AIBU washing bedding

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AIBU to think bedding should not really need washing more than once a week (unless you have small children who wet the bed etc/ sickness etc)? My DD (13) has been putting out 2 or 3 lots of bedding a week for washing for the past few weeks and I feel it is totally unnecessary. It's not a bloody hotel. Pillowcases more often I'd live with for the sake of reducing acne but the whole lot doesn't need changing. I'd rather she showered more often and not wear PJs for most of the day. It's doing my head in, it's winter so it's not even easy to get it dried. How often do you normally change sheets/ bedding?

I wonder what has happened in the past few weeks to make her do this? Could you ask her why she suddenly feels she needs all this extra washing done?

Well, of course that's ridiculous. Unless she has her period and is struggling not to leak at night?

But I think every 2 weeks is fine, personally. Once a week okay. No more than that. Definitely do not become her laundry slave.

I tell people I change it weekly and I believe I do but actually it’s two weeks. DS1 is 14 and during lockdown he’s cleaner than normal, in school time his do get done weekly.

Make her do her own washing. You’ll be lucky if she changes the sheets once a month then.

Have you asked her why she does this? Once a week is fine.

I change our beds once a week. I would love to change them more but I just cannot keep on top of the laundry. Is there a reason for this happening now? If not and she wants clean bed linen up to 3 times a week then she needs to do it if the washer is free.

Show her how to use washing machine and tumble dryer!

@VinylDetective

Make her do her own washing. You’ll be lucky if she changes the sheets once a month then.

I'm not sure that's true given she is stripping and making the bed (is that right OP?) which is more of a pain than pressing 'wash'!

She is stripping the bed and now taking all the clean sheets so we can't change ours as there are none left. DH wants her to do the washing, she knows how, but isn't very forthcoming. I've put the second load in and hung up the first load today as I don't want it dragging on. I think it initially had something to do with her acne, I told her to change her pillowcase more often, but I did say that she only needed to change the pillowcase and not everything. Defo not due to period leakage as the sheets are not stained and it's been going on too many weeks.

Once a week for us in the winter, sometimes more often in the summer if it’s really hot.

I do mine every sunday and that's enough I can't be bothered to do it anymore often.

Surely you have said to your daughter "why do you keep changing the bed?". Surely?

Have her sheets become a focus for her? How had she been handling lockdown generally?

I think you need to have a delicate talk with her. Don’t even mention the sheets. Just try and find out how she is feeling right now and if she’s not coping.

You may like to point to her that washing it so often is not only necessary but very bad for the environment.

Once a week is plenty under normal circumstances.

Yes as pp says have you asked her why she is doing it?

If there’s no reason to wash them is stop her from doing it. It’s far too much and drying it all will be hard in this weather (if you’re in the uk)?

Have you not asked her ? I'd be asking

Hide the spare sheets.

Why not but her some pillowcases and make them just hers . Then don't mentioned it too much when she changes them.

Hopefully she not beginning it make it a ' thing ' that shes compelled to do.

Why is she doing it that much? Once a week is plenty although I think ours is often on for longer than that

Put your spare sheets in your room so she can't take them. She washes her bedding. More than once a week, unless they are actually dirty (sickness/whatever) is ridiculous.

I only do pillowcases every week with the towels, and my teen's bedding fortnightly.

I do mine every 2/3 days but I'm a pre-menopausal hot sleeper, sadly.

I'm mostly just impressed your DD is doing this AT ALL (I have a 15 year old teen who seems content wallowing in her own filth endlessly and doesn't know how the washing machine works) misses point of thread

Once a week only unless visibly soiled. I wouldn't be washing them though unless she says the reason why they need doing, make her put them back on the bed if you dont think they're dirty enough to change.

You need to explain to her that using all clean linen so no one else can change their bed is selfish.

Double check there isn’t something going on, otherwise tell her once a week is it (except one pillowcase re acne). Calmly explain you have a job, and you cannot do extra washing or deal w the disruption. She won’t know to think about this stuff.