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I bought a pre owned wardrobe now the place has bad energy..

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ItbarelysnowsinLondon · 07/02/2021 09:07

I want to start this post by saying I'm not generally a 'woo' person. I'm not talking about ghosts or implying that the furniture is haunted but I am wondering about bad energy. I've NC because I expect to be torn a new one Grin

Just over 2 weeks ago I bought a pre owned wardrobe on the Facebook market place. It's quite old.

Probably irrelevant but the people who delivered it were quite strange folk, the sort you get an uneasy feeling from. It was a very awkward handover.

Well ever since I got this wardrobe in the bedroom I've been plagued with disturbing nightmares every.single.night without fail.

My toddler DD who also sleeps in my room has been saying she is "scared" in the night now, she has never done that before. She doesn't know about my nightmares and has no reason to be so unsettled all of a sudden.

My mood has been quite low for the same amount of time with no particular cause identifiable, I'm finding myself feeling uncharacteristically short tempered and down.

AIBU to think all of the above may be linked to the wardrobe/bad energy.

Bonkers or possible?!

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CandidaAlbicans2 · 07/02/2021 20:01

Of course its not haunted in any way, and “cleansing” it with sage is...well...come on, it’s not the 17th century, we know a bit more about psychology (and science in general) these days. You got bad vibes from the sellers, then got worse when you looked them up on FB. Consciously or subconsciously you’ve been mulling that over which has caused the nightmares. Your DD has picked up on your changed mood, and maybe you’ve been restless in the night and disturbed her too. Give yourself a talking to 😆

CandidaAlbicans2 · 07/02/2021 20:20

Looks like 1980s mass produced - probably got the ghost of Thatcher in it
😂

Do you think the wardrobe has seen things no-one especially a wardrobe should see?
😆 What, like 1980s fashion? 😬

Ilovelove · 07/02/2021 20:27

Whether you 'believe it or not' the nightmares have begun.

I want to share my story with you because, I actually think you are more right, than you think.

  1. We were looking for cast iron fireplaces when we were doing up our house. We found one that fit in with the others in a merchant type place. It was the same pattern and so it made sense to buy it but it looked 'evil'. It looked like a normal fireplace, what I could see wasn't what you see with your eyes. But of course, that is woo and not real, so we went to buy it. Except we didn't because my husband went ' oh no there is something off with it'. And I was relieved because he felt it too. And I think it would have brought bad energy into our house, if we had bought it.

So, its made me trust my instinct a lot more, regardless of whether it makes logical sense.

rawalpindithelabrador · 07/02/2021 22:01

I think unless it's actually happened to you, you'll dismiss it and laugh it off. I certainly did. So did my DH.

GreenSlide · 07/02/2021 23:09

@GarlicZoflora

Poor wardrobe. I don’t think it’s ugly. It’s just feeling a little unloved. Give it a lovely clean and polish, get your toddler to “help”. Tell the wardrobe how pleased you are that it’s here, how solid it is, what a hood buy it was, how it matches the dressing table. In fact introduce the dressing table and the wardrobe to each other. Open a window. Have a cup of tea. Nice sit down. Say night night to it before you go to sleep. I promise all will be well tonight. I’m an expert in Woo, got a certificate in it from Woo Skool. Trust me.
GrinGrinGrinGrin
Mara2021 · 07/02/2021 23:16

@ZaraW

sebpearce.com/bullshit/

Although it's debatable as to whether what that generates is any more away with the fae and the unicorns than charlieharvey.org.uk/daily_mail/ (let alone the, er, "real" thing).

(I was serious about cleaning the item and burning a bit of incense though; for the placebo/psychological calming effect, if nothing else.)

mustbebetter · 07/02/2021 23:19

you need to do space clearing. Look up Karen Kingston and her book "creating sacred space with feng shui". It shows you why some objects have bad energy, and how to deal with it! There are some ceremonies and some other things you can do. It works. Best of luck.
NB Sageing alone may not work! You need to do a full space clearing ceremony....
Sounds woo, but works.

Carryingon · 07/02/2021 23:30

My (leading) feng shui consultant advised me not to get secondhand furniture because it absorbed energy from previous owners. Get rid.

ZaraW · 08/02/2021 06:30

@Carryingon

My (leading) feng shui consultant advised me not to get secondhand furniture because it absorbed energy from previous owners. Get rid.
Lol
ZaraW · 08/02/2021 06:33

Forgot to say your "leading" feng shui "consultant " will tell you to buy a new build house. Or maybe the builders negative energy has been absorbed in the walls or floorboards. You really couldn't live anywhere could you?

