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to ask about your misophonia struggles?

187 replies

awesomeauntie · 18/02/2021 17:56

After seeing the feature on This Morning today about misophonia I just wanted to start a thread to hear other people's experiences and what they struggle with as it makes me feel better to know I'm not alone

The sound of feet tapping or nail biting sets me off, but my absolute biggest trigger is neighbour noise and specifically music. My ears tune into bass and low sounds and I can't hear anything else.

If my neighbour plays music with bass I honestly sometimes feel like I could smash up the house. I can't stop myself from going and standing in the room next to it to listen to it, it's like self torture and only makes me more age filled but I can't stop myself! Last summer someone at the other side of our estate was playing loud music with thumping bass for days on end. You could only hear it if you tuned into it but my ears automatically tuned into it and I couldn't stop, I was on edge every day waiting for it. I honestly nearly had a break down, the stress I felt in my head from it brought me to tears. It was awful and my partner just didn't understand, but I do understand why as even writing this out here I can see how odd it all sounds to people who don't have it.

After the feature today I've made a GP appointment to see if I can get referred for some kind of therapy - I need to try something as it's starting to control my life.

OP posts:
HitchFlix · 18/02/2021 18:11

Loud eating and breathing noises - basic daily functions that there's no escaping from Grin

I have to leave the room when my three year old is eating certain foods for fear I'll scream at her Blush

Doihavetogotoworkdotcom1 · 18/02/2021 18:14

You’ve described me! It’s torture isn’t it. I have it with neighbour noise also, just hearing them speak or music or the kids in the garden. Also people eating apples, raw carrots, crisps etc gives me the rage. Too many people speaking in a room at the same time and I feel like I can’t cope.

TheByngster · 18/02/2021 18:15

Liquid pouring. It makes me feel incredibly sketchy. I used to really enjoy a podcast and they introduced the sound of a cup of tea being poured to indicate a break. That was the end of that for me.

Ocsetldil · 18/02/2021 18:15

I cannot bear the sound of people eating. It’s fine at the dining table but if someone is eating at the breakfast bar then I have to leave the room.

DriftGames · 18/02/2021 18:15

Specifically when my DH eats/drinks something he doesn't like, he kind of opens his mouth, grimaces but carries on chewing but the sound teamed with this face honestly will be the reason I go to prison.

PaperMonster · 18/02/2021 18:16

My OH eating goes right through me. I try not to be in the room when he’s eating. I get the most horrendous rage. I was once in a lift with a man who started eating an apple. Still makes me feel sick thinking about it.

LaMainDeFatima · 18/02/2021 18:19

Thank god for not having to work in the office due to lockdown as the noise of anyone eating or yawning makes me so ANGRY.

Scrapping the yogurt lid or an empty yogurt pot...... argh! I don't mind doing it myself but someone else doing makes me so annoyed

Jambalaya76 · 18/02/2021 18:19

I cannot stand the sound of someone scraping the last of the yoghurt out of a yoghurt pot. It sends shivers down my spine!

Jambalaya76 · 18/02/2021 18:20

Haha @LaMainDeFatima cross post

DaphneKluger · 18/02/2021 18:21

Breathing. Came on suddenly when I was pregnant. My son is nearly five and I still have to sleep with ear plugs.

I used to get a train quite often and journeys without my headphones were torture!

ladygindiva · 18/02/2021 18:22

I have discovered during lock down that the sound of my partner ( wfh) typing on his computer keyboard all day gives me THE RAGE. He was at our (open plan) kitchen table, has now been banished to bedroom.

MostIneptThatEverStepped · 18/02/2021 18:23

Breathing and eating, both of which my partner does VERY noisily 😬
He has a permanent nose whistle or alternatively breathes through his mouth which is awful too.

Builders across the road are driving me mad-random crashes as they chuck stuff in the skip and their loud inane chatter.

Neighbours seems to have got rid of their carpets so I get to hear a lot of noise from them as I'm trying to WFH.

