to get him fired

[obviouslynamechang]

OK I don't know if it would result in firing...

Basically I am friends with a woman I worked with, we were really close friends at one point. She has made no effort and the friendship has become non-existent mainly because of her DH.

Her DH is quite outspoken on social media. He posts a lot of elitist and outrageous things including racist things - not explicitly "i hate black people" but more like "black people are not as clever because..."
he is factually abusive - he doesn't let her do things, go out, speak to people - she always refers to it as a form of love and thinks it's amazing, often trying to tell everyone how amazing her husband is and no one else matters. (We are late twenties btw).

He's just posted something that incites hate speech on social media and a lot of other colleagues (we all have gone on to new jobs) have messaged me, shocked. Especially the black members of our group which my friend is (was?) in.

Would it just be stupid to anonymously send it to his work? He works for a large city company which needs to uphold its standards. He has a well paid high position. His social media is set to the same as an influencer so he can track things so it's a public business account.

Not making it public sorry I meant making his work aware.

I would want my boss to know if any of my colleagues posted these sort of views.

I have attempted to talk to him first about it but I get shot down alot

I think, since you've tried to educate him, and he is refusing to listen. I would report actually.

Definitely report him.

I don't think she would become more abused - his abuse is currently coercive. Only her close friends know about it, he's controlling. He is not violent. She would say he isn't abusive at all
You're not the one in the relationship though are you, so you really don't have a clue what it is like for her.
By all means, report it if it is required, but at least admit the real reasons for it.

Do it.
Or if you feel like it will get tracked back to you, PM me the details and I will do it for you

They both sound pretty abhorrent and I would report for sure. Racism just cannot be tolerated.

Yea send to his work and also report to the police if it inciting racial hatred (or whatever the specific offence is).

Maybe he’ll learn a lesson about what is and is not acceptable.

The abusive relationship is another issue. Could you make a Claire law application in respect of her so that if he has a history she is informed?

Definitely report. I think it's time to write off the friendship, too.

I am sure her life sucks and I've tried but she brings it on herself

Grim. You acknowledge she's in a coercive relationship, but blame her for it.

Block them and move on

I think if your colleagues have reported it to you as their manager then you have an obligation to take if further
If they told you as an equal , then they should be reporting it not relying on you
You don't like them so regardless just delete them , life is too short

Do it.

I am white and always thought it's enough to not hold racist views myself. To my shame I never gave racists much thought, just took any hint of it as a good reason to avoid them forever. Since meeting my partner he has really opened my eyes to the fact that it is all of our duty to not ignore it. I feel even more strongly now that we have a child.

Report him.

Do it! Fuck him.

Report him.

It isn't enough to do nothing. We all need to play our part in ending racism.

To ignore it is complicity

I vote do it too. Racism needs confronted anyway but as well as that, if he’s posting that kind of shit from an account linked to his business then his employers deserve to know.

I would also be reporting it to the police.

I'm of the position that if you don't report it you are complicit: you're not the one who's going to fire him and I don't give a shit what your ulterior motives are. If he's a racist he needs to be called out.

All those people saying to turn a blind eye really depress me.

@PeteWicksSexyPirate

How is “black people aren’t clever because...” anything but explicitly racist?! I would report in a heartbeat, I assume he wants to climb the greasy pole, imagine being a woman of colour working under him? Pffft.

Facebook (& Instagram) rarely removes racist content. I reported a racial slur and it stayed up as it didn’t contravene their community standards.

@obviouslynamechang I would report to his employer.

Do it, his behaviour is repugnant and shouldn't be ignored.

Hmmm I was the first poster on this thread and your subsequent posts haven't reflected well on your friend, I know she's in a coercive relationship but jeez...

I'm not white either so with ppl like that if they show racist traits I extricate myself from the relationship because I would HATE for them to day "well my Asian friend says" or "I have lots of friends of other races" with me in mind!

My friend is a big girl, at the moment his grip on her isn't too tight, I am sure it's worse with lockdown. I am sure her life sucks and I've tried but she brings it on herself. She has hurt me so much because of her 'priorities to her hubby'

Are you saying that it's her fault that she's in an abusive/coercive relationship?

@obviouslynamechang

Should probably add that I am not white. Hence why I might take it particularly badly.

Nah, you're not taking it particularly badly. He's an arsehole who deserves it to be sent to his employers.

I'd do it without hesitation.

That is beyond awful, sadly i am not suprised re Facebook

@TenaciousOnePointOne I think I accidentally reported your post instead of replying to it! Sorry

Report him.