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AIBU to take daughter out of school for 5 days despite being out of school a year.

88 replies

Hatecuddles · 07/02/2021 22:25

My daughter is in year 3. She has been out of school now since March with no return at all. She has been in shielding the whole time.
She hasn’t seen any school friends / she hasn’t been to the park etc
For 6 months she didn’t live the house at all. Recently has been allowed on walks.
Anyway she was due to go Disney land in August just gone, it was moved to April but been moved again til September which will land in school time.
She has a life limiting illness and the original holiday was meant to be from a wish charity.
She has been doing remote learning every day. She hasn’t had an ounce of outdoor fun in a year. She is however behind in some subjects especially reading.
Doing well in
Maths / science / art and music.
The school are not going to authorise the holiday and say it’s very unreasonable to keep her off school for a holiday after a year off which I do understand but I also feel like she needs this so bad and I can’t bare to tell her it’s cancelled for good.
Would I be an awful parent to take her ?

OP posts:
tsmainsqueeze · 07/02/2021 22:28

I would take her.

DigitalChristmas · 07/02/2021 22:28

If she’s been unwell enough to be granted a holiday from a wish charity, I’d go on the trip. Your dc’s well-being is the most important thing.

Rollintodarkness · 07/02/2021 22:28

Life is too short. Let her live it. If she's finding reading hard, give her travel books to read and plan her days, let her read leaflets you get about days out, life is for living... and this is coming from a teacher.
I would respond very differently under other circumstances, but it sounds like she, and you, need this.

Mincepiesallyearround · 07/02/2021 22:29

I think you would be a lovely parent to take her. Life is for living and after a year of no fun it will be brilliant for her, maybe you can work hard on reading between now and the autumn to catch her up. I’d be surprised at the school making a fuss to be honest. Go for it!

Thefrenchconnection1 · 07/02/2021 22:29

Go

BabbleBee · 07/02/2021 22:30

Go, in a heartbeat.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 07/02/2021 22:30

Yes I think I’d go from everything you’ve said

Norwayreally · 07/02/2021 22:32

Please take her.

NCnotAllThat · 07/02/2021 22:33

Take her. It’s a week she’ll “catch up” if that’s even a issue. 6 months not going outside and a year shielding is beyond most adults understanding and she’s done amazing to do that and continue her online learning etc. Give her the holiday.

(Only reservation i had on reading was whether you’d actually want to be somewhere like that in sept with crowds etc and whether it will be open but aware you’ll have all side side figured out/planned for)

porridgeface · 07/02/2021 22:33

I would take her.

BornOnTwelthNight · 07/02/2021 22:34

I wouldn’t even give this a second thought, Go!

littlefireseverywhere · 07/02/2021 22:35

Oh goodness, I’d go. When the trip runs, I’d go- sounds an amazing opportunity.

NCnotAllThat · 07/02/2021 22:35

Also to add I’m surprised school has said you are unreasonable. I know they’ll have to say they can’t authorise and give the official line but to actually say your unreasonable is a tad ott from them.

Mumof3girlsandaboy · 07/02/2021 22:37

I would take her.

FrankButchersDickieBow · 07/02/2021 22:38

Without a shadow of a doubt, take her on the trip!

ineedaholidaynow · 07/02/2021 22:38

If she has been shielding will it be a good idea from a COVID point of view to go

Pascha · 07/02/2021 22:39

100% agreement. That's rare for aibu. Take her and screw school.

dancinfeet · 07/02/2021 22:39

Even without taking your daughter's illness into account, many people have had to postpone summer 2020 holidays as cancelling may mean losing their money. Some of these may end up falling in term time instead as holiday companies try to accommodate everyone's bookings, parents juggle annual leave and so on. It's not as though you can schedule the holiday during lockdown!! 100% take her, it's one thing deliberately booking a term time holiday and quite another trying to re schedule one you have already paid for/ paid a deposit for, after a pandemic. Do what is best for your daughter

TeaAndToastx2 · 07/02/2021 22:39

Absolutely go. She deserves it

Alwaysready · 07/02/2021 22:39

Wouldnt think twice about it, I'd take her. Personally and speaking as a parent and teacher after the year our children have had, a week out of school for a holiday wont impact at all, and that's without a life limiting illness. Go and enjoy!

2306IRW · 07/02/2021 22:40

Definitely go x

CynthiaRothrock · 07/02/2021 22:40

I would take her. This has been granted from a wish charity, she (and you) obviously deserve the break! Go and enjoy.

SourMilkGhyll · 07/02/2021 22:41

Take her, no question.
If she is struggling and behind with reading anyway, the n in reality missing 5 days isn't going to make a huge difference.

scrivette · 07/02/2021 22:42

Absolutely take her, I hope it's a wonderful experience for her and you.

Pollypudding · 07/02/2021 22:43

@Hatecuddles
I would definitely take her- she has been through so much this year. The school are BU!