To be think this is a waste of money

[orchidsstillalive]

My DH got a parcel through the post and it was some old looking jigsaw. I asked him why he bought it and he said they're collectible and it's from the 70s.
It looks really old and I could smell it straight away it stinks of stale tobacco - like 40 years of stale cigarettes. He paid £5 and £3 postage for it so it's not exactly breaking the bank but ugh 🤦‍♀️
So AIBU to think it's a complete waste of money especially when I try and keep the house tidy. I don't mind keeping some of our sentimental stuff but not someone else's crap.

• To think this is a waste of money?

You don't need to appreciate it or think it was worth the money, your husband wanted it and that is all that really matters.

Would you be okay with him complaining that something you spent £8 on was a waste of money, crap and he didn't want it in the house?

• To think this is a waste of money? (Sorry typo)

He probably thinks some of your things are a waste of money too!

Is he not allowed to buy things without you agreeing?

I think if he’s happy with it it’s not a waste of money

I dont understand your objection to it

Its not as if he's ordered a three piece suite in 70s brown and orange. It's a jigsaw puzzle. Does he collect memorabilia? Is it related to a childhood memory?

Is he not allowed personal belongings unless they go with your colour scheme?

Let your husband start picking apart every single thing you buy and see how you like it.

I wonder if it reminds him of his childhood... try to be understanding. This is an unnerving time and it sounds like this object appealed to him in some sort of childlike way. I think it’s sweet X

I understand if it stinks. Will he agree to keeping it in the garage ?

God. What has the MN come too. Its a cheap and crappy jigsaw.. Granted.. But it's what he wanted and it made him happy. Its not like he took thousands of pounds out the joint account and bought a yacht.. And as pp said.. I'm sure there are many things you've bought that he may think are a waste of money. If the smell offends you then ask him to keep it in the garage or somewhere that isn't in the house.

If it's the smell that's bothering you, maybe leave it outside on nice , slightly breezy days to see if the smell might dissipate.
If it's just that your husband has bought a vintage item that you just don't like the look of, then it can be put away until he decides to do the puzzle.
I'm not sure why you're in a tiz about it. Everyone's entitled to a bit of tat /vintage/antique/nostalgia/quirky things.

Does he need permission to buy something or to bring something into his home?

I bet he thinks things you buy are a waste of money but doesn't question it.

Some people spend more than that on coffee or wine a week that’s gone with nothin

Does he need permission to buy something or to bring something into his home?

I bet he thinks things you buy are a waste of money but doesn't question it.

Some people spend more than that on coffee or wine a week that’s gone with nothing to show for it.

YABU. I spent £50 on a tyre from an old F1 car. It makes me smile every time I see it. DH cannot get his head around why it makes me happy but appreciates it does.

Life is short. If he's getting a bit of joy from a smelly old jigsaw good on him.

You are not BU. He is for buying stinky old junk and wanting to keep it in your house. I'd burn it in the garden if you have one.

Gawd I would hate to think my DH was running a critical eye over everything I buy

@BunnyRuddington

Gawd I would hate to think my DH was running a critical eye over everything I buy

So would I. We have separate finances and a pact never to criticise one another’s spending. Ever.

If you think you have a problem with your DH buying an old jigsaw I think you don't have a problem!

You should go on the other threads about women being abused by their husbands.. I bet they'd be grateful for your husband buying old jigsaw issue.

It’s eight quid. Eight sodding quid! He got something to make himself happy at a time when we’re all miserable. And I’ve got an almost eerie feeling that his life might be more miserable than most.

Get a life.

YABU unless there’s a huge back story here and every penny counts towards making ends meet. It’s £8. We’re miserable and in lockdown right now and it’s the little things keeping us going, let him have a few hours fun completing his jigsaw

Unless he’s a hoarding problem ans you’re about to drip feed it’s rather controlling to take issue with him buying this.

It might not be such a waste of money.

@Wellpark

You are not BU. He is for buying stinky old junk and wanting to keep it in your house. I'd burn it in the garden if you have one.

I have to hope this isn’t serious. Or that you’re single. How horrible.