possibly every day or night to be doing group things for the “war effort.”

I would hate it too but it sounds like you've done bloody well to get this far without any reference to anything else on the page.

As much as I agree it was totally inappropriate to put it in the group, I do think you've overreacted. Imagine how that person might feel now...

Who cares how that person feels now!! It's a running group not post a shit covid poem page.

I've not been on MNet for months because every other fucking post was about covid!! Why they couldn't keep to covid threads I don't know.

Not you OP, I feel exactly like you do!

I have invalidated myself equally as the OP for posting in this thread:

I just mute people who peeve me off. Mostly people who post "vaguebooking" status updates on their wall. If the post is illegal or against group's rules like with the OP's running group, then just report.

People waste too much energy on social media, and half of the threads that get posted here on MN don't actually need to be posted. This is because the issues can be dealt with on FB etc itself.

I’m on a cooking group and this sort of crap is banned there. It’s strictly to discuss recipes, techniques, ingredient switches, etc. Naturally we had an influx of new members last March/April as the “banana bread” types all wanted to ask advice and post pictures of their achievements...yawn... but apart from that it’s remained very much Covid-free and for that I am very grateful. Anything non-cooking gets reported and deleted in a jiffy.

Nah, I've deleted a few pages on my FB because the mods themselves went from posting sarcastic fun items to 'be kind' word salad wankery. A couple of others are on the brink for using their supposed comedy platforms for 'and now let's talk about anxiety issues'. Bloody hell, I read these pages for a bit of escapism, not a Internet group-hug situation .

Is it that big cringe "what if" poem?
If so then YADNU

I discovered post still there. Admin not got to it yet or perhaps just going to leave it. Yes we have been lucky that this hasn't happened before. I think most people automatically get the ethos of the group, I don't think it's too precious to think that covid-19 doesn't need to permeate all aspects of our lives.

@MargaretThursday it's all about how in 20 years time we should remind our DCs of all the jolly times painting rainbows and doing jigsaws. Some people like that sort of thing - as the DP of a teenager who's missing all the normal sporting activities and school trips he would normally have enjoyed- I don't.

This sort of thing is the reason I don't do FB. I hate this mawkish stuff with a passion. Anyway, I've seen it posted elsewhere [someone else complaining about it!]

Prepare to lose thy dinner:

In twenty years time...
People will not ask the children of 2020 if they caught up with their studies.
They will not ask them what grades they made, despite the year off school.
They will ask them with wonder ‘what was it like?’
They will ask them ‘how did you cope?’
‘How did you feel?’
‘What do you remember of those days?”
They will listen in awe to the tales of clapping on doorsteps for the medical workers.
They will sit open-mouthed to hear of daily walks being the only life we saw and how much we missed human contact and gatherings.
They will be amazed to know about empty supermarkets, online concerts, birthdays spent on a screen and a life lived inside.

They will listen, then sit back with amazement and say, ‘Wow. You went through so much.’

So think about what you would like your children to take away from this whole year.
Tell them they are not behind.
Tell them they are not missing out.
Tell them they are extremely special indeed and they will be forever made stronger by this unique time.
Tell them catching up is not even a thing because they have grown so much in so many other ways.

Remind them too of the fun stuff, the family jigsaws, the window rainbows, the zoom bingo.
The feeling of safety and togetherness amidst the chaos.

Let them take that thought with them through life.
Change the narrative now and it will travel far.

Tell the children they are not behind.
They are special.

Yes that's the boyo @TellingBone. It's just so mawkish.

Jeez that's mawkish. That said the first bit probably does have an element of truth in it, (missing the point totally I know) I do think we'll look back in fascination.

Crap to put on your running club thing though

I like the poem and agree with the basic sentiment that we must not tell our children that they are a lost generation. But I agree a a running group is not an appropriate place post it.

I'm with you Op. I hate anything like this kind of crap. Especially when posted on an inappropriate place, and then I'm made to feel the bitch for saying something!

Well I'd agree that people won't ask in the context of lockdown "did you catch up with your studies"? But they will be asked what grades they made, on job applications and things like that. And even if they're not in 20 years time, the grades they get will effect where they are in 20 years time.

It's in the same ilk as the ones that come out from "headteachers" saying "oh the SATS marks don't matter because you're all wonderful people". I don't think the children are at all fooled, but parents fall for the sentiment.

I also don't think it's fair on the children who have worked hard to keep up as best they can because if you think about it, it's actually, I'm not sure I'd quite call it mocking their efforts, but it's dismissing them.

I have to say my ds has learnt a vital skill in lockdown. He's learnt to lie in after 13 years of getting up before 7am.
This is going to cause us many arguments from next week.

Thank you for posting that TellingBone!
It made me actually LOL 😂

She may not have intended to post it on the running group - it’s fairly easily done to post something to the last group you were browsing rather than your own feed.

@Bubbinsmakesthree no she knew as said it wasn't directly related but so good that she felt she had to post .

@MargaretThursday good luck with getting your 13 year old up tomorrow, mine has learnt the life skill of using google translate for German tests, well good luck with that when he goes back, which isn't properly until after school holidays as we're in Scotland.

Sympathies, OP. Our local community group all swooned over a poem by a child early in in the first lock down, which contained the line ‘if you get it, you’ll die and that’s a FACT!’ I felt as though I’d fallen into an alternative universe, hundreds of comments about how talented he was and apparently no-one concerned about his misunderstanding of the situation. I haven’t seen a single COVID-inspired poem I admired.

One of my pet hates is people posting completely irrelevant stuff on Facebook pages that are for specific things... when I see a post that says “Not XXX related, but....” I literally want to scream ☠️

It's still there but has about 10 likes as opposed to the usual 40 or so that run based posts get.

@autumnboys that poem sounds truly hideous and how worrying that DCs think that covid kills everyone when it really doesn't.

@autumnboys
I've noticed over lockdown if you want your dc to get likes for something they have done (or in some cases clearly parent has done) is post in community groups "my dc thinks they're rubbish at this, please give them likes to show they aren't".
Which kind of begs the question that if they think they are rubbish with whatever they've posted (which I've never seen anything that isn't clearly excellent) whether it's a good idea to suggest to them that likes = they're good as some point that will come back to bite them.
I've been tempted to put a scribble up and say my 18yo thinks this is rubbish please like it to show it isn't, but I don't think it would be appreciated.

We had that poem on a local group today. At the last count at least two people had put a "feeling sick" emoji, and I think it's been removed.