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It’s GIVEN not GIFTED FFS !!!

494 replies

TriflePudding · 15/02/2021 18:19

Oh god it’s all over Facebook and it’s driving me crazy - “I have here to gift ...a tatty old sofa I can’t be arsed to get rid of myself so I’m fobbing it off on someone else”
or “I have been gifted a bag of baby clothes but they are too small, does anyone know if anyone in need ?”
Or “looking to gift some donations to local women’s refuge/children’s hospital- who do I get in touch with ?”

JUST FUCK OFF !! Say “given” and while we are at it just donate stuff quietly without any fanfare !

YABU - it is perfectly acceptable to use “gifted” as a verb

Or

YANBU - the word “gifted” being used as a verb was invented by Beelzebub himself.

Please feel free to add your own !

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Gadzookery · 16/02/2021 19:24

I'm going for a lay down. urgh. makes my teeth itch.

janj2301 · 16/02/2021 19:33

My grandson was adopted and is constantly told he now lives in his forever home. My daughter goes batshit at "adopt a tiger" etc. Grandson can't understand why the tiger doesn't go home with those that adopted him. Not really a grammar problem more acommon useage one

Countrygirl2021 · 16/02/2021 19:45

They must "of" just said the wrong thing Angry

How anyone that was educated beyond junior school can possibly not know the difference between of and have is completely beyond me.

Countrygirl2021 · 16/02/2021 19:48

Oh and now I'm all worked up thinking about funky spellings, like kidz (often used in advertising etc)

Petlover9 · 16/02/2021 20:08

@Countrygirl2021. I totally agree with you. I get annoyed when someone begins a sentence with "So", and how some people use the word "like" as in "I was like, he was like and they was like" dreadful use of the English language

Zerrin13 · 16/02/2021 20:51

The latest one to make me want to start dishing out punishments is reading about people in the news who have recently had a baby. Why are they always described as having welcomed their new baby??? This is so irritating! Welcomed??? As if some people don't welcome their newborn baby?

kay1bee · 16/02/2021 21:19

@DeadGood

I think you'll find that's 'exactly the same'... 'The exact same' rates up there with other annoying American imports.

poppycat10 · 16/02/2021 21:31

@TrixieMixie

You have no idea how happy this thread has made me. Of course YANBU. I hate the misuse of 'gifted' as a verb. Would these fuck twats say 'He gifted me a gift?' It makes me want to gift them a kick up the backside. I thought I was the only one. I boycott shops which misuse it in their advertising. Another I hate is 'sourced' as in 'I sourced these heritage carrots...' You didn't canoe up the Amazon to get them, you just paid too much for them in a pretentious shop!
I laughed out loud at this
DixieLandReject · 16/02/2021 21:55

@Bananaman123

'Can you borrow me your pen' 'It gives me all the feels' 🤬
It gives me all the feels Shock what on earth does that mean?
Tigs64 · 16/02/2021 21:57

The most annoying thing about this post is the number of people who use poor grammar to express their annoyance at other people’s poor grammar.

bitteroulbag · 16/02/2021 22:08

@MrsSpenserGregson

“Also; something “needs doing”, or it “needs to be done”. It doesn’t “need done.” I’ve only ever seen this excrescence (thank you P G Wodehouse) on Mumsnet and it is sooooooo annoying!”

This is pure Norn Iron - a colloquialism and therefore perfectly acceptable. Your neck needs wound in.

CantstopsayingFFS · 16/02/2021 22:47

“I was sat...” or “I was stood...” wtf?

There’s no need for ‘was’ people..

notcricket · 16/02/2021 22:48

Sorry if already mentioned, but I just thought of two more to add to the annoyingly pretentious camp, namely 'space' and 'piece' - in the sense of 'Ooh, where did you source that lovely piece, it works so well in this space?' No, it's a bloody table in a bloody room.

notcricket · 16/02/2021 23:01

@Zerrin13 I totally agree about 'welcomed', which we also now have in the ghastly context of schools 'welcoming' back children during Covid. 'On 1st of June schools will be asked to welcome back Year 3, and then a week later they'll be welcoming back Year 6' etc. FFS you don't have to put a cutesy positive spin on every announcement. 'On 1st of June, children in Year 3 will return to school' etc is perfectly appropriate. 'Welcomed' has become so overused it just sounds trite and ridiculous.

MummyBearBoo · 16/02/2021 23:04

The ones that get me are when people can't use active and passive verbs -like when people say 'can I lend a pen' no you can borrow a pen or I can lend you one - or 'he learned me how to do this' no he didn't he taught you and you learned. Also 'more quicker' (as an example) winds me up it's either more quickly or quicker not both!

