Ruined our lives with second baby

[FatherNeilHannon]

We were happy. Have a beautiful 6 year old and life was easy. Now got a 4 week screaming baby, everything is hard and shit. AIBU to ask if it gets any easier.

I remembered this thread as I was the first poster on it after you. So glad to hear things are better now.

That's so great to hear @FatherNeilHannon

I am so glad that things are much better for you now. It can be nearly impossible at the time to even imagine that things will get better. You've done amazingly. Wishing you all the very best.

So I'm bumping this as my baby is 1 tomorrow!

To anyone else who is in the depths, it gets so much better. We are all so utterly in love with him and he is just the biggest ray of sunshine in our lives. He adds so much to our family. No regrets anymore - I'm going back to work in a few weeks and utterly dreading it cos I love being with him so much!

@FatherNeilHannon

No physical causes, he's doing very well. I've been suffering from severe postnatal anxiety so constantly on red alert (I'm being treated). I just feel like life was lovely and now it's shit.

That’s because it kinda is.. you’ve gone from enjoying a pretty normal life where you can communicate with your child and speak to other adults to NOTHING BUT SCREAMING BABY AND NO SLEEP… it isn’t enjoyable, it’s not meant to be ❤️.

You already know that everything comes in phases, this tiny baby will soon smile at you and laugh/gurgle and generally make it all worth while. Then you’ll be slapped in the face with a sleep regression or two. Then they’ll be running around in the field together 😀.

This part represents a minuscule proportion of parenting and it’s fine to not really enjoy it, do whatever necessary to get you all through as comfortably as possible.

Oopsy, sorry I should have read the dates😬

Ah what a lovely update, I'm really pleased for you OP.

I hope your experience helps others who come here looking for words from women who have been where they are.

So happy to read the update!

I could have posted the exact same thing when my DS2 was that age. He was very much planned and loved but I thought 'wtf have we done?!'

Turned out I had PND (and was horribly sleep deprived!) but I didn't realise that at the time.

He's 10 now!

So yes, to anyone out there feeling the same, I promise it gets easier and it will get easier quicker if you ask for / accept help when you need it!

Well that's a lovely update. So glad to hear it OP.

And happy birthday to the wee guy for tomorrow!

I’ve got a 6 year old and expecting another one any day now, so I’m sooo relieved to read your updates (after reading from the beginning and thinking it was a fresh thread). My first was an absolute nightmare and screamed from day to night so I am quite worried, but then I think surely there’s no way it can be as difficult as the first time round.

So great to have the updates
Thank you for taking the time. Happy birthday to your sunshine

Great update. I had the exact same experience, a lovely easy 6 year old and a very much planned and wanted baby who was never happy for the first 6 months. Thought I’d made a dreadful mistake but things turned from once she turned 6 months. She’s nearly 15 now and is a character 😊.