To want our house back to ourselves?

[JaneBond0007]

DH thinks I’m an “ungrateful bitch” for feeling this way as his Dad has been staying with us the past 3 weeks to help us with moving house and doing work on the new house. He’s staying with us as although only loves 30 minutes away he doesn’t currently have a car.
The first 2 weeks we were still living in the old house and doing up the new one and since Sunday have been living in the new house (surrounded by boxes)
Our bed isn’t up yet as room full of boxes so first night I had to sleep on the floor in one of the kids rooms as FIL on our large sofa.

I feel like a stranger in my own home and don’t even feel I can go sit in the lounge and put what I want on telly. FIL isn’t the easiest person to get on with as he has ASD so doesnt have a lot of social awareness eg has the tv blaring all night etc and I don’t feel I can go down and ask him to turn it down.
I feel like it’s DH and FILs house and I’m just an in conciseness guest. It’s not helping that there’s boxes everywhere which is driving me crazy.

So am I an ungrateful bitch who should be prepared to have FIL here indefinitely or am I right in wanting to be able to relax and have some alone time with DH in the evenings?

It is possible to be open to the idea that the OP may being a bit ungrateful without condoning the name calling. And then again refusing to communicate clearly with someone with a social communication disorder is quite bitchy. But really there isnt enough info to go on -OP may be being totally reasonable if FiL was supposed to be there two days to move boxes and assemble furniture, not so much if he's busy rewiring the kitchen or redecorating the downstairs.

What a dreadful way your husband speaks to you.

Decent men don't speak like that.

It depends what he's doing. If he's a tradesman who is doing days of unpaid work on your new home, plumbing in a new kitchen and bathroom, then you are being ungrateful.

If he has no useful skills and is just sitting on his bum moving the odd box, then there is no reason for him to be there and he should go home.

Tbh there is no reason for him to be living there anyway if he only lives half an hour away. Drop him home.

I don't know why you want to spend time with your husband if he calls you an "ungrateful bitch" tbh

Another one here asking why beds being up wasn't done first lol that's bizzare!

@User5768

For everyone who voted yabu, I think it’s sad that so many people have relationships in which they think it’s ok to call the other an ungrateful bitch.

I voted YABU because she absolutely is being ungrateful IMO.

[quote User5768]@jaffar so you think is ok for her dh to call her an ungrateful bitch[/quote]
Of course not. The question was if the OP was being unreasonable to want the house to themselves, not if the 'D'H was being unreasonable to call her an ungrateful bitch.

My response was about her actions and feelings, not his.

He's given up his time for free to help you, yes you're ungrateful. Unless you're paying him for his labour?

Alone time with someone who calls me an ungrateful bitch?! I think not.

OP hasn't returned so this is likely another one of their troll posts of which there are many