Naming and shaming on FB

[Noidea2114]

A friend of a friend is disabled. She is trying to get donations for a charity she is involved with.
She is sending PM begging for money for this even to the point of giving out her bank account details.
If you haven't replied with in an hour she sends another message asking yes or no.
And keeps it up until you have replied.
I sent £10 which in these difficult times is a good amount.
Woke up this morning to see on FB names of people who haven't donated with a thumbs down emoji.
Anyone who had donated had the amount by their names and an emoji good or bad.
I got a bad review.
Aibu to be upset.

No YADNBU. What a bike thing to do.

This is unacceptable and I'd call her out on it. She definitely wouldn't be my friend anymore.

I would say, "why is my name here?, are you trying to shame me for not donating to your chosen charity?"

I'd unfriend her.

No YANBU

I would tell her, probably privately, that I was sad to seen the donation was unwelcome. And that in future you will never donate in this way again, only ever directly to registered charities.

I'm a sceptic, and wouldn't have gone through sinejbe else's own bank account in the first place

I'd block her, she's bullying people.

Absolutely awful! Why are donations going to her bank account anyway? That’s not right!

Tell the CF that you want your tenner back!

I don’t think the charity would be happy with her methods. I’d contact them.

What an arse. I'd be blocking her.

Unfriend and block!

What a CF. Has she even donated?

@VinterKvinna

I would say, "why is my name here?, are you trying to shame me for not donating to your chosen charity?"

Yes, the nerve of her. This would make me furious, her attempt to shame... she made herself look bad.

I give a lot to WA and nothing else tbh because so many people ignore women's issues.

That’s awful, £10 is a great donation. No good deed goes unpunished.

Complain to the charity - that's terrible.

Collecting for charity and asking for the money to be paid into her account? I would be publicly calling her out on this. Cheeky fucker

I would comment on the post - “I’ll have my £10 back. I felt bullied into sending you the money by your persistent messaging, on reflection I’m not comfortable with you collecting for a charity via your own bank account, I’d rather donate to the charity direct”.

Shine a light on what she’s doing. She’s not a friend. You’ve got nothing to lose.

I would block her/remove her as a friend. That is unaccetable.

I would never donate to someone's bank account - it's so easy to set up a just giving page. I would definitely call her out on this

Absolutely call her out and let the charity know. She is just tuining their name now.

And then explain very shortly, that you are against bullying and unfriend

Unfriend irl too btw

@SingingLoud

I would comment on the post - “I’ll have my £10 back. I felt bullied into sending you the money by your persistent messaging, on reflection I’m not comfortable with you collecting for a charity via your own bank account, I’d rather donate to the charity direct”.

Shine a light on what she’s doing. She’s not a friend. You’ve got nothing to lose.

Yup.

I'd report the post to Facebook and have it taken down.
I'd also unfriend her and stop anyone tagging you who is not your friend.

And yes I'd probably ask for my £10 back.
Thats horrific behaviour!!

The cheek, the nerve, the gall, the audacity and the gumption!

She’s an arsehole, that’s fucking low. Honestly I’d post back, normally I wouldn’t get into any kind of Facebook drama but thats outrageous.

Dear twat, if you want anyone else to donate to you charity then maybe try not to be so ungrateful to the people that already have, not a good look, please dont ever ask me again in the future as I will not be even so much as acknowledging your request.