Got called an OLD lady today. AIBU to be devastated?

[FuckImOld]

OK slightly lighthearted as I’m 49 but I didn’t think I looked old

Normally people are surprised at my age, although I now know they’ve just been being polite .

Shit. I’m just not ready to be an old lady yet!

Who called you an old lady a 3 year old or 33 year old..When I was a kid almost every adult looked decrepit.

When it's in relation to other people I think people are trying to be tactful. So if you're out with an older man, on balance it's probably less insulting to assume its a much older husband than to call someone's husband their Dad.

As a teen I thought everyone over 30 was properly ancient but then my Grandma was only 35 when I was born, which she likes to remind me of now I'm pregnant with my first at 33...

I have found that the young people I work with assume that I'm roughly the same age as their mothers!!
I challenged one about something that happened in school that day and she said ' school is different from your day, notacooldad! Its not like its 1998 when you left school you know! I actually left in 1981!!
Another one said I peeled potatoes like an old lady!😂

I once had a surreal day in town where the optician recommended a certain coating for my specs for the light sensitivity that start 'at your age' and then got asked by the pharmacist if I was pregnant. Simultaneously old enough and young enough.

I was in Tesco and had some alcohol in my basket. The young man mutted something about ID. I looked up and said pardon as I wasn't sure what he'd said. He said "oh no I was going to ask you for ID but actually its OK" 😂😂. I was about 35 and do look young for my age if I say so myself and it wasn't long before that I was genuinely being asked for ID.
Was also asked if I was pregnant on holiday by a waitress, I wasn't but very obviously had a young baby. Never wore that dress again 😢. I was embarrassed by that actually especially as she just shrugged when I said no just a big breakfast.

In my local swimming pool (pre lockdown), grandparents taking grandchildren swimming got a special price (much lower than a parent taking a child).

I asked if the grandparent had to be a certain age, and they said no.

So I asked for it for myself (39) and my son (4), as I’m technically old enough to be his granny (in fact, my cousin who is the same age as me became a gran at the same time as I became a mum).

I’m 50 - a child I teach told me recently he thought I was 21 (love him🤣), but the same day another asked me if I’d met Queen Victoria 🤣🤣

My DH was not impressed yesterday when he was registering for online banking, he went to the scroll down list for year of birth and there was only one year before his, it didn’t go back any further🤣 (he’s 55 so not totally ancient)

I recently took up knitting. My partner and DD call me old lady.
I'm 47 and wanted something to get me off the bloody screens.

Don't worry about it, it was teenagers. When I was 21 I thought 24 was ancient!

I'm sure they meant it as a joke Op

I'm 36 and have a baby 4 and 6 year old. When she the baby was very little a (very very very) old woman (hag) in the supermarket was talking to me about how nice it is to be a grandma. Then the penny dropped and I realised she thought I was one and was just taking the baby out for the day. Admittedly I was very very sleep deprived and looked like shit, but honestly, a grandma? Is that really the first assumption you'd make?

When my dad was in hospital aged 95 the nurse shouted over to him " here's your wife come to visit you". I was 50 at the time ...the cow!

I'm 43 and have grown out my grey hair. I have some wrinkles but from a distance I look much younger. I have to talk to a lot of male contractors in my job (2/3 of the workforce is male) and I get called "young lady" a lot. Even by men whom I reckon are the same age as me. It grates, to be honest.

My male best friend and I were discussing something the other day and I mentioned his mum. He then tells me that his mum isn't much older than me and we are basically the same generation. I'm 33, his mum is nearly 50. That made me feel old and not very impressed! For context, he is only 4 years younger than me.

@candle18

I was in a furniture shop and the woman trying to sell me a sofa referred to ‘your husband’. I was with my dad! Needless to say she didn’t get a sale.

I had this before. Mortifying

My mother, 75, was delighted when she got IDd for alcohol this week.
She was wearing her face mask and even when she told the security guard she was 75 he wasn't accepting it.
She had to rifle through her bag for her bus pass.

It made her day!

I was 40 and had an old man ask my 4 year old if she was being good for Grandma!!

I had 3 DDs in my 20s and then a 4th DD in my mid 40s.

When DD4 needed her first baby vaccinations DD3 (16) came along with us.

GP nurse got the three of us into her room and beamed around at us: ''how lovely - granny coming along to help out''.

DD3 and i were both totally and genuinely

We sorted it out obvs, but after we left the room i don't know who was more miffed: me for being called my baby DDs gran or my 16 year old who had been 'accused' of getting pregnant at 15

I think it might have been her actually. She was ranting in the car for ages. She was and

I kept saying it's nothing personal, some girls DO get preg very young ... . She said ''well how come you're taking it so personally that she thought you were a GRANNY then??!

Hmm ... Good point DD

My dad (70) is always being mistaken for my sister’s husband. She is 38. He loves it. She, not so much.

I had the opposite, I had my first 2 sons when I was nearly 18 and 22, Ive often been out with one or the other with their kids and been asked if they were my husband and daughters, they think it’s funny, I love it 😂

People have kids in their 40s, but people also have grandkids in their 40s, you can’t really blame anyone for getting it wrong. Though if I’m not sure I’ll always go with parent first, grandparents are much less offended being called the parent than the other way round.

I’m the opposite really. Had my kids late teen and early 20s. Now in my mind 30s I still look like a child, get ID’d all the time. I had to take dd2 13 to A&E and the nurse asked dd2 who I was. She gave me the strangest look when dd2 said I was her mum! She’s not even my oldest child and I work at that hospital!!

When my mum was a Teaching Assistant a little boy asked her how old she was. To which my mum replied 'Im 16' Anyway a look of shock and horror and shock came over him, and. He replied back to my mum.
" Are you nearly at the end of the numbers". 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Sorry, I laughed at a few of these, teenagers and children have no idea!!!

Mine was my mum, not a stranger, who for the record should know EXACTLY how old I am, we are very close and she had me just after her 20th.

On my 19th birthday she presented me with an antiaging skincare kit, absolutely fine. What wasn't fine was that she prefaced it with "now you're 21 Zachary..." yes she'd aged me by 2 years!!! 11 years on it still smarts haha.

Also while I was on mat leave with ds, we used to go out once a week for tea and cake, the amount of people she knows who would comment saying they didn't realise her and dad had had another child and was that what they wanted starting again now me and db are adults, don't they want to enjoy their freedom... totally ignoring the fact I was mid 20s and starting a family was completely reasonable for me?!?!?!?!

@canihaveacoffeeplease

I'm 36 and have a baby 4 and 6 year old. When she the baby was very little a (very very very) old woman (hag) in the supermarket was talking to me about how nice it is to be a grandma. Then the penny dropped and I realised she thought I was one and was just taking the baby out for the day. Admittedly I was very very sleep deprived and looked like shit, but honestly, a grandma? Is that really the first assumption you'd make?

Well, I think it serves you right for using the word “hag” to describe an old woman.

Reminds me of a conversation I had with my son when he was around 6, he keep saying to me how long it must have used to taken me to visit nanny (my mum who lives 30 miles away) and did I used to have to stay over and come home the next day, I said no, it used to take the same time as it does now and asked him why, and he said that horses and carts don’t go as fast as a car, obviously when I was young cars weren’t invented