Torturing a soft toy

[justbinthefeckinbyebyebox]

Sorry for this in advance!
Is it ever acceptable for a primary school child to cut the eyes out of a teddy bear to use for other purposes?
I need some prospective but I'm horrified!!!

@justbinthefeckinbyebyebox

ChloeCrocodile funny that we did watch that at the weekend, explains alot now

The "Aha!" moment....

Ruining a perfectly good toy that another child could love and appreciate. Toy eyes are readily available eg via ebay so theres no need to "kill" a teddy!

Doesnt sound like normal behaviour in the slightest

@PenfoldPenny

Ruining a perfectly good toy that another child could love and appreciate. Toy eyes are readily available eg via ebay so theres no need to "kill" a teddy!

There's no need to spend money either and buy even more plastic for the sake of a pair of eyes.

You can't kill a teddy. . You can't "kill" it either. Even by cutting up it's eyes.

My dds age 5 and 6 regularly amputate old teddy bears, cut off the eyes and glue them to other things,cut Barbies hair ,removed feet from dolls etc. Harmless they are just being creative usually they use the parts of said toys to create other toys or pictures .

Sounds like you have a negative opinion of the child.

My dds age 5 and 6 regularly amputate old teddy bears, cut off the eyes and glue them to other things,cut Barbies hair ,removed feet from dolls etc. Harmless they are just being creative usually they use the parts of said toys to create other toys or pictures .

This does not strike me as usual.

I can’t believe how many people’s kids mutilate their soft toys. It’s just not very nice. I think it’s nasty bratty behaviour and a sign of a not very warm or sensitive child tbh

The crux is ‘ to be used for something else’ so no , not a problem. Why are you getting so involved?

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Did you consider suggesting to your child that she not be such a drama queen?
My kids give their soft toys to my mum’s dogs once they’ve outgrown them. Not one has survived intact for longer than a week - torn “limb from limb” in fact - the horror!

I used to cut my Barbie’s hair off and often decapitated them too. I hated Barbie’s in all fairness and I always used to get bought them so felt forced to punish them. I’m perfectly normal now as an adult.

'Isn't exactly the nicest child' Well that it then! Job done! They are a future murderer!! Keep your child away from them at all costs! !! Don't, whatever you do, ask the teacher what happened and how it was addressed... No, no! Come on to mums net to show your horror! !!

Poor kid having other parents judge him/her.....

I tried to cut the nose off my barbie once as I was convinced that it was too small to smell anything!!! 😂😂

It's a teddy!!!!!

@TheYearOfSmallThings

My dds age 5 and 6 regularly amputate old teddy bears, cut off the eyes and glue them to other things,cut Barbies hair ,removed feet from dolls etc. Harmless they are just being creative usually they use the parts of said toys to create other toys or pictures .

This does not strike me as usual.

That reminds me of Sid from toy story 😂

Just sounds practical to me.
Reduce, reuse, recycle 😁

She isn't exactly the nicest child
She's 6 or 7 and playing! What on earth goes on in your head to start writing a young child off like this as "not exactly the nicest"? You need to be very careful how you speak with your own daughter to make sure she doesn't pick up your bad attitude.

@MRex,

The OP said ‘she isn’t exactly the nicest child’ to add context to her concerns over the teddy bear, not because of it. You are either not reading carefully or deliberately misinterpreting what the OP said.

Regardless of whether the child attached feelings to the toy bear (they are constructed to look like a living thing for that purpose, I think wilfully destroying something someone has given to you (almost certainly without permission) and bragging about it is not nice.

The idea that taking things apart is ‘creative’ is only true if you are creating something worthwhile. We don’t know what this child was using the eyes for but I would not assume she was a creative child because she cut a teddy bear’s eyes out to use ‘for something’.

Most of us know children that we would not feel comfortable with our own children mixing with. This will be based on a combination of knowledge and gut feeling Based in what the OP has actually said, the child does not sound nice or empathetic.

Others have addressed whether its normal or not to do stuff like that. But I have a 6 year old and he has been crying, getting very upset over the most ridiculous things. It is really because of the pandemic and the fact the whole of the past year has been so strange. The other children's reaction will likely have been as much to do with that than the other stuff.

