Torturing a soft toy

[justbinthefeckinbyebyebox]

Sorry for this in advance!
Is it ever acceptable for a primary school child to cut the eyes out of a teddy bear to use for other purposes?
I need some prospective but I'm horrified!!!

I scribbled all over my dolls' faces as a child. I just loved the sensation of pushing the ballpoint pen across soft, clean plastic. I loved the look of the bold pen strokes on the pale surfaces. The dolls weren't 'little people' with emotions, they were a source of sensory delight.

Other times I would cry because I had found the lonely lid of a jam jar that had lost its mummy jar. Children are very strange.

It depends...was she really 'torturing' it? That would be worrying.
If she was just using the eyes for something else, perhaps not.

As a child I poked out the eyes of my doll, it was a "close eyes" doll, she went to sleep if you lay her down. I couldn't see how the mechanism worked and tried to get them out to find out. I never thought about what I was doing but my mother was appalled and thought there was something wrong with me. I've never harmed a thing since, including dolls!!

I used to pull the arms, legs and heads off my Barbie dolls. Then I trained to be a physiotherapist

I used to do all sorts of things to my soft toys when I was little because they had been naughty. Now as a grown up I volunteer for 2 animal charities

I did that. I was just curious abut how it was put together.

That's totally fucked up and a sign of serious potential mental health issues. I would get social care involved.

There was a boy at my school who boasted about how he cut a "vagina" into his teddy bear and had sex with it... when he was 14 he was arrested for rape. Maybe a coincidence, but in hindsight (as an adult) surely that was a warning sign?

@TakeTheCuntOutOfScunthorpe

That's totally fucked up and a sign of serious potential mental health issues. I would get social care involved.

There was a boy at my school who boasted about how he cut a "vagina" into his teddy bear and had sex with it... when he was 14 he was arrested for rape. Maybe a coincidence, but in hindsight (as an adult) surely that was a warning sign?

That's totally fucked up and a sign of serious potential mental health issues. I would get social care involved

What the actual fuck?! Some seriously OTT responses on this thread

Hardly comparable either to what that boy did

@sadeyedladyofthelowlands63 - I thought you were my sister briefly there......we did 5he same

Hahahhah Dolly I'm going to cut your eyes out and you'll be BLIND and then I'm going to put them onto my toy so he can see DEAD PEOPLE.

Vs

I've cut her eyes out because I'm making X and she needs eyes and I don't play with dolly

I think it matters.

Cutting something out of something unneeded to use elsewhere isn't torture

Does she watch YouTube? There are loads of videos about redesigning dolls/teddies etc. Removing and replacing hair, arms of one barbie going on the body of a Disney doll, all sorts.
I actually had to hide my nail polish collection from my eldest for months as she got it in her head to repaint all her expensive my little ponies!

Depends on how the child views a toy really. If they just see it as an inanimate object and nothing more they might not be bothered about it. If their empathy stretched to being considerate of other people's views they might have shown more respect but, there again, grown adults can, quite often, be tactless when it comes to receiving gifts they don't like.

@TakeTheCuntOutOfScunthorpe

That's totally fucked up and a sign of serious potential mental health issues. I would get social care involved.

There was a boy at my school who boasted about how he cut a "vagina" into his teddy bear and had sex with it... when he was 14 he was arrested for rape. Maybe a coincidence, but in hindsight (as an adult) surely that was a warning sign?

Oh come on. Op said the child said she was cutting the eye out to use for something else.

There’s nothing in that to suggest it’s anyway the same as the example you gave which was clearly concerning.

Op has either massively over egged the situation by referring to it as ‘torture’ or has left out some context that shows why she is concerned about the child’s behaviour.

Yes just shaved my dolls hair and drew all over it ,my Dh used to stab his teddies with a pen knife so he could so them back up ,neither of us have ever harmed our own children or ever would .

Sew them back up *

Like the boy in toy story who made his toys into new toys
It’s recycling
It’s innovative
It’s creative

@IEat

Like the boy in toy story who made his toys into new toys It’s recycling It’s innovative It’s creative

Now there's a kid who needs therapy

TakeTheCuntOutOfScunthorpe WTAF

Back to the OP - she needed them for something else. Kids can be savage

That's totally fucked up and a sign of serious potential mental health issues. I would get social care involved.

Please tell me what you think social care's response to a referral that was "a child took the eyes off a teddy bear to use for something else" would be.

Please show evidence to support your assertion that doing this is indicative of serious mental health issues.

@MrsTerryPratchett. thankyou for pointing out words you clearly recognised ,regardless of improper spelling. relevant is a completely different word from whoze and probli.
congratulations at managing to personify snidey AND lace your response(in written text)with it. you must be so proud.

OP 's title is very misleading and I wonder if that's deliberate given her feelings towards the girl.

First of all you can't torture a toy. It's an inanimate object.

Second of all the girl did not do it to cause harm,or senselessly , she did it to use it for something else.

I find it more concerning when an adult uses emotive language like that to paint a certain picture of a child tbh.

“I find it more concerning when an adult uses emotive language like that to paint a certain picture of a child tbh.”

I agree. It’s a bit of a red flag.

It was my child who used the word torture of the teddy, this was during a class discussion as part of their pshe lesson - how ironic!
It upset my child but some were very disturbed by it, in tears infact.
The girl was told to think about other's feelings by the teacher, I think that was the problem as she seems older than many of the others.

It never occurred to me about recycling as my toys were all precious to me as I didn't have that many so wouldn't have done that.
But I do understand how curious and inventive children can be but I haven't come across it like this before.

I never expected so many replies, thank you. It would make a good thread : What was the worst thing you did to your toys

So a child took the eyes off a toy.
To use for something creative.
And another child got upset

I'd be more concerned about the child who got upset...

Oh and btw OP, try not to project your feelings too much.

I never showed my own feelings to my child, I let then tell me about it and I made no comment back, that is why I wanted opinions.
It wasn't only one child upset either it was a few of the class, mine said they didn't like it.

[quote tolerable]@MrsTerryPratchett. thankyou for pointing out words you clearly recognised ,regardless of improper spelling. relevant is a completely different word from whoze and probli.
congratulations at managing to personify snidey AND lace your response(in written text)with it. you must be so proud.[/quote]
The poster themselves (who is very funny and uses idiom and dialect on here to great effect) seemed to take it in the spirit it was intended.

Maybe I need more emojis