To think it's very rude to ring somebody at 7.30 in the morning

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Unless it's particularly important or an emergency?

If everyone has their phones on silent, how do people contact you in an emergency? I wouldn’t expect a call before 8am unless it was urgent but then I’d almost certainly miss the call as I’d be doing breakfast at that time.

School call me for everything despite dh being the main contact. “Dragons, your dds don’t have lunch boxes”... me “right, I’ll call their dad to sort as he dropped them at school and probably has them in his car!” He also works right by the school, with flexible working and I work in a hospital.

I hate morning people, smug gits. Just because you’re up doesn’t mean the world is!

Yes, this!!! I’m a night owl and calling me up until midnight would be totally fine

If I had my phone on silent and had a missed call when I woke up later in the morning I would be very worried that I'd missed something serious. I would be livid if I rung back to find out that it was nothing serious but very understanding if it was a complete accident.

My phone wasn't on silent calls because strangely enough people don't tend to ring me at 7.30
Last year I started putting mine on scheduled do not disturb from 11.30 pm until 8.00am except for favourite contacts after I had phone calls in the early hours of the morning and no one there.
I won't get any wrong numbers, computer generated calls etc but still get calls from my my son and parents and closest friend if they need me.

What was actually the question OP?

@notacooldad

My phone wasn't on silent calls because strangely enough people don't tend to ring me at 7.30 Last year I started putting mine on scheduled do not disturb from 11.30 pm until 8.00am except for favourite contacts after I had phone calls in the early hours of the morning and no one there. I won't get any wrong numbers, computer generated calls etc but still get calls from my my son and parents and closest friend if they need me.

I used to do this but now mum has an emergency fall button Their call centres are everywhere so I have to have the phone open to all callers

That said, it's extremely rare to get junk calls as I don't give my number out unless I have to.

I don’t have my phone on silent as anyone calling in an emergency could be from a withheld number (late FIL’s care home was one, the hospital SIL works in is one and when the police phoned to contact me about something it was withheld).

Besides which people shouldn’t have to silence their phones just so other people can ignore basic manners. 7.30am is not a normal time to call with a non-urgent enquiry.

I think it's rude - calling at unsocial hours smacks of the attitude that their time is more important than yours and it's okay to interrupt you for trivial shit that can wait.
I'd complain. Getting called at 7.30 am makes people think there's an emergency. Even if a person sets their phone to DND, most would still allow the nursery to call simply because a call at that time indicates an emergency.

It really isn't rude to call at 7.30. It isn't the middle of the night.

I have a friend who will call early just to virtue signal. "Isn't it a lovely morning, I was just up and about..." The thing that bugs me is that I know most of the time she sleeps in.

She's like my cat. "If I'm up, everyone must be up" except the cat limits it to family only because she can't use a phone.

I remember being so damned tired when my DD was a baby (she didn't sleep through like DS did and had terrible reflux), so I do get where you're coming from! I'm weird though (normally up very early anyway due to shiftwork and kids) so a 7:30am phone call wouldn't really bother me. I have a few mates who are also up early, so we phone each other early to catch up before work/school run etc!

So, I guess it really depends on the person/situation. Some people I wouldn't dream of phoning v early/late (unless it is an emergency). Some people, I know work shifts and don't have a problem with it, so that is when we call each other (of course, it is agreed between us though!)!

YANBU, at that time people are usually either still asleep or rushing around getting ready for work/school.

MIL phoned at 6.45 one weekend on the landline to ask some mundane question that was not urgent. She was working that morning so was up early and couldn't understand the problem.

Drives me mad when people moan about their mobile ringing- put it on silent if you don't want to be disturbed. Take some responsibility?

Maybe, just maybe, people don't put their phone on silent because they are taking responsibility; for something/someone else.

I would hate to be woke needlessly but I can't ever leave my phone on silent as I need to be reachable by my 90 year old Nanna. At. Any. Time.

Op you are tired and convinced they are being rude so why ask on here?why not go back to sleep instead!
I'm sure they didn't do it on purpose.
Try to get some rest of a cup of tea and relax if you can.
Tonight,put your phone on silent.
Put it behind you,try not to let it ruin your day.

*woken

I think any time before 8 is rude, and potentially before 9 unless it's an important.

I have a toddler and she is not up yet at 7:30, I don't think that should be considered a universal time when everyone is awake.

‘Very rude’ hardly, thoughtless maybe, get over yourself OP

Very rude? No, it’s slightly inconsiderate.

DH does the nursery run so I can sleep in because I'm up with the baby through the night, they know that but chose to ring my phone instead of his.

Oh come on! You expect the nursery to remember all the parents' sleeping schedules?!

That said, I think 7.30 is a bit early to be calling with something inconsequential.

Yanbu, but I’ve often found when people phone at stupid o clock for non important matters it’s because they are up and running, don’t realise the time and just assume everyone else’s day has started.

Dh has often phoned home before I’ve even opened my eyes because quite often he’s been on the go since 4 or 5 am and forgets the time!

It's not rude, but equally, it's not rude not to answer

Call or text me between 21:00 and 09:00 and you better have a bloody good reason for contacting me. I would never contact anyone outwith those hours unless it was an emergency.

I really want to know what their query was!

If I put my phone on DND I would not include child's school / nursery.

But then if I woke up later in the morning to a missed call from the nursery etc I would have a heart attack!

YANBU - i'm getting sick of all the out of hours calls now - it seems to have creeped up on us.

I've put an automated message on my voicemail/messages saying if it's urgent to ring 999 and if it's not to contact me between 9 and 6.