To ask my neighbours if somethings wrong?

[spencerprattisaprat]

New neighbours moved in about 7 months ago, ever since then we have the routine - we take the bins out and they bring the bins in.

It was never spoken about but it's what we did with previous owners and seemed to be working fine past 7 months. However, past two weeks, although we have taken the bins out, my neighbours have only taken their own bins in.

AIBU to approach them asking if everything is okay? Or should I just stop taking their bins out? Why would they suddenly stop, pretty rude to be honest.

Yup, just stop. Maybe they prefer to do theirs themselves. As others have said, it was never an arrangement because it was never agreed. No need to be cross though. They never agreed to share bin duties, you just, well, sort of imposed it on them I suppose you could say.

Did You have the common courtesy to tell them of the arrangement you had with the previous owner and ask them if they wanted to continue with that

We share a long off the road lane with our next door neighbour
And have to take the bins to the end. We always take our own when it suits us, be it the night before or the morning together with all the recycling boxes. It’s a right old farce to do your own I can tell you, i don’t think either of us would want to take two wheelies and six boxes up and down the Lane.

When it comes to bringing them in whoever passes the empty bins and or boxes first brings them all in. It’s actually easy to stack the boxes and put them in the bins and wheel two empty bins down the Lane.

Just step away from the bins Op , step away eh .

Assumption is the mother of all fuck ups. Dont assume everyone is happy with your set up. There was no "arrangement" You just assumed.

I think it is strange to move your neighbour's bins without having mutually agreed to the arrangement (and it seems you had not with these particular people). My neighbour, with whom I am on very good terms, has mobility problems now and a couple of weeks ago I offered to take her bins out to the roadside to save her risking a fall but she very much wanted to do it herself. I wouldn't have just done it without asking.

It’s a fecking bin strange.

spencerprattisaprat

Yeah since they didn't give me the common courtesy of letting me know they were ending our arrangement, I will not do them that courtesy either. Arrangement over. I just find it strange and wonder what we've done but oh well.

"the common courtesy*

Not sure it is Spencer Pratt that's a prat lol

I wouldn't worry about it - it's too trivial but they might take umbrage and it's always a good idea to keep on the right side of your neighbours. Why not just ask how they're getting on and see where it leads? It may not mean anything and perhaps they're just more comfortable with the new arrangement.

My NDN’s elderly parents recently moved in with them, and her father has started putting out and bringing in our bins.

I hate it for 2 reasons, he takes them out far too early, before I’ve managed to squeeze another bag in, and I’m never there to return the favour, as I’m at work when he brings them back down, so I feel guilty.

I’d just rather deal with my own bins.

I am beginning to think we live in Utopia ..never touch each others stuff especially bins ( how would we win competitive bin taking in otherwise , which has to be done within 3 minutes on emptying )

Can count on one hand how many times the neighbours have knocked on our door in 12 years
None of us in our road ever have people popping in ( family only it seems,before Covid

Neighbours bring their children in if they get rowdy

Loud music neighbour got shut down by police 3 times during height of lockdown

One neighbours DH can be a bit strange, speaks when he wants other times not , used to bother me now I know what he's like

We all put our own bins out when ready but I’ll admit to there being a race with our neighbours, who can get out there the quickest to bring them back in. This has only started since we began wfh but it’s a weekly highlight. I make sure I let my DH know that he’s a massive loser if next door beat him to it.

Who has the energy to worry about this

Maybe they think it's your job as building superintendent or something!

Glad you're stopping.

@Amijustagrump I worry that I have somehow upset or offended my neighbours yes. That's why if they let me know they were stopping the bin taking in that I wouldn't be worrying about it.

@spencerprattisaprat

Yeah since they didn't give me the common courtesy of letting me know they were ending our arrangement, I will not do them that courtesy either. Arrangement over. I just find it strange and wonder what we've done but oh well.

How dramatic 😂

Yeah since they didn't give me the common courtesy of letting me know they were ending our arrangement, I will not do them that courtesy either.

That seems a bit extreme. For all you know someone else is doing their bins at the moment.

Or they have some weird (but common) disinclination to tell you they would rather you didn't put the bins out, because they think it wil be rude. So they are hoping you will take the hint.

The logical normal person approach would be to catch them at bin time and say "would you rather I left your bins?"

This has made me realise the guy on my street who used to put lots of neighbours' back in has stopped doing it... It always seemed a bit passive aggressive as he did it if you hadn't done your own bin within about half an hour after bin collection - like he was saying the pavement needed tidying up... He also used to clean the pavement with a broom really late at night at least weekly (nice idea but used to wake me up with the noise!). I wonder why he has stopped...

@NewScone ‘bindependent’ 🤣

@SmokedDuck I know it's the same woman who has always taken them in as I've seen her doing it the last two weeks and just leaving my bin on the curb.

@spencerprattisaprat

Yeah since they didn't give me the common courtesy of letting me know they were ending our arrangement, I will not do them that courtesy either. Arrangement over. I just find it strange and wonder what we've done but oh well.

Well since it appears you didn’t do the common courtesy of telling them you were carrying on with the arrangement you had agreed with the previous neighbours, in your own words “it was never spoken about”, I don’t think you have a leg to stand on in the common courtesy top trumps.

They've shot themselves in the foot. If there was a problem they should just tell you instead of resorting to passive aggressive bin nonsense. They're idiots really, because good neighbours are pure gold.

If you have never spoken about it or properly arranged it, maybe they didn't want to do it in the first place.
But since you have taken their bins out with yours, they felt they are obliged to bring yours in as a new neighbour.
Finally had enough.
It's very strange to take someone else's bins out, I wouldn't want to do it, especially now.

You need to update next bin day on whether they miss bin day or not. I need to know.

@spencerprattisaprat

Yeah since they didn't give me the common courtesy of letting me know they were ending our arrangement, I will not do them that courtesy either. Arrangement over. I just find it strange and wonder what we've done but oh well.

Seriously it’s a bin , don’t put their bin out or in I doubt they’d care .