AIBU washing bedding

[helpIhateclothesshopping]

AIBU to think bedding should not really need washing more than once a week (unless you have small children who wet the bed etc/ sickness etc)? My DD (13) has been putting out 2 or 3 lots of bedding a week for washing for the past few weeks and I feel it is totally unnecessary. It's not a bloody hotel. Pillowcases more often I'd live with for the sake of reducing acne but the whole lot doesn't need changing. I'd rather she showered more often and not wear PJs for most of the day. It's doing my head in, it's winter so it's not even easy to get it dried. How often do you normally change sheets/ bedding?

Once every two weeks (we don't have children yet though). DH would leave it for a month or longer if I let him. Gross.

I do find it a hassle stripping and remaking the bed though so wouldn't want to do it much more often.

Once a week

Ask her why, tell her once a week for the full bedding, every two or three days for the pillowcase if necessary

She's 13. Show her how the machine works and let her get on with the bedding on her own if she wants it washed that much.

Does she have acne that you haven't seen on her back, which she is worried about getting the sheets stained?

OP, there must be a reason for this.. Talk to her calmly, ask her gently why does she want to change it so often..

Have you asked her why she's doing it?

My teenage son changes his bedsheets every couple days (obviously a different reason to your dd !). He knows how the machine works. I just make sure he has access to clean whenever he needs them. I wouldn't restrict her or make her feel self conscious about it but I would tell her she needs to do her own laundry if she's going to change the bed as frequently.

I tell people I change it weekly and I believe I do but actually it’s two weeks.

I love this sentence. Me too.

@HeartZone

Show her how to use washing machine and tumble dryer!

And the iron, whether you iron bedding or not.

I wash my bedding about once a month, if that. I also never iron.

Hehe.

How on earth do we know why this is happening? Just ask her why she is wanting fresh bedding twice a week. FWIW, during the summer I change my youngest's bedding every few days but ... '14 year old teenage sweaty boy' sums that one up!

I wouldn't be opposed to a bed change twice a week but I'd like to have an idea of why

I change all beds as a rule every week, more often in summer

Allocate her a spare set of bedding and her share of the pillowcases and leave her to do her own washing of bedding. Don't let her take your bedding too.

We wash all bedding once a week or more. in summer might change beds daily if people are sweaty and as long as they strip beds, put in wash, switch on, redo their own beds then no problem with it.

Does anyone else have communal bedding?

I've always had separate bedding for each bed, as had everyone else I've known

@helpIhateclothesshopping

I change mine when I can be bothered, when the weather is looking like it'll come in drier than it went out - usually about every 4-5 days this time of year snd 2-3 days in the summer. I love getting into fresh, preferably line dried, bedding.

If she is stripping & making the bed it wouldn't bother me how many times she changed it.

If it's suddenly changed though
I'd be worried what it was all about & id talk to her.

Why not put aside a spare set for your bed so yours can be changed when needed?

Does anyone else have communal bedding?
I suppose it depends if the beds are the same size? We have a single and double bed so two separate sets per bed.

Non communal bedding and her doing her own washing is a good idea. Put everyone a spare set in their room and she is responsible for managing her own washing to the limit of her own bedding. She cant be making everyone else go without clean bedding because she's using it all. And there's no way I'd be washing bedding that often!

I dont do ours weekly, dont even care if that's dirty, there is nothing anyone could do to make me wash bedding and strip and remake a bed every week. I actually dont like clean bedding though, I hate getting into bed when it's just been washed.

Once a week, more in summer if it’s hot/sweaty.
If she has acne she would be better off showering and changing her pyjama top and pillow case every night, rather than the bedding.

Agree with allocating her her own two sets of bedding and then let her get on with it. (I have two sets in the wardrobe of each room, each person has their own, no swapping). If she's likely to go rooting around, hide all the rest of the fresh bedding so she has no idea where it is.

I also think trying to gently get to the bottom of why she's started doing this would probably be sensible (though it could just be she's got used to the nice feel of clean sheets of course).

FWIW my teen strips his bed once a week, everyone else gets fresh bedding every fortnight.

Weekly for us

I change the sheet every week, and the duvet cover every two weeks.
She should definitely be washing her own bedding AS SOON AS SHE CHANGE THE BED - and understand that such frequent bed changing is preventing others in the house from having clean bedding.

Every week here too. I’d complain about any more and we tumble dry it!

Show her how to use the machine and how to hang clothes on the washing line

Ooh! I do love a clean bed!!
Can’t wait for warmer months to get bedding dried outside!! Change mine twice a week in summer, weekly at the moment.
Mind you, I’m a ‘dribbler’ in my sleep (so is DS) so clean pillowcases every day, just plain white bedding so no problem matching up.

Does your DD feel she has a hygiene issue perhaps? I used to do my own washing from about age 12, so surely she can do her own, if she wants clean all the time?

Don’t do it for her then