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Who feels anxious and low about Spring coming?

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crochetmonkey74 · 04/02/2021 08:12

Since a child, I have always had a dread in my stomach when the nights get lighter, like a creeping feeling of more hours to fill, worry that I'll not have enough to do, or the people to do it with. A sense of ennui that ANOTHER year has passed. It's really strange and no one IRL that I know has it. My life is full of people excited and happy about Spring. I do get that this year particularly we need hope and happiness. I was just curious if anyone else had this Spring dread?

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JaniceEvans · 04/02/2021 08:18

TS Elliot "April is the cruelest month, breeding
lilacs out of the dead land, mixing
memory and desire, stirring
dull roots with spring rain."

Personally I find spring hopeful, nature awakening etc but I think if your feeling low then everyone else being positive and life starting again can kind of rub it in your face iyswim.

shouldistop · 04/02/2021 08:19

I'm the opposite but I'm sure there will be others who share those feelings.
Bumping for you.

Mummadeze · 04/02/2021 08:20

No, I don’t have any feelings towards Spring but I do get really excited about Autumn.

Jasperjosephjulian · 04/02/2021 08:22

Have you tried growing veg? It makes spring such a lovely time and full of little jobs to do. I'm not much good (only really got into it last year) but it's given me a lot of joy. Even just checking my window seedlings each afternoon. And as the days progress the seedlings get bigger... Helps out a positive in each day.

HeronLanyon · 04/02/2021 08:24

op I am 100% with you. I’ve always thought it’s a kind of reversed from usual SAD. Really don’t enjoy those mixed days where weather is all over the place and everything is kind of wet and muddy and sunlight makes everything shine and glare and flora is budding but not budded. I really don’t like evening getting lighter.
Love summer. It’s just the ‘messy in between bit’ which is least favourite but if year by miles. March and April.

speakout · 04/02/2021 08:24

I think I understand a little OP.

Spring brings fresh light, glaring, exposes dust and months of over eating as we open up and peel off layers.
Expectations are higher in the summer months- to do things and have fun.
In the winter it is acceptable to curl up under a blanket and read a book, spring demands more of us.

KitBumbleB · 04/02/2021 08:25

Yes!

Completely agree OP. For me I think its the FOMO, everyone is happy about spring and summer and lighter nights etc and I just feel so alone

ChancesWhatChances · 04/02/2021 08:25

I get this when it starts turning into winter, it’s part of seasonal affective disorder (though I usually get more than anxiety, depression and a need to “shut down” are the harder ones to deal with). I’m unsure if you can get seasonal affective disorder in other seasons but if you feel like it has a big detriment to your life you can speak to your doctor? There’s other treatment options than just anti depressants, though I’m not sure you’d need light therapy in the spring?

mizu · 04/02/2021 08:31

Agree. I feel a bit like this about spring too. Love the winter and the short evenings. Love summer too, I'm a teacher (although not schools so don't get 6 weeks off but good hols anyway) and autumn and the nights drawing in is my favourite term.

For me, it's mostly the weather I think, can't make up its mind, we are all desperate for warmth and it takes so long to arrive!

cheezy · 04/02/2021 08:34

I get this too OP. I never feel low about the nights drawing in, but I find there's something a bit depressing about Summer, when everyone's out having fun and doing stuff. I love Spring in some ways, but it also comes with a touch of existential dread.

Ginfordinner · 04/02/2021 08:34

No. I'm the opposite. I can't wait for the longer, lighter evenings. I get SAD, and have poor eyesight, and I see better in brighter light.

cobblers123 · 04/02/2021 08:35

I have to admit the thought of spring is one thing that's kept me going since December. I also love noticing the slightly lighter evenings too.

Spring can't come fast enough for me.

DinosaurDiana · 04/02/2021 08:36

I always enjoy the change into a new season.

Taikoo · 04/02/2021 09:11

I do not like the days after hallowe'en where its a long time till xmas and the evenings are dark and cold.
I also dislike January.

userxx · 04/02/2021 09:15

I'm the complete opposite. Spring brings new beginnings and optimism. I love getting in from work and having the extra light to do things in the house or garden.

nuitdesetoiles · 04/02/2021 09:17

I like spring but not keen on summer, dread the whole everyone out having fun thing and feel like some kind of social failure if we haven't got weekends consistently packed with social engagements.
Autumn is by far my favourite season, I feel loads more energetic and love walking in autumn. Always breathe a sigh of relief at the end of August which is my most disliked month.

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crochetmonkey74 · 04/02/2021 09:18

@Mummadeze

No, I don’t have any feelings towards Spring but I do get really excited about Autumn.
Yes the end of the year, that cosier feeling of hunkering down I love!
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crochetmonkey74 · 04/02/2021 09:20

@ChancesWhatChances

I get this when it starts turning into winter, it’s part of seasonal affective disorder (though I usually get more than anxiety, depression and a need to “shut down” are the harder ones to deal with). I’m unsure if you can get seasonal affective disorder in other seasons but if you feel like it has a big detriment to your life you can speak to your doctor? There’s other treatment options than just anti depressants, though I’m not sure you’d need light therapy in the spring?
Its not enough to see a doctor, and I manage it and it passes, but it's just a low feeling

Agree with PP who said a bit of FOMO

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userxx · 04/02/2021 09:21

Yes the end of the year, that cosier feeling of hunkering down I love!

The thought depresses the hell out of me. I feel like a caged bird.

VinylDetective · 04/02/2021 09:22

@cobblers123

I have to admit the thought of spring is one thing that's kept me going since December. I also love noticing the slightly lighter evenings too.

Spring can't come fast enough for me.

Absolutely. The longer days, first signs of buds and the glimpse of snowdrops and celandines make my heart soar. Fuck off winter and take your time coming back!
userxx · 04/02/2021 09:24

7 weeks until the clocks go forward 👏👏👏👏

Ginfordinner · 04/02/2021 09:26

@userxx

Yes the end of the year, that cosier feeling of hunkering down I love!

The thought depresses the hell out of me. I feel like a caged bird.

Me too. Whenever I see the word "cosy" it reads "claustrophobic" to me.
CeibaTree · 04/02/2021 09:26

I just find spring the most boring season of the year

notanotherlockdownsurely · 04/02/2021 09:27

I always used to get it on the last day of the summer term. A feeling of melancholy. I adored being off and adored having time with the children but there was this sense of feeling I was expected to do so much, to make it oh so much fun fun fun. And, being a natural pessimist, I'd start grieving that the summer holidays would only last six weeks! Totally bizzare but I get you OP

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 04/02/2021 09:30

Summer Seasonal Affective Disorder

patient.info/news-and-features/why-do-some-people-get-depressed-in-summer

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