To not appreciate OH parents coming round now?!

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I'm working 2-11 today MIL and FIL are going to view a house round the corner form us, so are popping in after. I'm going to be working upstairs all day so I won't see them anyway. But when OH goes to to pick DS up they will just be sat downstairs.

They are our support bubble and have the kids most weekends when we're both working. OH is running round like a headless chicken now because he's been sat on his phone all morning now his mummy and daddy are coming he wants the house spotless putting unnecessary stress on me as well.

AIBU? I feel like I'm being rude sitting up stairs but I can't just come down when I'm busy.

@MaLarkinn

Your in laws who mind your kids every weekend are popping in as they'll be around the corner and you're going to stay upstairs and ignore them.

That's actually batshit.

Honestly, who in the real world goes on like that.

How fucking rude.

Did you miss the bit about op working? Are you one of those who think wfh means doing chores and childcare at the same time?

Can’t muster any sympathy for this particular ‘dilemma’ when I haven’t been inside my parents or DH’s parents home for 6 months. We don’t use them for childcare and don’t abuse the bubbles that are allowed.

@notdaddycool

Expected to say YANBU, but YABU, they are part of your support bubble, you are legally one househould for COVID, they are helping you out but you area repaying this way. Pop down for a cuppa when he goes to collect the kids.

Ffs she's WORKING.

Not really aimed at the OP as I don’t know her circumstances but...

To those saying it ‘makes no difference’ if PILs pop in if they’re providing childcare. The reason that childcare bubbles don’t allow for this are:

-it’s not at all inevitable that everyone in a household catches covid if one person has it, certainly not all at exactly the same time (one is likely to catch it from the other). So contacts with more household members = more risk.

Adult > adult transmission is more common than child > adult. So adults within a childcare bubble mixing = increased risk

Increased frequency of mixing means more chance of people transmitting the virus when they’re pre-symptomatic. Eg FIL could be contagious now and get symptoms on Friday before the next scheduled childcare contact on Saturday. Frequently contacts increase the risk of people meeting when pre-symptomatic.

It’s not just about blindly following the rules, it’s about understanding why they were put in place.

@VinylDetective

Wow, ,that’s some projection *@justcannotwithyou*! Good thing my parents didn’t go through that thought process when we moved near them to look after them!

Oh yeah, 100% the same thing. Clearly.

YANBU tell DH to tell them you are working or pop down and explain quickly.

“Well if they are your childcare support bubble, they should only be there when the children are there and not socialising with the adults. THey'll have to wait outside until the children get home.”
Yeah because covid can tell what day it is now.

@notdaddycool

Expected to say YANBU, but YABU, they are part of your support bubble, you are legally one househould for COVID, they are helping you out but you area repaying this way. Pop down for a cuppa when he goes to collect the kids.

The OP is working. You know, the thing you get paid to do, where people expect you to be available during your work hours, except a couple of minutes of bathroom breaks here and there and for lunch. What jobs do people have where they work from home and they can just bugger off downstairs for a cuppa with guests? Some of us have to mute ourselves and bring the laptop to the bathroom due to unrelenting meetings

Pop down for 2 and offer a quick cuppa then go back upstairs. Not to be polite, but they look after your child so the least you could do is to say hi.

@Seeline

Well if they are your childcare support bubble, they should only be there when the children are there and not socialising with the adults. THey'll have to wait outside until the children get home.

Seriously??? Ffs!!!

@Suzi888

YANBU tell DH to tell them you are working or pop down and explain quickly.

“Well if they are your childcare support bubble, they should only be there when the children are there and not socialising with the adults. THey'll have to wait outside until the children get home.”
Yeah because covid can tell what day it is now.

It doesn't work like that.

Ideally nobody would have any contact whatsoever but we have been allowed childcare bubbles. This is not an excuse to double the time. People not getting this aggravates me.

Although the post was quite ridiculous to a couple who are doing OP a favour.

How are they a support bubble when neither if you are single adult households? Do you mean a childcare bubble? If so, they should only be entering your home to provide childcare when you and your husband aren't there. Childcare bubbles can't be used for social visits.

So tell them that you've decided to follow the law. Problem solved.

Why wouldn't you see them?! If the door rang, I'm sure that you would find the time to pop downstairs to answer it/collect a parcel etc. Therefore you have the time to pop downstairs, say hi, apologise that you are working, but make them a quick cuppa and hand them the remote. Or point them in the direction of the kettle. It would be rude not to at least pop down for a couple of minutes.

As someone who is cev and who is shielding from work which when you are used to being independent and just being able to get in my car and actually do my own shopping the abuse of rules winds me up . The longer people think oh it ok it doesn't matter the longer people like me have to shield because it still spreads. I would dearly love to see my DFF for a coffee or my inlaws who are amazing but I can't .But that my opinion I can't speak for everyone.