To want to divorce my hubby

[madddddd]

So bloody angry!!!
Hubby had a couple drinks tonight which is fine I have no issue with that. He came into bed and fell asleep. Also fine. But the stupid idiotic man decided to fall asleep half cut with a FULL glass in his hand! So he moved to turn over and splashed the whole bloody glass all over me, the bed and the duvet!!! Wasn't a small glass either. Didn't trust myself to wake him up cos I was so mad, so put a towel down to soak the worst of it off the mattress and I'm now on the sofa with a blanket!

Guess who will be doing clean up tomorrow!!! Certainly not me! He's totally oblivious snoring away like a walrus 🙄🙄

@LookingForSalt

Derbee if you’re educated and literate, it’s not a fine tooth comb that is needed. Things jump out at you and it’s irritating.

That's not actually true. Being a natural speller is not an indicator of intelligence or education, it's more to do with how the brain interprets visual information. It is quite possible, and indeed not uncommon, for a person of high intelligence and good education to have visual memory issues.

Not is it unusual for a person who can spell very well to be ignorant, as is so clearly demonstrated in posts like yours.

Clearly touched a nerve, but I didn’t say anything about intelligence. I said literate (as in competent at reading and writing) not intelligent.

[quote madddddd]@Derbee

So what is the purpose of pointing any of it out then?

I spelt a word wrong and I used a word that clearly some people don't like so what are any of you achieving by pointing it out?

Genuinely curious what mumsnet posters think their gaining by going on about it?
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I didn’t point any spelling or grammar mistakes out. If you had actually read what I’d said, you’d see that I AGREE that there is no need to point out spelling and grammar mistakes.

@VinterKvinna

They're ready when you are...

Brilliant!

@JackieWeaverIsTheAuthority

Hubby spilled a drinky over wifey. It’s no biggy.

Exactly. At least he didn't bring a load of picky bits to nibble on too.

If you’re educated and literate, it’s not a fine tooth comb that is needed. Things jump out at you and it’s irritating.

Bullshit. I have a first in English from a UoL university, draft contracts and proposals for a living, and couldn’t give a shit about typos on MN.

@Countrygirl2021

It's pretty ridiculous for a grown married man to be drinking so much he gets drunk and makes stupid decisions. I'm assuming he's not a 19 year old student? I hate the culture of normalising silly drunken behaviour.

Make him clean it up and promise it won't happen again.

Seriously? I’m 56 and occasionally do this. I’ve managed to raise a child to be a responsible adult too. And be a teacher for over 30 years.

@Derbee

You maybe agreed that there was no need to point it out, but you also said that if your educated and literate then they stand out and are irritating. Which to me is implying that to make those mistakes your both uneducated and illiterate, a little rude if you ask me which imo doesn't make you any better than those who are pointing them out

@Monty27

Hubby? No. Can't get passed that bit.

seems reason enough for him to be pressing for a divorce

@madddddd

Just for all you people saying I'm overreacting. Think you maybe took my post literally obviously I'm not actually going to divorce him 😂 it was the middle of the night and I was angry and tired and needed to vent.

For those asking if he has an alcohol problem, no he doesn't. He has a few drinks on a Saturday night and this is the first time that's happened.

And for those who is disturbed that I call him HUBBY if that's all you have in life to be outraged about then I'd say you have it pretty good! HUBBY HUBBY HUBBY 😂

He's awake and full of apologies and grovelling. He cleaned up. Made me a cup of tea and bacon sandwich so he's now forgiven

I bet you’re glad you posted OP! It was so obvious it was tongue in cheek but you can’t mention any ill of a man in here without mention of drinking problems, ducks in row, safe spaces, low standards.

It’s true what they say, “misery loves company”.

@Grilledaubergines

I don't know why I bothered 🙄 should have known better there's always something for the vultures to pick at.

@stackemhigh

If you’re educated and literate, it’s not a fine tooth comb that is needed. Things jump out at you and it’s irritating.

Bullshit. I have a first in English from a UoL university, draft contracts and proposals for a living, and couldn’t give a shit about typos on MN.

My point is not whether people give a shit or not. It was about whether people see them clearly or need to look through with “a fine tooth comb” as the OP put it.

[quote madddddd]@Derbee

You maybe agreed that there was no need to point it out, but you also said that if your educated and literate then they stand out and are irritating. Which to me is implying that to make those mistakes your both uneducated and illiterate, a little rude if you ask me which imo doesn't make you any better than those who are pointing them out [/quote]
I’ll assume the “your” is passive aggressive and let you have the last word.

Derbee

Being literate means being able to read or write, being intelligent and educated. Of course if you were literate you would not have needed me to explain that.

I think what you're trying to say is that you feel bothered by small things (like typos) to the extent that you miss the big picture. This is a sign of high anxiety, usually in a person who feels little sense of control. There are ways to address your problems without being rude or putting other people down. Lots of self help resources out there for people with anxiety. Take care.

