To ask my neighbours if somethings wrong?

[spencerprattisaprat]

New neighbours moved in about 7 months ago, ever since then we have the routine - we take the bins out and they bring the bins in.

It was never spoken about but it's what we did with previous owners and seemed to be working fine past 7 months. However, past two weeks, although we have taken the bins out, my neighbours have only taken their own bins in.

AIBU to approach them asking if everything is okay? Or should I just stop taking their bins out? Why would they suddenly stop, pretty rude to be honest.

[quote spencerprattisaprat]@Aquamarine1029 hardly interfering with their 'business'.

Also bin juice...I have never had that with outside bins ever and I'm more likely to get it on my hands if I'm taking the full bins out.

I know it was never discussed but the thing is I did it with the previous neighbours and that was never discussed either, they just did it from the moment we moved in and continued until we left, thought we'd keep the tradition going with newbies. [/quote]
Maybe you should have told them if you wanted to keep the tradition going. They probably just think that weird neighbour who has never spoken to them keeps touching their bin, potentially cross contaminating it during a pandemic.

I wouldn't hold it against them if its never been discussed, just stop putting their bin out and I'm sure they will remember to put their own bin out.

@imalmostthere 😂

Bindependence Day
Brilliant 🤣🤣

As someone who pays per lift we don't put our bins out every week. But I would have asked you to stop putting out bins out before now.

Maybe someone who lived there who brought the bins back in has moved on?

@spencerprattisaprat

Yeah since they didn't give me the common courtesy of letting me know they were ending our arrangement, I will not do them that courtesy either. Arrangement over. I just find it strange and wonder what we've done but oh well.

What do you mean 'Arrangement over' ? It never was one.

It's just bins, nothing important !

@spencerprattisaprat

Yeah since they didn't give me the common courtesy of letting me know they were ending our arrangement, I will not do them that courtesy either. Arrangement over. I just find it strange and wonder what we've done but oh well.

But how is it an arrangement if you’ve never spoken to them about it?

Maybe from their perspective you’re just a weirdo who keeps moving their bins!

I would be most off put if when we moved the neighbours randomly put our bins out without asking. How do they even know it's you doing it, and so know which bin to reciprocally bring in?!
I'd be really hacked off if I popped out on bin day to put the last bits in and it was already out on the street. Especially so if it meant some random neighbour had been in my garden.

I can't believe you're pissed off with them stopping some random arrangement they never agreed to in the first place! I can quite imagine that with a pandemic they don't want to be touching things other people have touched, and they don't feel able to knock your door during lockdown.

@spencerprattisaprat

Yeah since they didn't give me the common courtesy of letting me know they were ending our arrangement, I will not do them that courtesy either. Arrangement over. I just find it strange and wonder what we've done but oh well.

You never had an arrangement. It's bizarre that you think you did.

OMG this would drive me insane. My neighbours have started taking my bins in and out and I really hate it! Wish they wouldn’t but I’ve never spoken to them so it’s a bit awkward telling them not to! Just leave people’s bins alone.

@Givemeabreak88

OMG this would drive me insane. My neighbours have started taking my bins in and out and I really hate it! Wish they wouldn’t but I’ve never spoken to them so it’s a bit awkward telling them not to! Just leave people’s bins alone.

They're probably putting their stuff in there...IME this is how errant bin behaviour starts 😂

@spencerprattisaprat

Yeah since they didn't give me the common courtesy of letting me know they were ending our arrangement, I will not do them that courtesy either. Arrangement over. I just find it strange and wonder what we've done but oh well.

You sound quite petty, and bored. It’s just a bin. Take theirs out if you want. But don’t get annoyed if they don’t follow the never spoke about rule.

@Givemeabreak88

OMG this would drive me insane. My neighbours have started taking my bins in and out and I really hate it! Wish they wouldn’t but I’ve never spoken to them so it’s a bit awkward telling them not to! Just leave people’s bins alone.

Yep. If my neighbours started doing that, I'd find it presumptuous.

If either of us is going to be on holiday we'll arrange to take each other's bin out so it doesn't sit and rot, but otherwise, no.

Oh yes actually that makes sense because I’ve noticed that when they bring them out there’s usually their stuff in mine as well! Now I know why they do it

@spencerprattisaprat

Yeah since they didn't give me the common courtesy of letting me know they were ending our arrangement, I will not do them that courtesy either. Arrangement over. I just find it strange and wonder what we've done but oh well.

It's a bin... Chill out.

Yeah since they didn't give me the common courtesy of letting me know they were ending our arrangement, I will not do them that courtesy either. Arrangement over. I just find it strange and wonder what we've done but oh well
But you didn’t have an arrangement with them you Wally.

They always take their bins out the night before bin day where as I like to take them out on the mornings (bin truck doesn’t come till afternoon) So if I have anymore rubbish I need to take out the night before it’s annoying but yep I’m thinking it’s because they sneak their rubbish into mine!

@SummerHouse

Bindependence Day.

😂😂 5*

I would tend to think you were bonkers if you asked me this.
But Who knows, maybe it will spark pleasant supportive conversation.
Let us know what happens.

@spencerprattisaprat

Yeah since they didn't give me the common courtesy of letting me know they were ending our arrangement, I will not do them that courtesy either. Arrangement over. I just find it strange and wonder what we've done but oh well.

Do you have any other communication with them?

I hate taking my bins out, I’d be quite happy if someone else did it tbh. Weird you don’t speak to them seeing you’ve been handling their bins for 7 months.

Surely you just wash your hands anyway after taking/bringing in your bins so bin juice from either bin is the same. My neighbour sometimes takes our bins back down to the gate then dumps it so I can’t get out of my gate to get it, nice of him to bring it down though.

Are you quite well op? Maybe put less thought into the bins (and don't touch other people's).

@maddening

I would just say that you note that they have chosen to end the reciprocal bin arrangement, which is absolutely no problem but you wanted to ensure that they knew that you would also be stopping the arrangement to take the bins out as you don't want them to miss bin day. If they need any help over holidays etc you are always happy to help In the future.

Ok

You’re massively over thinking this.
You didn’t have an agreement really did you. Just an unspoken action that now has stopped.

I wouldn’t speak to them about it because you’ll sound totally bizarre and probably scare them.

@Freddiefox probably am a bit bored, stuck in the house day in day out with a newborn baby and a toddler and a husband that works away. 😂 lord help me

This happened with our neighbours after a year of it working well. We kept watch and 9 year old had been given the chore whilst mum nursed new baby. He didn't know about taking our bin in too.