To feel proud of myself today?

[Ellagaard]

I have PTSD, depression and anxiety. I've struggled all my life with confidence and my family have always treated me like the black sheep and never check in to see how I am.

I'm on my own all the time and for the first time in I can't remember how long I've actually managed to have a bath and brush my teeth, I know it's a small step and something people do everyday but I honestly cannot remember the last time I have done that.

I've cleaned up round the house and made myself a proper meal tonight.

I don't have anyone to talk to IRL and my family are ashamed of my mental health issues so I just wanted to come here and I'm not sure just say that I feel a little proud of myself today.

If I'm not alone in feeling this way I hope it improves for you I truly do because I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.

Well done - baby steps are the way forward, you should be proud, keep up the good work x

Well done that's massive! Really pleased for you :) I hope you can build on it in the future.

The fact that you are posting this demonstrates that you very much need external validation. Do you validate yourself? Do you know what I mean by that?

Absolutely well done. You should rightly be proud of yourself.

Brilliant work, OP! That’s wonderful.

YANBU - Well done you! Small steps towards better MH is amazing.

Brilliant!

Well done, OP 💐

Amazing work, I know how much mental effort it takes to do the smallest of things. So proud of you for all the things you have achieved today. Well done

@Eckhart

The fact that you are posting this demonstrates that you very much need external validation. Do you validate yourself? Do you know what I mean by that?

Sorry I'm unsure what you mean by that.

Thank you for your kind replies.

Go you, well done

Well done! Truly. You should definitely be proud of that.

Every time you let a little light in, there’s a little less darkness.🌻

Well done, the baby steps can be the hardest ones to take sometimes

@Ellagaard

Self validation is massively important for self confidence and self esteem (which sound like areas you've struggled with, unsurprisingly, because of the way you've been treated by your family, growing up)

Self validation is the bit of you that says 'I did this stuff for myself today, and I met my own needs, and I don't care what the world says: it feels GREAT.'

Have you got a part of you that feels like that?

[quote Eckhart]@Ellagaard

Self validation is massively important for self confidence and self esteem (which sound like areas you've struggled with, unsurprisingly, because of the way you've been treated by your family, growing up)

Self validation is the bit of you that says 'I did this stuff for myself today, and I met my own needs, and I don't care what the world says: it feels GREAT.'

Have you got a part of you that feels like that?[/quote]
Not at all, I never put myself first. I'm pretty ashamed of myself actually and never had any confidence throughout my whole life.

Thank you for your kindness.

That's great. Be proud of yourself

That's brilliant OP. Take one day at a time. And even getting showered can be a massive deal on some days when you are feeling like you do.

I’m proud of you too OP.

Having done that today, you know you can do it. That's the hardest bit done. You have achieved. It's do-able. That should give you a massive confidence boost. Have a go again tomorrow and your confidence will continue to blossom. You should absolutely be chuffed to bits that you've taken the first positive steps along this path

Well done Ellagaard. Remember this achievement and be proud of yourself

Wow they are huge steps. Well done. Remember this feeling for the moments you feel crappy x

Woohooo! Super news. Really happy for you. Keep going, OP! You’re stronger than you realise. Sending you best wishes now and for the future

Yay! Well done! I hope your dinner was nice? How do you feel? Xx

Well done Ellagaad, you’ve done amazingly well. I totally get where you’re coming from, I have Fibromyalgia & depression and I know how hard it is to do any self care. I had a short today and I’m so proud of myself. @Eckhart i have no problem with self validation but I still sometimes want to boast about my achievements.