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Who feels anxious and low about Spring coming?

171 replies

crochetmonkey74 · 04/02/2021 08:12

Since a child, I have always had a dread in my stomach when the nights get lighter, like a creeping feeling of more hours to fill, worry that I'll not have enough to do, or the people to do it with. A sense of ennui that ANOTHER year has passed. It's really strange and no one IRL that I know has it. My life is full of people excited and happy about Spring. I do get that this year particularly we need hope and happiness. I was just curious if anyone else had this Spring dread?

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Notanotherfreak · 04/02/2021 09:30

I have this! I dread Easter too because of it. I always thought I was a bit odd but Spring coming fills me with dread too.

FirstladyKirkman · 04/02/2021 09:31

I the opposite I'm afraid. There is nothing more I love than a spring day. Perfect Spring Sunday would be: Blazing sunshine, but still a bit of a chill. Windows open with a bunch of fresh daffs in a vase. All whilst cooking a mega roast dinner for my closest friends and supping on a bitter shandy. If I'm lucky one of the neighbours may be cutting their grass for the 1st time so get a lovely whiff of fresh cut grass mixing with gravy I'm cooking........ (now feels depressed!) 🙄

BernardsarenotalwaysSaints · 04/02/2021 09:32

Opposite here too, I look forward to Spring & countdown to the clock change but loathe Autumn & the dark nights & damp cooler weather. My ndn is the same, we joke we're solar powered. I like to be outside, pottering in the garden, my dc are the same.

Atrixie · 04/02/2021 09:34

I’m the opposite. I struggle hugely in December January and February with the darkness and lack do daylight. I am just starting to see the days get a bit longer and feel my mood lifting accordingly. From mid summer I start to dread the days getting shorter

CaptainSirTomMooreismyhero · 04/02/2021 09:36

I'm the opposite. I get excited seeing the new shoots in the garden and love the different light that brightens the bedroom on waking.
I love all seasons in different ways, but I don't like the darkness of winter days.

Tinkywinkydinkydoo · 04/02/2021 09:41

I’m exactly the same, I hate it when it’s light past 8pm, hate being hot and heatwaves, just seems so much pressure to give the kids a fantastic summer experience with pools and beaches and days out and I find it exhausting and count down the days until September!

HOkieCOkie · 04/02/2021 09:42

I love spring, it’s a time of new beginnings. Birds return, flowers and leaves grow back. The weather starts to get warmer and it’s brighter and lighter outside. This year it’ll really feel like a new beginning as hopefully the pandemic will be winding down and maybe just maybe a few restrictions will be lifted.

LaceyBetty · 04/02/2021 09:45

I don't dread it, but not wild about spring either. Can't put my finger on exactly why, but these posts are making sense to me.

romany4 · 04/02/2021 09:45

I'm a Winter baby. Love Autumn. Absolutely love Winter, knowing Christmas is coming, dark cosy evenings, dark mornings. I sleep much better in Winter.

Spring and Summer is just disrupted sleep due to getting light too early and getting dark late.
Bedroom windows open because it's too hot and then getting disturbed by the noise and the birds bloody tweeting at 4am.
And it seems to go on forever!
DH has bought me noise cancelling headphones for this year as I was getting quite tetchy last Summer with the amount of noise.

Roll on Autumn again!

oneglassandpuzzled · 04/02/2021 09:48

@JaniceEvans

TS Elliot "April is the cruelest month, breeding lilacs out of the dead land, mixing memory and desire, stirring dull roots with spring rain."

Personally I find spring hopeful, nature awakening etc but I think if your feeling low then everyone else being positive and life starting again can kind of rub it in your face iyswim.

I was just thinking about that very quotation yesterday.
likeamillpond · 04/02/2021 09:48

I wonder if it's because Spring is a time of buds and the birds and the bees and it's a reminder to a lot of people that their youth has come and gone, and theyll never get another chance to expeeience th exuberanct feeling of being new and having your whole life ahead of you, with all its exciting possibilities.

