To not smell my daughter's armpits?

[RoseMartha]

This is a bit silly and lighthearted. But annoying at the same time. 🙄

My daughter had a bath with bath stuff in but did not use soap etc to wash herself, then when she got out wanted me to smell right in her armpits.

I said no.

She thinks I was unreasonable.

I told her it was unreasonable to expect me to smell a teenagers armpits.

And when she sits next to me I can smell them from there, especially as she hardly ever uses deodorant. (She has asd and issues with using deodorant and soap etc as doesnt like the feel of it). She does not care if she smells sweaty.

I told her that if I posted this on the internet I didnt think many people would think I should go right up to her armpits and smell them.

So here goes ... 🙂

Happy to sniff my kids.

I'd think she was after a lighthearted sniff to prove she was squeaky clean I'd have humoured her and have had a good sniff!

Then perhaps you should have sniffed them and gently told her they smell not too pleasant and she may have applied some deodorant. Explain to her that they will smell unpleasant if you don't use soap and deodorant.

Ummm I did today for DS15. Not pleasant but proved a point.

for some time I sniff-tested one of my soap dodger dc. straight back to the shower if no soap was used.

Wouldn’t bother me with my own kid.

Yep sorry I would for my kids and do for DH, he calls it the smell test. Usually fails

She needs to start using deodorant every single day, because having body odour is simply not acceptable. Help her find a product she can tolerate and then no one needs to be sniffing anyone's armpits.

Another one to sniff her own kid

She needs to start using deodorant every single day, because having body odour is simply not acceptable.

It’s her body. She doesn’t ‘need’ to do anything.

I meant “happy to”; happy NOT being the operative word

If you don't want to sniff them you shouldn't have to. Good oppertunity for a lesson in consent and not get in a huff when someone says no.

I start sniffing from quite a distance. Anyone - adult, teen or child with a hint of whiff gets sent back for washing, changing etc. No exceptions ever.

@Aquamarine1029

She needs to start using deodorant every single day, because having body odour is simply not acceptable. Help her find a product she can tolerate and then no one needs to be sniffing anyone's armpits.

No she doesn't. It's her armpits she can smell if she wants to.

Buy her the Mitchum stick. It's the only deodorant my son will use because the rest are too wet and the sprays leave marks and he doesn't like the smell.

I used to insist upon it when they first started getting sweaty just to check they were clean. Would certainly do it now if they wanted the approval.

I mean, they spent the first 9 months of existence living up my fanny. We’re not a prudish family.

Buy some Dettol soap bars, they're essential for hormonal women & sweaty teenagers particularly boys.

www.superdrug.com/Toiletries/Washing-&-Bathing/Soap/Dettol-Anti-Bacterial-Original-Soap-2-x100g/p/279952

Seems pointless actually sniffing her armpits if you already know she smells!

Interesting that some people think that she can smell if she wants to. What about the people who she lives with? Do they just have to put up with her body odour?

She can smell if she wants to but will have to accept that as a consequence the people who live with her don't like it and may keep avoiding her.

OP have you tried cream deodorants like nuud etc? Might have the same issue but they feel different to regular deodorants and are unscented, so she might get on with them better!

I'm the opposite. I get told off for surreptitiously sniffing my teen son when he doesn't want me too! I think you should have done tbh. Start sniffing from further a way then if she smells you don't have to get closer! And if she doesn't smell then there's no problem...

I'd be glad she's given you the opportunity to say there if is a problem

I'd at least attempt to sniff them especially if you're telling her she isn't clean. How else can she prove herself?
Check out the Aromaco deodorant bar from Lush, it's basically got the same sensation as a bar of soap, it's all natural and it smells decent.

No she doesn't. It's her armpits she can smell if she wants to.

Indeed she can - but it doesn't just affect her, and if no-one else wants to be near her then those are the consequences. Also, if she is wanting her armpits sniffed then I would take that as a sign she doesn't want to smell.

Boy, there are some strange people on MN!

Oh, I've just seen that she doesn't care if she smells sweaty. Well, that might change when no-one wants to be anywhere near her.

I have been known to sniff my kids if the need arise. Sometimes its invited ( sniff my feet) and sometimes it's not ( if you have brushed your teeth, let me smell your breath).

It's all part of the unpleasant side of parenting