Would a little common decency have hurt?

[Weezapleeza]

My nephew lost control of his R/C car and it went into the road. A few seconds later a woman in a Discovery ran right over it but apparently without batting an eyelid. She didn't slow down or stop either before or after. It was like she'd just flattened it in passing. Then the acknowledgement came. A couple of minutes later she pulled up outside the drive, wound down her window, and asked him the most incredible question. "Did you enjoy that?" She was furious, and rude, and he was in tears. That seemed to give her an answer but all she did then was drive off again. No apology, nothing. AIBU to expect better?

[PurpleBiro21]

OP do you drive?

I’ve had a situation where a small ball has rolled from between cars in front of me, My heart leapt as I thought a child might run out after it and while I stopped in time it shook me up quite badly.

A swerve, a hard break can make you lose control.

Now, this might not be the exact situation but it is quite possible she was badly shaken.

[luxxlisbon]

@UrAWizHarry

People don't go into shock because they hit a toy in the road, FFS.

Balls/toys or even just rubbish etc blowing about is going to occasionally go on the road. If there was no damage shouting at a kid is not on.

I actually disagree. Hitting something out of nowhere can be incredibly shocking as a driver, if she didn't see the car the realisation that the boy could have ran out after his toy at the last second and also been hit can be a lot to process in the moment.

[JackieWeaverIsTheAuthority]

Ok 12 I wouldn’t replace the car. Younger child I would. 12 is old enough not to even need supervised with a RC car. But she still didn’t need to be nasty.

[Hepsie]

If it was a few seconds after, like you said in the op, I would imagine she was panicking and in shock. I'd be pretty freaked out if that had happened to me as a driver tbh

[RedGoldAndGreene]

I think she thought it was deliberate. There are numerous YouTube videos of cars driving over things like iPhones.

[Whatup]

Didn't this happen on breaking bad?

[LunaHeather]

12? I see why she thought it might be deliberate.

[imalmostthere]

At 12 I'm sure she thought it was deliberate. I would probably.
It's really irresponsible and dangerous. I think you should have been the one apologising 😑

[therealteamdebbie]

YABU to expect an apology from the driver!

You are entirely at fault for having a toy on the road in the first place.

You are rude and very entitled. Shame the 12 years old lost his car, but he's old enough to understand consequences for something like that.

You'd be the first to complain if he had met a r/c car whilst cycling, and had a nasty fall because of it.

[SunshineCake]

@Cassilis

I don't know much about Discovery's but you imagined it driving over the top of an actual car ?shockhmm.

She didn't say she drove ON TOP of it

I skim read it, sue me.

"She ran right over it"..

[Dutchesss]

Both in the wrong, you more so. A bad accident could have happened if she swerved. Also, I would find it unlikely that anyone would run it over on purpose and risk damage to their car. She shouldn't have shouted at a child though.

[LakieLady]

I'd have been furious and shaken, and would undoubtedly have had a sweary rant.

I hope I'd have had the decency to have my sweary rant at the adult in charge of the child though, and not at the child.

[nocoolnamesleft]

12? Yep, that's old enough to think it was done deliberately.

[Nith]

@Weezapleeza

That's what I thought. He made a mistake and his car went in the road and the way it looked she just basically drove right over it. Even if she saw it late she could have been a bit nicer.

If, as you say, she drove over it a few seconds after it went into the road, I don't see how it could have been deliberate; she really would have had no time to take any sort of effective evasive action.

I don't really get the sequence of events anyway. You say she drove away without stopping, but then pulled up outside the drive a couple of minutes later. I would have expected her to be at least a couple of streets away by then?

[MsTSwift]

I was with a friend and her dd let go of her scooter and a car ran over it. Friend was very apologetic to the driver who stopped and seemed shaken up. That’s the dynamic I would have expected in this scenario - the party at fault for the thing being in the road is very much at fault and on the back foot and should be apologetic.

[JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows]

But it was stationery for a good few seconds before she completely squashed it so it all looked a bit casual.

That's exactly what she should have done.

Imagine if she'd swerved to save a toy and killed a human instead

[Pinkdelight3]

YABU. Why do you say the toy car was sat still in the road as if that means she should've done anything other than run over it?? She absolutely should not have stopped for it or swerved, and she could well have been panicked thinking a kid was going to run after it. Then seeing your 12 year old son with an adult, I'm not surprised she was bloody fuming and had a go. This is not a toddler who lost control. It's a 12yo and adult who should know better and were letting a toy car sit in the road! And you expected her to be nice about it?? I'm glad she had a go because he'll have learnt not to risk doing that again. And the idea that she'd buy a replacement car is just nuts - what does he learn from that? That you can be neglectful and dangerous and get rewarded for it?!

[Purplerayhan]

At 12 he is 4 years away from being legally able to marry.
I'm sure it was an accident. Not.

[JamesMiddletonsMarshmallows]

@JackieWeaverIsTheAuthority

What??? Why????

To replace the one I’d run over?

That's like saying someone threw something at your head, and it broke, so you replace it.

[Pinkdelight3]

*nephew not son

[Terfy]

12! Nearly a teenager, not a clumsy kid who was just playing. If I was driving, and saw a youth driving his car on the road, I'm not about to get all mumsy and kind when he could have caused an accident.
I can totally see why she might have crushed it on purpose.

[NerrSnerr]

Did you actually see what happened? Are you sure he lost control? I'm wondering if he was purposely driving it into the road, especially as a 13 year old.

[NerrSnerr]

*12

[JackieWeaverIsTheAuthority]

That's like saying someone threw something at your head, and it broke, so you replace it.

That’s like something someone whose had a thunk on the head would say.