To feel proud of myself today?

[Ellagaard]

I have PTSD, depression and anxiety. I've struggled all my life with confidence and my family have always treated me like the black sheep and never check in to see how I am.

I'm on my own all the time and for the first time in I can't remember how long I've actually managed to have a bath and brush my teeth, I know it's a small step and something people do everyday but I honestly cannot remember the last time I have done that.

I've cleaned up round the house and made myself a proper meal tonight.

I don't have anyone to talk to IRL and my family are ashamed of my mental health issues so I just wanted to come here and I'm not sure just say that I feel a little proud of myself today.

If I'm not alone in feeling this way I hope it improves for you I truly do because I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.

Thank you all so much, I'm crying at your comments.

I haven't got anyone to speak to in real life, no family or friends so it's nice to hear what you're all saying.

Ellagaard I am so proud of you. Well done. Do it again tomorrow because you are worth it

Bravo OP! 👏 👏 great job. It is SO hard to take those positive steps when you are not feeling well. You are right to be proud and I am really happy for you and inspired by you! Thank you for making me smile tonight!
Xx

Well done Ella! You’ve done well because you tried hard and succeeded! Remember to be your own cheerleader as well. Keep taking those baby steps- go for a walk, say hello to someone, smile. If you can buy some seeds and soil and plant them- watching something you planted burst into life is really satisfying and shows you that you can create anything you want to in your life. Keep trying and believing in yourself and even if you stumble keep going.

Woo hoo! well done you - onwards and upwards

Well done. Can I suggest you forget your family or go low contact as clearly they are shit? Think of yourself first, and you don’t need them.

Well done OP! Been there and I know how hard it is. You've takes some great, decisive actions to make yourself feel more comfortable, fresh and bright and that's how you deserve to feel. Things will get better xxx

Well done you! , what are your plans for today?, I would suggest at least one small thing that is just for YOU!, perhaps a bunch of daffs for your living room?, a new smelly for your bath?, dosent have to cost much, just something that says 'you're worth it!'

btw, I always remember what a lovely midwife said to me many years ago when I was struggling with life, 'never get up to yesterdays shit' meaning before bed have a quick tidy in the lounge and wash up the last bits in the sink, makes the start of a new day so much easier.

@Disneyforever1974

i have no problem with self validation but I still sometimes want to boast about my achievements

Can you define why? It's to get other people to tell you/think that you've done well, isn't it? ie to validate you. We all enjoy validation from others. It's not a fault; it's a sign of being a societal creature. No man is an island, and all that. A healthy psychological set up needs self validation, and enjoys validation from others. The problems come when the self validation lacks, and the person needs to rely on validation from others.

@Ellagaard

Thank you all so much, I'm crying at your comments.

I haven't got anyone to speak to in real life, no family or friends so it's nice to hear what you're all saying.

How was your day today?

Well done @Ellagaard that's such a good thing you have done for yourself. It's a shame your family have been so unsupportive, but by doing these baby steps, you can prove to yourself, as that's who that matters, you can do it

@Ellagaard don’t feel under pressure to do well every day or to accomplish too many things too often. Many times it’s one step forward, two steps back, and the mental effort can be exhausting.

Focus on being kind to yourself. If you can do one kind thing for yourself every day, however seemingly small, that is another ray of light in the darkness.

Well done that’s a massive step OP.

Keep posting and let us know how it’s going.

Well done . More than I manage most days .

Well done Ellagaard! One day at a time. Or one hour at a time on the harder days. I sometimes have one minute at a time days.

Hope tomorrow is a good day for you

Ella, that is really amazing! Trust me I get it. I struggle with self care too. I shower once a week. Last year during the long lockdown I wasn't really brushing my teeth and am currently in the middle of dental treatment (costing £1000) to try and rectify the damage. It's hard to explain how difficult it is to do these things. Be proud - you deserve to be and a big unmumsnetty hug.

well done to you!

@Ellagaard. How are you doing today?!

that's really good. How have you been today?