Harmonypuss · 16/02/2021 23:14

Following the 'led' on the bed, I used to have a friend who rather than saying that she 'treated' someone in a certain way, she 'tret' them.

Another friend persists in calling 'Primark' 'PrEmark' no matter how many times I point out that 'pri' is pronounced 'pry' and that it would need to be an E not an I for it to be pronounced the way he says it.

LouJ85 · 16/02/2021 23:19

@Tigs64

The most annoying thing about this post is the number of people who use poor grammar to express their annoyance at other people’s poor grammar.
🤣
CandyLeBonBon · 16/02/2021 23:32

@evilharpy

I haven't read the whole thread so apologies if anyone has said this, but "oh, you shouldn't feel obligated". NO. IT'S OBLIGED. Obligated is not a word.

I hate gifted too.

Well don't you look like a twat?
It’s GIVEN not GIFTED FFS !!!
LouJ85 · 16/02/2021 23:45

I don't mean to alarm anyone but....
Grin

It’s GIVEN not GIFTED FFS !!!
Mamanyt · 16/02/2021 23:55

"Tasked" drives me nuts. I do get that "I was given the task of" is unwieldy, but I don't much care. "I was tasked with" just drives me up a wall. But then, I was reared by a grandmother who spoke impeccable English. And I'm old-school. If someone speaks as if they are not educated, I will probably assume that they are not, in fact, educated.

It bothers me worst when I hear glaring grammatical errors on television, being made by characters who are supposed to be professional people. When I hear "It belongs to he and I" (for instance, and I have heard that), I "talk" to the writers through the TV screen. "HIM AND ME, YOU IDIOTS! THAT'S BASIC!!! It belongs to him. It belongs to me. IT DOES NOT BELONG TO HE!!!" I sound like a right maniac, I'm sure!

LOL, and to tell on myself, I occasionally say "ain't." But only for emphasis. As in, "Well, that ain't happenin' while I have breath in my body."

ViewsAreMine · 17/02/2021 00:04

@DeadGood

I just have to quote from that article, because it really illustrates how pointless this gripe will seem in a few years.

“Don’t contact anyone: get in touch with him, call him, write him, find him, tell him.
-Sheridan Baker, The Complete Stylist, 1966”

Or how about this rant?

“ In terms of pure splenetic inventiveness, there have been few complaints that have matched the one by F. W. Lienau, an executive at Western Union, articulated in a memo sent to his staff: “Somewhere there cumbers this fair earth with his loathsome presence a man who, for the common good, should have been destroyed in early childhood. He is the originator of the hideous vulgarism of using contact as a verb. So long as we can meet, get in touch with, make the acquaintance of, be introduced to, call on, interview or talk to people, there can be no apology for contact.” We may all of us have some issues with the way the English language is progressing, but few of us have the requisite peevishness and poetry to begin our complaints with a line such as “somewhere there cumbers this fair earth with his loathsome presence....”

Thank you for sharing this. Been smiling since I read it. Wish I could write like that!!!
CandyLeBonBon · 17/02/2021 00:14

@Mamanyt

"Tasked" drives me nuts. I do get that "I was given the task of" is unwieldy, but I don't much care. "I was tasked with" just drives me up a wall. But then, I was reared by a grandmother who spoke impeccable English. And I'm old-school. If someone speaks as if they are not educated, I will probably assume that they are not, in fact, educated.

It bothers me worst when I hear glaring grammatical errors on television, being made by characters who are supposed to be professional people. When I hear "It belongs to he and I" (for instance, and I have heard that), I "talk" to the writers through the TV screen. "HIM AND ME, YOU IDIOTS! THAT'S BASIC!!! It belongs to him. It belongs to me. IT DOES NOT BELONG TO HE!!!" I sound like a right maniac, I'm sure!

LOL, and to tell on myself, I occasionally say "ain't." But only for emphasis. As in, "Well, that ain't happenin' while I have breath in my body."

I think you mean "...it bothers me most..." etc
ArcheryAnnie · 17/02/2021 00:46

Betjeman would have included "gifted" in "How To Get On In Society".

(I am lower middle, so know whereof I speak.)

CharityDingle · 17/02/2021 00:54

Curated.

I was researching hotels for a holiday, when holidays were possible

One hotel just had too much goddam 'curating' going on!

adrianmolesmole · 17/02/2021 00:58

YANBU.

The new thing I keep seeing lately is "addicting". "Oh it's so addicting!"
It's ADDICTIVE FFS.