@madddddd you say it was Jack Daniels? Sounds like my "hubby", so what are you doing sleeping with him!?!!

And FYI @MrsTerryPratchett, he hasn't got a drink problem and nor have I set my bar low. Just in case you're worried about it all.

"Being literate means being able to read or write, being intelligent and educated. Of course if you were literate you would not have needed me to explain that."

this paragraph makes my head hurt

Op, I call my man hubby. Once I was abused on here for referring to my husband as hunk.
You would have thought I was the lowest of the low, the way I was called names. I had written a post last Summer, all in all to give a heads up on a scam call my husband and I had received earlier that day. And fwiw, was called names because apparently I am 1, really stupid even though I knew it was a scam call, and 2, that I sounded really pathetic getting my hunk on the phone to deal with it. That wasn't the case at all, my husband wanted to challenge them,i had them on speakerphone so my jus8could hear how ridiculous this 'fraud department' call was (they were pretending to be from Barclays and wanted the last 3 numbers on the back of my card in order to cancel my card to stop huge transactions from John Lewis coming out) they even had called me from a Barclays number which they hacked into or whatever. I was just simply giving people a heads up because of it being a barclays number that you can Google and will come up as Barclays, some people people might fall for it.

I was treated terribly and actually in the end asked Mumsnet to remove the thread.... All because of a fraud call, and using the terms Hubby and Hunk. I mean, seriously!

Very sad.

@PopsicleHustler there does seem to be a relatively militant clique on here that views their DP as if they're some annoying sibling rather than a partner.

Some one they don't like and resent but are forced to live with, they also seem to have massive problems with understanding that not everyone hates their partner

@PopsicleHustler

Op, I call my man hubby. Once I was abused on here for referring to my husband as hunk. You would have thought I was the lowest of the low, the way I was called names. I had written a post last Summer, all in all to give a heads up on a scam call my husband and I had received earlier that day. And fwiw, was called names because apparently I am 1, really stupid even though I knew it was a scam call, and 2, that I sounded really pathetic getting my hunk on the phone to deal with it. That wasn't the case at all, my husband wanted to challenge them,i had them on speakerphone so my jus8could hear how ridiculous this 'fraud department' call was (they were pretending to be from Barclays and wanted the last 3 numbers on the back of my card in order to cancel my card to stop huge transactions from John Lewis coming out) they even had called me from a Barclays number which they hacked into or whatever. I was just simply giving people a heads up because of it being a barclays number that you can Google and will come up as Barclays, some people people might fall for it.

I was treated terribly and actually in the end asked Mumsnet to remove the thread.... All because of a fraud call, and using the terms Hubby and Hunk. I mean, seriously!

Very sad.

I don’t think I’ve ever cringed so much at a post in my life

Oh unclench. When referring to your husband all we're asking is please don't call him 'hubby' as it makes you sound infantile and pathetic. You are both adults and equal partners in a relationship. Call each other what you like but we don't have to hear the vomit inducing names. He's your husband, so refer to him as that. Its 2021 FFS not the 1950s.

Oh unclench. When referring to your husband all we're asking is please don't call him 'hubby' as it makes you sound infantile and pathetic. You are both adults and equal partners in a relationship. Call each other what you like but we don't have to hear the vomit inducing names. He's your husband, so refer to him as that. Its 2021 FFS not the 1950s.

Bad nights sleep?

@LookingForSalt

Derbee

Being literate means being able to read or write, being intelligent and educated. Of course if you were literate you would not have needed me to explain that.

I think what you're trying to say is that you feel bothered by small things (like typos) to the extent that you miss the big picture. This is a sign of high anxiety, usually in a person who feels little sense of control. There are ways to address your problems without being rude or putting other people down. Lots of self help resources out there for people with anxiety. Take care.

Errrrrm, too much crazy here to properly unpick, so I think I’ll just leave it...

Hubby. Hunk. Babe. My man. My soul mate.

Couldn't really care less what anyone else thinks .... 1950s or 2021 .... He is My HUBBY ....and I couldn't live without that gorgeous man ...

Apparently saying hubby is Infantile and pathetic....hahahahahaaaaha

@PopsicleHustler

Hubby. Hunk. Babe. My man. My soul mate.

Couldn't really care less what anyone else thinks .... 1950s or 2021 .... He is My HUBBY ....and I couldn't live without that gorgeous man ...

Apparently saying hubby is Infantile and pathetic....hahahahahaaaaha

Yeh it is but ‘hunk’ is just...revolting

Well those mountain of muscles are certainly not revolting. I enjoy those biceps everyday ....

It's just like names. Some you like, some you don't but they are just words. Each to their own. I don't really like the word tummy but I don't start retching in the street when someone else uses it and refuse to engage in the subject matter they are talking about.

Side note: can't get 'hunk' out my head now.

To the tune of chirpy, cheep, cheep.

Hubby hunk.
Hunky hubby, hunk, hunk.
Hunky hubby, hunk, hunk, hunk.

Your welcome.