To ask my neighbours if somethings wrong?

[spencerprattisaprat]

New neighbours moved in about 7 months ago, ever since then we have the routine - we take the bins out and they bring the bins in.

It was never spoken about but it's what we did with previous owners and seemed to be working fine past 7 months. However, past two weeks, although we have taken the bins out, my neighbours have only taken their own bins in.

AIBU to approach them asking if everything is okay? Or should I just stop taking their bins out? Why would they suddenly stop, pretty rude to be honest.

@Saywhatyoumeanandmeanwhatyousa

It's really bizarre that you started taking their bin out without even asking them. What an odd thing to do. Just do yours and let them do theirs.

I'd be quite pissed off if people randomly put my bins out, barring disability, old age etc.

Yeah since they didn't give me the common courtesy of letting me know they were ending our arrangement, I will not do them that courtesy either.

You said yourself this "arrangement" was never spoken of. This was no arrangement, it was a presumption solely on your part. What courtesy they owe you is beyond me. Clearly, they don't want you interfering with their business.

They owe you no explanation at all 😂
You never even asked if the arrangement was ok - and tbh I think that's far more rude to assume it was.
You didn't ask to start, they didn't ask to end.
Yabu - there's a pandemic and your neighbour doesn't want to touch your manky bin. Do get a grip.

@Aquamarine1029 hardly interfering with their 'business'.

Also bin juice...I have never had that with outside bins ever and I'm more likely to get it on my hands if I'm taking the full bins out.

I know it was never discussed but the thing is I did it with the previous neighbours and that was never discussed either, they just did it from the moment we moved in and continued until we left, thought we'd keep the tradition going with newbies.

It's really bizarre that you started taking their bin out without even asking them. What an odd thing to do.

I don’t know about @spencerprattisaprat but for me it started when the neighbour had to travel for a family emergency. Bin day comes around and they weren’t here and the bin would be sitting there for weeks and weeks in the middle of summer otherwise... so I just did it.

For a few bin days after that I put theirs out with mine as they kept missing them. I was aware they were going through a lot and keeping track of our ever changing bin days was probably not on their radar at that point. I thought it would be one less thing for them to worry about.

They owe you no explanation at all 😂
You never even asked if the arrangement was ok - and tbh I think that's far more rude to assume it was.
You didn't ask to start, they didn't ask to end.
Yabu - there's a pandemic and your neighbour doesn't want to touch your manky bin. Do get a grip.

You had no arrangement with them to cancel.

It's really bizarre that you started taking their bin out without even asking them. What an odd thing to do.

I don’t know about @spencerprattisaprat but for me it started when the neighbour had to travel for a family emergency. Bin day comes around and they weren’t here and the bin would be sitting there for weeks and weeks in the middle of summer otherwise... so I just did it.

For a few bin days after that I put theirs out with mine as they kept missing them. I was aware they were going through a lot and keeping track of our ever changing bin days was probably not on their radar at that point. I thought it would be one less thing for them to worry about.

Yeah since they didn't give me the common courtesy of letting me know they were ending our arrangement, I will not do them that courtesy either.
I don’t think they’re being rude, I think they’re just giving you a hint. If I was the bin-bringer-inner instead of the putter-outer I would consider doing what they’re doing in order to show I wanted to stop the arrangement.

Learn from the experience op - you don't want to be known as a bin fondling maniac at the next neighbourhood watch meeting.

It might not be the regular bin taker inner. I always take my neighbours bin in for her (elderly) dp wouldn't think to do hers as well as he doesnt do much bin moving around!

Bindependence Day.

I don't understand the reason though like if this is their way of letting us know we're bothering them or they're not happy with us or something?

@SummerHouse

Bindependence Day.

😂

@imalmostthere

Learn from the experience op - you don't want to be known as a bin fondling maniac at the next neighbourhood watch meeting.

I think it might be too late! 😂

You can't get cross with people you never had an arrangement with in the first place 😂

I think it is a bit odd after 7 months that they stopped doing it. Obviously they have no problem with you taking theirs out or they would have said something.
What sort of relationship do you have with them normally? Is it friendly enough that you could ask them?
If not, I would just stop taking their bins out.

...thought we'd keep the tradition going with newbies.

Then you should have discussed this with the "newbies."

@spencerprattisaprat

I don't understand the reason though like if this is their way of letting us know we're bothering them or they're not happy with us or something?

Mate - they just want you to leave their bins alone! How hard is that to understand 😂

So do you go into their garden to get their bin or what’s the set up? I can’t think why you’d do this.

You seem a bit put out by this, jist put your own bins out, it’s not a big deal.

@spencerprattisaprat

I don't understand the reason though like if this is their way of letting us know we're bothering them or they're not happy with us or something?

No, I honestly think a different person has brought the bins in. Passive aggressive non bin taking in is rare in the UK.

@imalmostthere

Learn from the experience op - you don't want to be known as a bin fondling maniac at the next neighbourhood watch meeting.

I think it might be too late! 😂

the people we bought this house from told us how the NDN would always take their bin out for them and bring it back, if they forgot. Well first week I almost forgot but spotted the NDNs bin out and then they brought their own bin back, not ours.

No problem, they are nice neighbours, they just clearly didn't want to continue with the practice.

Not sure what pp asked but we share a bin area between our two houses, so it's kind of like a lane, with all our bins in it.

We don't speak usually, at all really. We will smile and say hello.