AIBU to think a Captain Tom street party is a bit much?

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I didn’t agree with the clap and didn’t clap, so my neighbour knocked to “make sure I was okay”. I chickened out and blamed DS’s bed time 😳 because last time with the NHS clapping a lady on our street ended up completely ostracised from the main gaggle for not clapping a few weeks in a row and I couldn’t be arsed with the hassle of it.

Anyway the long and short of it is she also knocked to invite me to a street party they are throwing for Captain Tom and his memory, they’re printing out pictures and putting them on their front doors, making bunting, all coming out on the drive.

No it’s not hurting anyone but I just think it’s so distasteful - it’s really not about him is it? It’s an excuse to have a jolly. Especially while we are in lockdown.

It’s been made clear on the Facebook group in a long post a few minutes ago that people who don’t attend or put a picture up don’t have community spirit or care about their neighbours.

There’s also another clap tomorrow night with wine apparently.

Oh for gods sake! How ridiculous

Gosh I would hate your neighbours although we have a street whatsapp group which has proved useful but I am a little fed up of ‘aren’t we a lovely community?’ And one mum shoving her guitar playing, litter picking angels under our noses when the rest of us are just about surviving

Um um um, where are you that a street party is allowed?

Maybe in the summer when covid is much better controlled, if they did as a charity event maybe (just) But in second peak in the middle of winter?!

I'd be happy to be the one branded no community spirit me. Totally not arsed. come on OP be assertive and tell them to get bent.

South East. It’s clearly not. But it’s all okay, because it will be socially distanced and he was a national treasure and the government are encouraging us to celebrate his memory. FFS. Just when our numbers have come down as well.

For real? If so that’s stupid, it’s raining nearly everywhere tomorrow night.

I am so glad I dont live in your street OP

Another clap with wine
A street of piss heads who are using a old mans death as an excuse for a jolly up! Lovely!

Well...if everyone had a few sarnies and a little drink in their front garden/drive/step... What's wrong with that??

What would you care about being ostracised from idiots like that?

@00100001

It’s winter.

It’ll be raining.

It’s totally over the top and unnecessary.

Because it’s not about him. It’s using an old man’s death as an excuse to have a party @00100001

We have been thinking of moving recently, I think we just might, you know ..

Oh god my over-enthusiastic neighbour will be onto this like a shot if she sees it.

I. Hate. Street. Parties. Whether during lockdown or not.

The one downside of the days getting longer and warmer will be people deciding to sit in their front gardens and driveways too. It's so intimidating when you have to walk past (and where I live everyone has a perfectly good back garden).

I know... but what's wrong with having a street party, if everyone keeps to their doorsteps etc?

It's completely inappropriate. If my father had just died I wouldn't want people who didn't even know him using his death as an excuse for having a party just 2 days later, before he was even buried.

fucking hell, am getting really fed up hearing about with Capt Tom now, I just dont want to hear his name.

No state funeral
No clapping
No street parties

Just enough virtue signalling!

Yes - he did a lovely thing, Yes he raised a lot of money, but also yes, he was very old, and old people do die

He's not the Messiah, he is someone who raised money because he clicked with the mood of the country

My BIL mother died this week, senile with covid, and he couldnt even hold her hand, and told me he could see how scared she was, and couldnt comfort her.

Too many people have died, I'm sorry, while I am sure CT was a very nice man, he walked up and down in his very nice garden outside his very nice house.

Where is the Knighthood for Rob Burrow?
www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/uk-55221424

Where are the silences and demands for state funerals for these people?
www.inverness-courier.co.uk/news/national/the-nhs-and-care-workers-who-have-died-during-the-coronavirus-pandemic-12285/

How about Joan?
www.eveningexpress.co.uk/news/uk/104-year-old-who-raised-50000-plus-for-charity-receives-coronavirus-vaccine/

or Kerma?
www.standard.co.uk/news/uk/karma-hardy-covid-death-tibet-charity-b900513.html

my mum died last wednesday from mutiple organ failure, perhaps i should hold a street party for her, oh, sorry she was just a normal person ! i feel for his poor family having to be under the spot light from all these so called 'well meaning' attention seekers and wanting to be part of the 'i was there' bullshit.

How really can you have a party of you keep to your own doorstep though 😂 HELLO MR SMITH HOW ARE YOU? WHAT??? CHICKEN AND HAM! thrilling 😂

Well...if everyone had a few sarnies and a little drink in their front garden/drive/step... What's wrong with that??

Imagine you are recently bereaved having lost your father only 2 days ago. Would you think it nice if people used his death as an excuse for a jolly?

Yeah, I'd just be the neighborhood pariah in that situation, I think. Think of it as a community service- people love to have someone to ostracise.

It’s when I hear of things like this that I’m glad we don’t have neighbors within sound or sight.

I agree with @VinterKvinna

Also OP, have you ever thought of moving?

No state funeral
No clapping
No street parties

Agree

God, what a bunch of bullying arseholes. Tell them to stick their community spirit, wine, and bunting where the sun doesn't shine. I'd be thrilled to be ostracised by those wankers.