So this just happened out the blue.
He's been a bit moody today but snapped out of it this evening and we swapped cards and gifts and decided we would cook our valentine's meal together.
Both in the kitchen and I was at the sink tidying up a bit. He's behind me at the cooked unpacking the food. He starts wrestling with a stuffed mushroom stuck in the packet and I laugh and reach over to get it out. All of a sudden he grabs my arms and really shoves me away. I banged my back and hip into the sink hard and I'm just in shock. Straight away he says sorry and he didn't mean it.
I walked off not knowing what to say or do and went and sat down. He came in to apologize and just said he didnt like me trying to take over. I said I was only trying to help.
Awkward silence and then he tries to get me to go and help him cook. I walk off again and come to bed.
He's been up to apologize again but I don't want to speak to him.
I'm just so shocked at the turn of aggression towards me.
For background we've been together for nearly 2 years, lived together most of that time and he's never done anything like this before.
I feel sick and confused and don't know what to do.
Am I over reacting? Ive been in a very violent relationship in the past which eventually ending up with my then partner going to prison.
I know he didn't mean to shove me so hard or hurt me but I don't know how I am meant to deal with this....just get up and go and have food like nothing has happened? Try and talk about it or tell him to pack his shit up and leave because I really don't want to ever feel unsafe in my own home ever again.
Great valentine's Day!