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To want to know which of my children is lying

84 replies

Peopletry · 22/02/2021 22:08

I’ve been looking for my kindle for a few days.
Yesterday I Asked dd if she’d seen it and she said no.
Today I asked ds if he’d seen it and he said he thought he’d seen dd hide it under her bed.
I went looking for it again in dd’s room and as I got closer to her bed asked her casually again if she’d seen it.
She then tells me she thinks she remembers seeing it on the end of her bed. After some searching I find it well under the bed.
She then told me that ds had brought it in.

Obviously my biggest issue is why either of them would hide it and lie in the first place but I kind of need to establish what’s happened without falsely accusing one of them.
If ds js telling the truth and dd hid it, ds must have seen her do it and didn’t say anything at the time.
If ds hid it then it’s feasible that dd didn’t see the actual hiding but did see him bring it in and have it near the end of her bed.

I’m really disappointed that one of them a. hid it and b. Is trying to get the other one in trouble.

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ReverendRicketyCricket · 22/02/2021 22:10

Check the search history and that might get you closer to the answer!

Gcnq · 22/02/2021 22:12

Well I'm not a mind reader but I'd suspect DD seeing as it was her bed.

Is there something particularly adult-only content on the Kindle or is it stuff for the kids? Do they use/share it normally?

Aka is it worth the upset?

HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee · 22/02/2021 22:12

No need to get all Missy Marple. I wouldn’t do an interrogation or owt
Frankly so much else going on why pursue it.

Cocopogo · 22/02/2021 22:12

My DC do this all the time. I doesn’t get any easier.

ChonkyChook · 22/02/2021 22:13

I don't have a Kindle so please excuse if this is a stupid suggestion but are you able to check the device history and see what was accessed or read? Might indicate who used it last.

Kids do dumb stuff. If you can't work out who it was you might have to let it go. My parents were lovely but getting punished as a collective because of my dickhead thief brother caused a lot of damage.

Porcupineintherough · 22/02/2021 22:14

Honestly I'd just leave it.

LouiseTrees · 22/02/2021 22:14

I wouldn’t pursue it but my hunch is she is lying.

Lollypop701 · 22/02/2021 22:16

I’d punish both of them... with mine I’d know from the reaction who was lying. Personally I dole out worse punishments for the lie rather than the act but I obviously have issues! I think it’s ds tbh, probably a joke that ran away from him.

pallisers · 22/02/2021 22:16

I wouldn't bother trying to get to the bottom of things tbh. What I would do is tell them both - at the same time - that you have no time for lies and don't like when anyone lies. Personally I'd state confidently that I knew EXACTLY what happened my kindle and I never want that to happen again or any lies to be told.

They will lie again of course.

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Peopletry · 22/02/2021 22:17

It’s just a reading one-nothing of interest on there to them. They have their own tablets for games etc. and their own kindles for reading.
It feels more mean towards me or to each other but maybe I’m making too much out of it.

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FinnegansWhiskers · 22/02/2021 22:18

You have located it. Just use it and put it in a safe place once you’re done. I wouldn’t bother trying to figure out who hid it tbh. Life’s too short.

GoLightlyontheEarth · 22/02/2021 22:18

What was one of them (your daughter I bet) so keen to read on your kindle? That is the question!

ChonkyChook · 22/02/2021 22:20

You confiscated either of their devices or limited screen time recently?

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Peopletry · 22/02/2021 22:24

I’m constantly trying to limit screen time Grin
It’s on the same page it was last time I read it so I don’t think it’s been read. Which is why it feels quite mean to hide it-I’d be less bothered if they’d sneaked it away to use it

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Fredericasbarnacle · 22/02/2021 22:24

How old are your DC?

Even quite young DC can be asked to come to the table for a "serious" calm conversation. Just ask them quietly and say no one is leaving the table until they tell the truth. No need to be unpleasant, just quietly stick to your guns. It will get so boring after a while one of them will crack Wink

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Peopletry · 22/02/2021 22:27

Old enough to know better-dd 10 and ds 7

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faerveren · 22/02/2021 22:29

Well DD was lying when she had she hadn’t seen it, as she later admitted it was at the end of her bed.

Stormwhale · 22/02/2021 22:30

Would you expect either of them to be spiteful towards you? I hate to say it, but my gut says dd too, its a way too calculated for a 7 year old boy surely.

HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee · 22/02/2021 22:33

So because you think it’s spiteful,you’ll punish whomever it was?
On balance it really does not require any further hoo haa. Let it go

Welikebeingcosy · 22/02/2021 22:33

Well if your DD had been the one to hide it then your ds would have had to have been in the room at the very moment when she did hide it whereas if DS had hidden it there would have been more probability of DD being a witness to it as it was her bedroom. So in terms of probability it's more likely to have been DS who hid it. But it's up to you how you find out the truth if it's important to you.

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Peopletry · 22/02/2021 22:34

@faerveren

Well DD was lying when she had she hadn’t seen it, as she later admitted it was at the end of her bed.
This is true. My money’s on her tbh as why wouldn’t she had grassed ds up sooner if she knew. I’d just like to know why she did it.
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toocold54 · 22/02/2021 22:34

I think they may have both been involved- me and my sister used to do this a lot and make a pact to not tell on each other.

They probably just thought it would be fun to play on it at night or something so I wouldn’t be too hard on them but you could punish both of them by not letting them go on it for a day or two and explain that it was because they were dishonest and see if they own up then.

tinkerbellvspredator · 22/02/2021 22:36

DD hid our laundry in her wardrobe the other day because apparently she was angry. Kids do weird things. I just said not to do it again.

Shelby2010 · 22/02/2021 22:36

I would guess DS trying to get DD in to trouble. Only saying that because I’ve caught my 7y old doing it.

Is there a chance that DS had left it on the end of DD’s bed & it slipped down the side & neither of them could be bothered to retrieve it?

expat101 · 22/02/2021 22:37

I'm mindful of how my Hubby felt growing up with his sister. He often recounts different issues where his sister would lie her way out of something, and the finger would be pointed at him.

So bearing this in mind, if this has started in your household, it won't be the first nor the last time. while you might not get to the bottom of the whodunnit, I would just expect this is going to happen again and again.

It caused division in Hubby's family unit, with his mum siding with his sister. Best prepare yourself as much as you can, that a bit of story telling and trouble making is in the making.

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