AIBU to be a little upset with this?

[Lillylolo]

Went to in laws family party pre lockdown (when we were allowed gatherings)

DH grandfather gave my brother in law money to get us all drinks (our table) brother in law got everyone a drink except me. Saying to DH there wasn’t enough. I didn’t make a big deal of it and got my own drink.

I still can’t help but feel a little out about it.

Am I being stupid?

BIL should have added to it to buy you all drinks to make grandfather feel good. If not he should have not had a drink himself!

BIL should have added his own money to make sure everyone was covered, if he was short. If he was unable to do so, then he should have declined a drink for himself (at least, that's what I would have done). You husband should have spoken to him about it at the time.

@Lillylolo How did your DH react??

Regardless, I would've left

cmon OP, it’s at least a YEAR later, why do you even still have this in your head? Not everyone likes you, it’s just life

What a nasty git. Id lose respect for him tbh. But really im guessing he's not done it with malicious intent. Hes probably one of those guys whos not very intuiative of human emotion.. and just thought u wouldnt mind if you were th one without th drink. Weird behaviour tho unless he has something against u. But i wouldnt waste my energy in this man hes just ur BIL not ur partner.

If your mil gives you gifts to give to her family and there's one short you wouldn't want to be expected to bugger off and buy an extra one would you? Why should he?
If my mil gave me cash and asked me to buy presents for her 6 nephews and it came to a few quid more I absolutely would throw in the extra money yes. What I wouldn't do is give 5 nephews a present and then say Sorry Jack, there wasn't quite enough money to get you one.
Its sad that sone people are so stingy that saving a few pence comes over and above humiliating another person.

At least now you know never to bother with the dicker again.

I don't understand how he knew the total of the drinks round. Unless it was literally five pints of Stella and he drinks there all the time. Surely you put the order in for six drinks, then find out the cost?

No birthday or Christmas cards or presents for him. What did DH say when you told him?

I don't understand how he knew the total of the drinks round. Unless it was literally five pints of Stella and he drinks there all the time. Surely you put the order in for six drinks, then find out the cost?
I was also thinking this. When youre in quite a large round you don't tend to know the total until the drinks are poured and its rung up on the till. And at that point he could hardly say oh ill have to leave the vodka tonic. Made me wonder if he purposely wanted to upset the OP for some reason and hadn't ordered it in the first place. Or maybe he completely forgot and just couldn't be fucked queueing at the bar again.

I don't understand how he knew the total of the drinks round. Unless it was literally five pints of Stella and he drinks there all the time. Surely you put the order in for six drinks, then find out the cost?

^This. It does sound like a deliberate snub, and it isn’t surprising that the OP was upset about it.

It was a long time ago, though.

Did everyone else just ignore it? I would've got up and got you the missing drink if I were there. It's all really strange and I'm not surprised it bothers you.

My brother in law did something similar to me. It was a dhs family Christmas night out 2 years ago. Dh and his brothers were buying in rounds for us all. However when it was one particular brothers turn he came back with drinks for everyone bar me. He went back and got me one when my dh said you’ve left bloomingroses out.

@RumJerrySailorRum

Ohhh someone’s pissed in your run haven’t they to get you all worked up like that.

Everyone is different not all elder people have more money, some do some don't. In my family we all fight to pay for drinks, but that’s just us.

In your rum* bloody autocorrect