And the people saying it is only "creative" if they are creating something worthwhile. Well, yes but a 6 year olds idea of "worthwhile" is different to most peoples idea of worthwhile. Mine once destroyed a really nice throw by cutting a hole in it to make a superhero cape. He got seriously told of (I am not so hippy-dippy that him breaking other peoples stuff is excused as "hes just showing his creativity") but there is no doubt in his impulsive 6 year olds head he was creating something important.
I also think that we tend to judge/crack down on that behaviour in girls more than boys and that is wrong.

[quote TheReluctantPhoenix]@MRex,

The OP said ‘she isn’t exactly the nicest child’ to add context to her concerns over the teddy bear, not because of it. You are either not reading carefully or deliberately misinterpreting what the OP said.

Regardless of whether the child attached feelings to the toy bear (they are constructed to look like a living thing for that purpose, I think wilfully destroying something someone has given to you (almost certainly without permission) and bragging about it is not nice.

The idea that taking things apart is ‘creative’ is only true if you are creating something worthwhile. We don’t know what this child was using the eyes for but I would not assume she was a creative child because she cut a teddy bear’s eyes out to use ‘for something’.

Most of us know children that we would not feel comfortable with our own children mixing with. This will be based on a combination of knowledge and gut feeling Based in what the OP has actually said, the child does not sound nice or empathetic.[/quote]

1. You have no idea where the teddy came from, if it was given or bought with her money, whether the kid got permission or whatever. You are just making the worst assumptions based on OP's opinion of the kid not being very nice or your own projections.

1. There are very few things kids consider worthwhile that we as adults would consider them worthwhile as well. However, again, you are making the worst assumptions again without knowing what she used them for. Maybe she used the eyes of an old,tatty teddy to fix her beloved one. Maybe she used them as buttons for a school project as they had none in the house.

1. Most toys aren't made to look realistic. How many rainbow ,unicorn cats or teddies have you seen running around?

You're inclined to think the worst of this child based on very little information. Once again, that bothers me more than the kid actually "torturing" "mutilating" "killing" (or whatever other emotive language has been used) a soft toy.

@ReceptacleForTheRespectable

You’re imagining things. Op said she isn’t the nicest child. Very likely she isn’t. That doesn’t mean op dislikes her. She simply observed that she isn’t the nicest child.

That doesn’t mean op dislikes her.
Nonsense, nobody would say that in normal conversation about a little kid. It's horribly judgemental. OP's kid sadly is likely to pick this stuff up and so dramas begin.

@MRex

That doesn’t mean op dislikes her. Nonsense, nobody would say that in normal conversation about a little kid. It's horribly judgemental. OP's kid sadly is likely to pick this stuff up and so dramas begin.

I would. Lots of kids can be a bit unpleasant - their personalities are still developing. It’s not judgemental at all to recognise and acknowledge that and op has said nothing to suggest her own child would have ‘picked up on’ this supposed dislike. Total nonsense!!

My little sister used to break her dolls, pull limbs off etc, use red marker to draw blood on. Freaked me out....turned out she was playing hospital. She’s a nurse now and perfectly sane.

She’s either just creative or trying to scare the other kids for fun wouldn’t worry

My daughter would possibly be a bit shocked as I'm a bit over strict about treating toys/ things with respect. I've warned not to cut barbies hair for example. Maybe I should let go a bit and allow creativity

OP you're being very selective at what you reply to. Multiple posters have called you out on saying you don't dislike her when you said early in the thread that she wasn't a nice child who likes to cause upset.

This really sounds like your trying to create drama over nothing. Would you normally make a big deal out of everything?

@Mmn654123 - Lots of kids can be a bit unpleasant - their personalities are still developing. It’s not judgemental at all
Children are learning and growing; they will all do things that are good or bad and that doesn't reflect on a character that has not yet fully formed. It's the overly critical behaviour of adults who write off children as "unpleasant" that will have the most detrimental long-term effect on a child. Of course it's judgemental to be critical, use a dictionary if you don't understand the words used.