To ask at what age you put your child in nursery?

[chuckb4ss]

Was it part time or full time, and did you feel it was beneficial for your child?

I've read that research shows babies should be with their primary caregiver for the first few years in order to create a secure, healthy attachment, but I simply cannot last that long!

#1 and #2 never went to nursery or preschool. They're now 10 and 8 and at school.

#3 went part time at 2, two mornings a week. He is now 3 and and does school hours every day while I'm at work.

7 months old - full time. All worked out fine.

Didn't answer the question. I don't really thin my son benefitted directly until he was 3.

They were both not quite 1 but they rarely went more than 2 days a week
It was out of necessity (work)
If it wasn’t for that I would have waited until they were old enough for the church playgroup which runs for 3h every morning. They have to be 2 for that.

Two and it was part time and I think it was too young as she wasn't able to tell me if anyone was horrible or understand time in terms of me coming back for her later.

6 months, full time 7.30-5 Monday-Friday. She’s 17 months now and loves every minute of it

In Belgium kids very often go to crèche from 4 months, because maternity leave is short here and creches are often subsidised by the government. The country as a whole isn't populated by dysfunctional people who hate their parents, so it can't do that much harm in general!

A year when I went back to work

@chuckb4ss

Was it part time or full time, and did you feel it was beneficial for your child?

I've read that research shows babies should be with their primary caregiver for the first few years in order to create a secure, healthy attachment, but I simply cannot last that long!

My son is adopted, he started nursery at 2.5 when he had been with me a year, he attended four days a week until he started school. He has a very secure attachment to me.

Don’t stress about the research you have read.

I was a SAHM so didn't need it for childcare. Mine started doing three mornings a week between 2.5 and 3 years old.

Must add, when she went to a different nursery pt at 3 it was just about OK although she did get a urine infection as she was too young to totally understand about wiping front to back and they wouldn't help her.

12months for 2 sessions a week until they got their funded hours after they turned 3. It was what was best for us all for several reasons.

@speakout

I didn't. Only a pre school year at 4- part time ( reception equivalent) Far too busy having fun and learning to want to use nursery.

Lol. Ok.

2 years

11 months. 4 days a week and 1 with gparent. We needed reliable, all day childcare that wouldn't close due to illness etc. Nursery was it.

2y 3m

DS1 at four months and DS2 at five months. Both pt.
Selfishly it was for my benefit not theirs, as I wanted to go back to work and we had zero family help. Nursery was the only break we ever got.
Now 18 and 15 and both top set, independant teens with no issues.
No regrets at all. I enjoyed their childhood much more and my pension is great.

At 11 months, for 2 long days a week. She's now 2 and going up to 3 days a week. She loves it and gets really excited about going.

6 months for both of mine. I had to go back to work for financial reasons. Both are perfectly happy well adjusted adults now.

11 months old 3 days a week (other 2 will PIL at their request).

15 months old 4 days a week (PIL realised 2 days was too much for them).

2 years old 5 days a week (FIL got cancer and couldn't be around kids during chemo).

She absolutely loves it, is totally ready for school (turned 4 in Sept, very disappointed not to go to school with her slightly older friends). It's been fab for her, and us. I always knew I wouldn't be cut out to 'mum' 24/7.

I would have liked to return to work part time and spend a bit more time with her, maybe work 3 days a week, but it just wasn't possible.

15 months for 2 days a week. He's only been going a few weeks but has come on so much already. I think at the moment nursery does them the world of good, whilst nothing else is open

5 weeks with a childminder on a pt basis - many years later I am a little shocked at myself really, but I was a mature SM student and either gave up my degree or battled on and got my degree, which I did.

Can't really say if it was the right thing to do or not, worth it or not - I wouldn't know as it was what I did and you asked.

Having had later experiences with 'Nurseries' my preference is always for Childminders.

6 months, full time for both. They've turned out fabulous. When they started school, they had already been through the catching every bug in sight phase and they were definitely ahead in terms of socialising and early reading/numeracy. Their nursery didn't push it on them, but encouraged it if the child showed an interest. Settling in school was a piece of cake.

In fact, mine ended up in nursery, various childminders and asc. Neither appears to have been damaged. Ds still speaks fondly of nursery. Dd was 3 when she moved to cm, so doesn't really remember. He is more aloof than dd, but that's personality all the way.

Both of mine were a year. My eldest went 4 days and youngest 3 days (I reduced the eldest's hours on maternity leave). I don't know if it was more beneficial to be at nursery than at home but they both loved it.

My youngest is 3.5 and in preschool and it's certainly been beneficial in lockdown (am a nurse and husband works out of the home so couldn't have him at home)