Is DM being unreasonable? Harmless cause?

[WormingAround]

DH has ringworm confirmed by doctor. It’s in the centre of his chest.
Didn’t think anything of it until my DM said “oh my goodness how has he managed to get that it’s spread by skin to skin contact”.

Myself, DD and DSS do not have it.
DSS is in school (mum is keyworker) and DH sometimes plays football outside.

Is there a harmless explanation of how he’s caught it? I don’t have much knowledge of skin/fungal infections but we’re in lockdown so I suppose DM is suspicious of how he’s managed to catch it.

I feel stressed about it.

Thank you

And of course he is going to be hurt that you think so little of him. Do you think if you had ringworm he would quickly jump on the idea of you cheating? Or would he have more faith in you?
This isn't solely down to your mother, it's you as well

I get it, OP. I would have a similar reaction if it was me as I am also quite anxious. It gets those cogs going, doesn't it?

Maybe tell your husband what your mother said, in a sort of jokey, lighthearted way? I bet his reaction to that will calm you down.

I think your mum is trying to cause trouble here. Ringworm isn't an STI.

I've had ringworm before, definitely had no close contact with another person. Was single and living alone.

@justcannotwithyou - it certainly does! I really don’t want to even have the doubting thoughts but when someone throws it out there it’s hard to think clearly!

@Puddingypops - thanks. I don’t think he’s ever had an issue with athletes foot or any other fungus though so not sure that’s how it’s happened.

I suppose being out and about in the park with the kids, going to the shops etc he could’ve caught it from anywhere?

I think you should leave him - he's obviously cheated (and possibly with a domestic animal).

Sarcasm, by the way.

OP, this is ridiculous. Ringworm is extremely easy to catch, and your mother being interfering has made you think your almost certainly blameless DH has been unfaithful? Rather than stroking an unwormed pet belonging to someone else, or coming into contact with a spore-infused surface?

I'm assuming your mother doesn't like your DH and is stirring, but, anxiety or not, it seems to me quite mad for you to be taking this idea and running with it.

Years ago my then boyfriend caught it, working as a summer labourer for a landscaping firm. It’s easily done. ( well that’s what he told me 😉)
I would not mention your DMs comments to your husband; unless you have other reasons to be suspicious, that seems just hurtful for no reason.
Just follow guidelines - separate towels etc for him, lots of hand washing , no skin to skin contact of your own.

@FluffyHippo

I think you should leave him - he's obviously cheated (and possibly with a domestic animal).

Sarcasm, by the way.

He could have cheated with a cow. Quite common on cows. The hussies.

I think it's pretty worrying that your go-to reaction to a commonly-caught ailment is 'Oh my God, he must've cheated'.

You really don't need to have these thoughts, not about this. He doesn't have chlamydia or something, just good old ringworm, which he may have caught from literally anything.

It seems you can get it again years later, so maybe he did have it years and years ago and didn't think much of it (let's be honest, young people don't think much of these things and just go meh), it went away on it's own and now it's just resurfaced.

There are so, so many scenarios where this might have happened, and none of them include infidelity. Calm down and enjoy your weekend with your family and don't let your mother ruin it. I would however tell her you're not impressed by her shit-stirring when it comes to her own daughters marriage. The nerve.

And that goes for everyone on this thread who's reinforcing your anxities about this.

@FluffyHippo

I think it's pretty worrying that your go-to reaction to a commonly-caught ailment is 'Oh my God, he must've cheated'.

Ok, how about we don't rewrite history here? She thought nothing of it until her mother decided to cause an issue of it. A normal reaction from mum would have been "oh no, make sure to keep a big plaster on that as well as using the cream as the rest of the family and the cats getting it will be an actual nightmare".

My daughter got it on her arm a few years ago, no idea where from and no one we/she knew had it. I wouldn't be thinking affair if that's what you're worried about

Well if my DH had it it would never occur to me he was cheating
So why do you think that OP?

I have heard of people getting it from touching farm gates. He hasn't been out walking in the countryside

@VegetarianDeathCult

OP, this is ridiculous. Ringworm is extremely easy to catch, and your mother being interfering has made you think your almost certainly blameless DH has been unfaithful? Rather than stroking an unwormed pet belonging to someone else, or coming into contact with a spore-infused surface?

I'm assuming your mother doesn't like your DH and is stirring, but, anxiety or not, it seems to me quite mad for you to be taking this idea and running with it.

Agree completely with this

Thanks for all your replies. I know I seem crazy for entertaining the idea, I blame lockdown plus a lack of sleep with a 5 month old.
I think the reason I’m worrying about it as when you google it the first thing that comes up is “spread by direct skin to skin contact”. As we’re in lockdown I’m assuming he doesn’t have much in the way of that so unless cheating (thanks mum) how on earth has he managed to get it

I had ringworm 2 months ago - my dogs are treated and totally up to date

No idea where I caught it, was on my forearm

I've definitely not fallen on another penis

You can get it from reusing damp towels that haven’t properly dried out from their last use.

People often catch it from their own feet.

@WormingAround

Thanks for all your replies. I know I seem crazy for entertaining the idea, I blame lockdown plus a lack of sleep with a 5 month old. I think the reason I’m worrying about it as when you google it the first thing that comes up is “spread by direct skin to skin contact”. As we’re in lockdown I’m assuming he doesn’t have much in the way of that so unless cheating (thanks mum) how on earth has he managed to get it

All the other ways people here have listed, OP! Come on, do you usually listen to your mother to quite this extent?

Very easily caught from cats! Even if recent vet visit, cat may not have had it then but now be infected.

@WormingAround

Thanks for all your replies. I know I seem crazy for entertaining the idea, I blame lockdown plus a lack of sleep with a 5 month old. I think the reason I’m worrying about it as when you google it the first thing that comes up is “spread by direct skin to skin contact”. As we’re in lockdown I’m assuming he doesn’t have much in the way of that so unless cheating (thanks mum) how on earth has he managed to get it

But for me, as someone who isn't worried about this, that's not how I saw the responses on Google. You're only seeing it that way as you latch on to the thing that fits in with what your mother said and makes the most sense to your overly tired and thanks to her, overly anxious brain. In my currently calm state, the way I read the hits on Google, you may have caught it from anyone or anything. The skin to skin contact wasn't screaming at me "THIS IS THE ONLY LOGICAL SCENARIO". It's like when you stupidly Google anything to do with your health. Painful foot? Good luck, you're dying of cancer. Slight headache? Guess what, you have 6 months left.

It's confirmation bias. That's all.

@LaurieFairyCake

I had ringworm 2 months ago - my dogs are treated and totally up to date

No idea where I caught it, was on my forearm

I've definitely not fallen on another penis

Admit it, @LaurieFairyCake, you were riffling through a selection of penises with your forearm.