Bloody hell now I've depressed myself!

borntohula · 04/02/2021 09:48

I used to feel like this about summer approaching but I was associating it with certain memories. Now, I focus on all the best parts of it.

Ginfordinner · 04/02/2021 09:48

I think it depends where you live as well. I would hate to live in a small flat in London with no outside space.

We have a house with a garden on the edge of the Pennines, and we very rarely get the stifling heat that Londoners get.

dottiedodah · 04/02/2021 09:48

I get where you are coming from .When my DC were younger ,I would feel I had to be creating a super summer of days out /visits to the beach and so on .Light nights seem to suggest its not acceptable to watch TV ,stay inside or whatever .Must be outside doing Garden (ugh)! or going for lovely Evening Walks .Yeah cos we havent been on the go all day right! Also seem to get sore throats .and feel tired in warmer weather as well!

Ginfordinner · 04/02/2021 09:51

And I love gardening. Pottering about dead heading roses in my honeysuckle scented garden in a warm summer's evening is my idea of heaven.

HeronLanyon · 04/02/2021 09:59

likeamillpond that made me Grin then Sad.
Then remembered I’ve felt this way about spring all of my long life. So I’ll forget you said that.
Plus pp fomo thoughts. Think I bit of it for me is iften thinking ‘oh god I haven’t sorted out summer getaway yet-I should dine it months ago’ - well this year that feeling won’t feature !

Heyahun · 04/02/2021 09:59

Don’t get this at all - we’ve just had a hiring long ass bloody winter trapped in lockdown - unable to go anywhere - even the park for a walk sometimes cus the bad weather - or because it’s dark by the time work is finished

Spring, longer days, better weather will be amazing

Calledyoulastnightfromglasgow · 04/02/2021 10:02

April is my least favourite month but I’m never sure why! It think it’s because it’s changeable weather

Sorry you are struggling with it. Would planting some spring colour lift spirits a little?

Skyla2005 · 04/02/2021 10:02

I love the first morning I can hang the washing out in the garden God how did I get so old !

shouldistop · 04/02/2021 10:05

@dottiedodah that's probably hayfever.

TrickorTreacle · 04/02/2021 10:26

I get you OP. It affects both physical and mental health. Physical = migraines due to the sun being high in the sky. Mental = mild depression, nightmares. Then there is the heat as well. Not a fan at all. I prefer the sun being low on the horizon.

This is also why lockdown 1.0 was worse for me than LD 2.0 and 3.0.

It's called inverse-SAD. The normal version of SAD is where people get depressed during the darker months.

crochetmonkey74 · 04/02/2021 10:27

but it also comes with a touch of existential dread

I always used to get it on the last day of the summer term. A feeling of melancholy. there was this sense of feeling I was expected to do so much, to make it oh so much fun fun fun

These sum it up exactly!

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80sMum · 04/02/2021 10:28

OP I am the polar opposite of you!

Every day following the day that the clocks go back at the end of October, I count down the number of days until the winter solstice, the day when the darkness stops increasing and we start the journey into Spring.

On my daily walks, I observe and am cheered by the sight of the catkins turning green and the appearance of the first tiny shoots of the snowdrops, then the crocuses and now the daffodils pushing up through the bare earth: those exquisite little harbingers of Spring and the lighter days to come.

I absolutely love Spring! Just typing about it here induces a mild euphoria within me and I can't help smiling as I'm writing this. Every day I note the time of the sunset, as shown on the BBC weather app. Today it is 16.59 where I live - and tomorrow we pass what is for me a noteworthy threshold, that of sunset being after 17.00, the knowledge of which lifts my spirits immensely.

crochetmonkey74 · 04/02/2021 10:29

@Skyla2005

I love the first morning I can hang the washing out in the garden God how did I get so old !
Now this I can appreciate! I love this too
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WhenISnappedAndFarted · 04/02/2021 10:31

I'm the opposite. I'm looking forward to the spring so much and always dread Autumn because it gets colder and gloomier

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