Got called an OLD lady today. AIBU to be devastated?

[FuckImOld]

OK slightly lighthearted as I’m 49 but I didn’t think I looked old

Normally people are surprised at my age, although I now know they’ve just been being polite .

Shit. I’m just not ready to be an old lady yet!

I am really glad that other people have the experience of being mistaken for their own child's granny. I had my kids at 34,.36, 39. It is really horrible and insulting but maybe understandable if you live in an area where lots of women have children quite young, as I do.

When my son was 6, I took him to the park, he made a friend,who asked him if he'd come to the park with his nan. I was 42.

Feel a bit better now after the replies!

Context was I was jogging up behind a group of youngsters (probably late teens), just about to say excuse me to get past when one of them said ‘watch out, there’s an OLD lady coming up behind us’. I said ‘old lady? Thanks a lot young man’.

I was in my gym leggings, Nike hoodie and trainers with Joel Corry blaring out of my EarPods (song had finished just at the right time to hear him) feeling really good, strong, full of energy. Completely wiped out in an instant!

I have teens myself who compounded it by saying ‘well we see you everyday so don’t notice it but, yeah, you are almost 50’.

Little gits.

I had the opposite. I got ID'ed buying 2 bottles of wine on m&s just before Christmas. I was 42 then (43 now). The grin on my face gave it away before she even had my driving licence in her hand. Made my year. And I was sat in a church in Italy with my 1 year old 2 years ago and a lady came up to coo over her. My husband joined us and she asked if he was Nonno (grandpa). He was not impressed.

Thank goodness for my uncle, who calls me "girl" when we talk on the phone. I'm 57

I had an equally bizarre opposite experience...
In a wine bar watching my DS1 playing a gig, with my son's fiance, and my DD2. He was singing one of his own songs (quite well known where we live) and a guy next to me said' He's really good! You seem to know all his music, are you his girlfriend?!' DD2 and Fiance snorted and when I replied.. 'um no, I'm his Mum' the guy went bright red.

In his defence the lighting was dim... I'm 52 and definite do NOT look 20 something!!!

I got asked if I had any grandchildren last year. I was 39.

A child in the gym changing room once asked their mother if I was a man or a woman, so count on your blessings OP

Don’t worry OP. When I was about 30 we were at Glastonbury, and the late teen group nest to us shouted to their mates oh there are some really OLD people in the tents next door.

This was especially depressing on day 0, because we obviously looked a lot shittier 3 days in, by Sunday the teen girls were just looking at us pityingly.

DD2 got asked by a schoolfriend why her grandparents always collected her from school. It was DH and me both in our early 40s.

I was charged a reduced price on a boat trip a few years ago in York and when I asked why, I was told that it was because I was over 60. I was 49. DH thought it was hilarious.

My partner is 10 years older than me, we both work together. A very nice customer said to me, “I spoke to your Dad yesterday”, it made me smile.

Slightly ruined 2 days later when I was at work with my actual Dad and a customer said, “your husband has just told me to come and talk to you”. Yes they did mean my Dad!

@Oversize

Have shop assistants started calling you love or dear?

Yes. And it makes me want to rip their faces off. Fucking cheek.

I had a mixture of comments, at 30 pushing my newborn DD a lady approached me looked at the baby and told me off for being a school mum! I had similar said at the same age when I played bridge with my DM, a man asked me if it was passed my bedtime!, He thought I was 12! Not sure it was a compliment to be honest.

Then when I was in my mid thirties I went to the pub with a friend of a similar age, there was a young crowd in the bar and a couple of drunk men said "The bingos that way love" So clearly thought we were too old in our mid thirties to be in a trendy bar!

Oh God yes...the "young lady " thing...it's so weird.

My 3 year old asked what all the funny lines on my face were today. Wrinkles, darling.

@FuckImOld

Feel a bit better now after the replies!

Context was I was jogging up behind a group of youngsters (probably late teens), just about to say excuse me to get past when one of them said ‘watch out, there’s an OLD lady coming up behind us’. I said ‘old lady? Thanks a lot young man’.

I was in my gym leggings, Nike hoodie and trainers with Joel Corry blaring out of my EarPods (song had finished just at the right time to hear him) feeling really good, strong, full of energy. Completely wiped out in an instant!

I have teens myself who compounded it by saying ‘well we see you everyday so don’t notice it but, yeah, you are almost 50’.

Little gits.

To throw in a curve ball

Joel Corry looks he's made of plastic.

I think between the makeup and the plastic, a natural face can be confusing for people.

As you were jogging, they probably just said it as a "joke".

My first teaching job ( career changer) in a rough school in my early 40s.
Kid aged 13 “You must know my nan”
Total puzzlement on my part
“Well you are the same age”
Possibly true re the ages to be fair

Ds2 was with me at an auction and was bidding for an original Roberts radio against one other person. Ds (aged late 20's at the time) secured the radio and the other bidder came over to talk to him. He congrulated DS and said "what are you and your wife (nodding towards me) going to do with the radio are you going to renovate it?"
Me and DS were both speechless He has never gotten over it

Married at 42, DD1 arrived when I was 46.

On my 49th birthday I was in a shop with DD1, then 2, and was asked if she was my granddaughter . . . .

@TerribleCustomerCervix

I voted YABU as I can’t wait to be that type of old where I can stop pretending that I give a fuck about what other people think of my appearance.

I’m going to wear doc martens or dungarees to people’s weddings and pretend I can’t hear my kids when they moan at me.

That's me now. 😂 I just don't care what other people think.

Two of my best friends are early 30’s. I’m 49, twice I’ve been refered to as “mum”. I thought I was aging fairly well - apparently not 😭😭

Everyone calls everyone ‘love’ round here (Yorkshire).

Mid 40s here. A toddler in a buggy called me nanny the other day. I guess it’s possible, but my own kids are just preteens...

On my 49th birthday I was in a shop with DD1, then 2, and was asked if she was my granddaughter . . . .*

Tbf you could easily be though