Ilovelove · 18/02/2021 18:23

Eating. I have found playing music at the dinner table really helps. But today’s dinner was crunchy vegetables and I just had to leave. I do feel a bit sad, because what must it feel like to have a wife that can’t stand being around you. But I can’t take it.

LaMainDeFatima · 18/02/2021 18:23

@Jambalaya76 that's so weird! I've never told anyone about that before. I know how it started: I was fasting for Ramadan at work and this woman was doing it in a meeting for about ten minutes . It's dislodged something in my brain forever !

Moreofawonderingment · 18/02/2021 18:24

Music over a certain volume if someone is talking to me. It’s just too much and it sends me into a frenzy!

cabingirl · 18/02/2021 18:24

There are some special ear plug things that are supposed to help with things like this - I haven't tried any but saw a lot of great reviews for different brands available.

This is one of the options but there are other brands out there if you google - ear buds for misophonia

www.flareaudio.com/products/calmer?gclid=Cj0KCQiAvbiBBhD-ARIsAGM48byjqqDZG6POVSL3EdMxm12Jv1ySaYtFufbEn4hCTQb6BQDrAd9s5SkaAvPLEALw_wcB

PragmaticWench · 18/02/2021 18:26

Eating or rhythmic tapping/banging etc. I feel sweaty and furious and have to escape. Started as a teenager.

I've found not thinking about it really helps. That sounds crazy when it can be all consuming but I've made a conscious huge effort to try and think of other things and it has really made a difference. A form of distraction therapy. It's still there but better.

Lookingoutside · 18/02/2021 18:26

People sniffing. People talking loudly on trains. Seems the quiet coach is no longer a thing. Does anyone know why?

Eamon Holmes taking the piss and arguing the bloody toss over misophonia for the last couple of days. That was annoying too.

TipseyTorvey · 18/02/2021 18:26

Plate scraping. Why? You've finished your food, there is no need to keep scraping desperately at the last but of sauce like a homeless person (looking at you DH), apple crunching people need a bullet to the head. Supermarket bags rustling, just get the damn thing out whatever it is. Slurping. Pen clicking....just stop. Please stop. In other news I've been blessed with an asd DS who stims constantly. Clapping and squealing... I love him to bits but I think this is karma for something I did to small kittens in a former life 😢

SeeeeMoreStars · 18/02/2021 18:27

DH does an "Uuuurrrggghhh" sound when he yawns, also slurps his tea and does random whoops or da da da singing of tunes. Why I don't sit next to him often. Misophonia, maybe, I don't know.

LadyCatStark · 18/02/2021 18:28

DS eating. I’m fine if I’m also eating but if not it gives me the rage. I have to leave or if I’m wearing a hoodie, try to subtly put my hood up. I’ve told him to stop eating so noisily so many times that I think I’m just upsetting him so I have to try to block it out somehow. When I was a child it was just one of my brothers’ seating that gave me the rage. Weirdly, if DH eats noisily it doesn’t bother me at all 🤷‍♀️

Tamingofthehamster · 18/02/2021 18:28

My dh eating too. I need background music at mealtimes. If not available I try to imagine it’s an animal eating instead - if I picture a little goat or horse chewing it’s not so bad.

Tempusfudgeit · 18/02/2021 18:30

We had to flee our flat late one evening due to our new neighbour's thumping music. I was 8.5 months pregnant and we had a toddler. My misophonic husband would have killed the man. We didn't ever return: went to a hotel, then my mother's house, then sold the flat losing a fair amount of money on it. Misophonia is serious.

Thecazelets · 18/02/2021 18:31

OP I am the same as you with bass - I didn't know it had a name. In the past I have actually moved house because of it. Induces feelings of panic and despair and makes me tearful. DH is completely unbothered.

NewScone · 18/02/2021 18:32

Polystyrene beioud
Certain people eating (not even particularly loudly, seems to mostly be men)
People talking while eating sets me right off!
Plate scraping
Slurping tea is usually fine but sometimes people take a big breath and sort of inhale it.