Carryingon · 08/02/2021 06:48

She also advised me not to live in a house where bad stuff had happened .

Calledyoulastnightfromglasgow · 08/02/2021 06:53

I would also try talking to it and maybe using some sage.

I do think negative emotions can persist. There is so much we don’t know.

Maskedcrusader · 08/02/2021 07:17

😁😁😁 I think this is my most favourite thread.

covetingthepreciousthings · 08/02/2021 07:28

Will you do an update once you've painted it OP?

I'd also be getting the sage out Grin

Imworthit · 08/02/2021 07:31

@Lifeinaonesie

Whats it made out of? Is it painted in arsenic or something? That would be my first thought, that it's giving off some kind of chemical rather than it being possessed!
Yeah I was gonna say mould
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ItbarelysnowsinLondon · 08/02/2021 08:39

Lol there's no mould on or in it and it doesn't smell.

Yes I'll update with a photo once I've upcycled it, it'll be about a weeks time (lots to do between now and Friday)

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pistachioglace · 08/02/2021 08:42

What do the eyes looking out of the gap in the door belong to ?

TheSandman · 08/02/2021 09:52

Also, the energy concept isn't woo, it's a proven scientific fact.

Citations please. (I'll wait...)

The idea of things absorbing 'energy' - by which, I guess, the user means 'Psychic energy' (whatever the fuck that is) is cobblers.

Paint it, move it, saw it up and use the wood to make shelves with. You just don't like the thing, feel you paid too much for it, and are externalising the buyer's remorse you feel into the object itself.

CandidaAlbicans2 · 08/02/2021 10:20

I've lived alone in 2 houses where people have died. One was where the owner had fallen down the stairs and was found by relatives a week or so later. The estate agent didn't tell me that when I bought the house, I found out from a neighbour after a few weeks. The other house was built in 1750 so there would've been numerous births and deaths there, so I was half expecting to feel something.

During the years spent in those properties I had 4 dogs, and numerous boyfriends and visitors (including 1 into woo), yet none of them picked up anything, despite animals “knowing”. No spooky feelings, no bumps in the night, no apparitions. Oh, and I had loads of second hand stuff too Confused

DejaVoodoo · 08/02/2021 11:53

@Carryingon

My (leading) feng shui consultant advised me not to get secondhand furniture because it absorbed energy from previous owners. Get rid.
😂😂

I think it’s the “leading” here that really makes this comment!

But really, what a pile of cack. Most of my furniture is 2nd hand: old and very old things I’ve bought and upcycled (or just left) and lots of oriental and African things that my PIL bought and used in their expat homes. My house is lovely and happy.

Older furniture is (generally) much better made and more sturdy, and buying 2nd hand is far more environmentally friendly. I’m so done with IKEA chests of drawers with cardboard bottoms in the drawers that fall apart after a couple of years. So wasteful.

DynamoKev · 08/02/2021 11:59

@Carryingon

She also advised me not to live in a house where bad stuff had happened .
How do you do that? Do you ask the solicitors to add a question that says "has anything bad ever happened in the property"?
DynamoKev · 08/02/2021 12:04

@Carryingon

My (leading) feng shui consultant advised me not to get secondhand furniture because it absorbed energy from previous owners. Get rid.
The only (leading) thing about your consultant is their ability to extract cash from gullible people.
HikeForward · 08/02/2021 12:10

I’d get the white sage out, and also burn some palo santo wood and esfand seeds in the room (ventilate well and ensure there are no smoke alarms!)

All 3 of these have anti-bacterial, anti-viral properties as well as being used to fumigate eg insect infestations, so there may be more to smudging than removing negative energy. They also smell very aromatic and pleasant.

I’d also give it a good clean with Dettol and wood polish, or sand and paint it ASAP if that’s the plan.

GarlicZoflora · 08/02/2021 12:28

You don’t expect the OP to come back do you? Not after another night with that unsmudged wardrobe.

Oysterbabe · 08/02/2021 12:34

@GarlicZoflora

You don’t expect the OP to come back do you? Not after another night with that unsmudged wardrobe.
She's had it for sure. They will always wonder where she went and eventually clear the house. The wardrobe will be passed on. The new owner will start to feel uneasy but not know why. If they looked closely at the patterns in the wood they would notice that one of the swirls and knots resembles a woman screaming.