AIBU to think a Captain Tom street party is a bit much?

[squishedblueberry]

I didn’t agree with the clap and didn’t clap, so my neighbour knocked to “make sure I was okay”. I chickened out and blamed DS’s bed time 😳 because last time with the NHS clapping a lady on our street ended up completely ostracised from the main gaggle for not clapping a few weeks in a row and I couldn’t be arsed with the hassle of it.

Anyway the long and short of it is she also knocked to invite me to a street party they are throwing for Captain Tom and his memory, they’re printing out pictures and putting them on their front doors, making bunting, all coming out on the drive.

No it’s not hurting anyone but I just think it’s so distasteful - it’s really not about him is it? It’s an excuse to have a jolly. Especially while we are in lockdown.

It’s been made clear on the Facebook group in a long post a few minutes ago that people who don’t attend or put a picture up don’t have community spirit or care about their neighbours.

There’s also another clap tomorrow night with wine apparently.

I mean the post after mine (by missrm!)

@littlepattilou

Oh lovely, ANOTHER thread slagging off Captain Sir Tom Moore.

Mumsnet really are excelling themselves tonight.

I wouldn't say it's slagging him off though... it's a thread slagging off the neighbours with their distasteful excuse to have a doo in the street in the middle of a global pandemic.

Your a tad dramatic..

On THIS thread...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/a4155498-AIBU-to-think-a-Captain-Tom-street-party-is-a-bit-much?msgid=104318807#104318807

19.50 and 55 seconds...

Read that, and then tell me no-one is berating Tom Moore on here.

@VinterKvinna not all, you made a good point.

@littlepattilou I’m not disputing that other people are making insulting comments, however you accused us on this thread of doing so having clearly not read it, as we haven’t. What people are saying in other threads is irrelevant if we aren’t doing so here

@littlepattilou
That's a different thread but for what it's worth I don't agree with a state funeral either. Doesn't mean I am criticising anybody.

Personally, I am horrified by the exploitation of the death of such a lovely old man as a distraction from the government's utter failure to manage the pandemic.

I refuse to participate in it.

Am I also South East and they sound like my neighbours! I understand that they're probably a little bored and in need of some excitement but its turned into a massive pissing contest in our village. I can't help but think Capt. Tom wouldn't have wanted all the fuss and drama (we've had some ostracisation of people not clapping too).

@littlepattilou I can’t see the post you’re referring to on here as insulting to Captain Tom Moore, can you quote it? It takes me to a post by @VinterKvinna which isn’t insulting to him in the slightest.

Bollocks. I mean THIS thread!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4155451-NO-to-a-state-funeral-for-Captain-Sir-Tom-Moore-AIBU?pg=5

19.50 and 55 seconds. Read that comment by missrm and tell me people are not berating Tom Moore

Open your eyes. I'm not the one who 'can't read.

You Clearly are. You claimed this was another thread slagging off captain Tom. It very clearly isn’t. So you were wrong, either you can’t read, or you just didn’t bother to read and decided to make things up.

@babbaloushka maybe we have the same neighbours!

@littlepattilou

On THIS thread...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/a4155498-AIBU-to-think-a-Captain-Tom-street-party-is-a-bit-much?msgid=104318807#104318807

19.50 and 55 seconds...

Read that, and then tell me no-one is berating Tom Moore on here.

This has no relevance to this current thread.. 🤯

Of course it isn't slagging anybody off!! OP is actually more respectful than most because she doesn't see his death as a reason to get pissed in the garden

Wonder what individual efforts these neighbours have made to safeguard the NHS?

@littlepattilou fair enough that thread may have those kind of posts on but this one doesn’t. So don’t accuse us all of slagging him off - you owe us an apology! We’ve been nothing but respectful and we aren’t responsible for other threads on Mumsnet.

@littlepattilou not sure how many times we have to say this, but that’s a completely DIFFERENT thread and doesn’t prove your accusation about this one at all

Which posts on this thread are slagging off Capt Tom?

@littlepattilou read back your post very slowly, you said ANOTHER thread slagging off Sir Tom and it's not! Go moan on the other thread.

And incidentally people are entitled to their own opinions!

Anyway, I shan’t be attending the street party so will probably get given all kinds of not so subtle aimed at me passive aggression after the fact.
It really makes me very uncomfortable.

@littlepattilou are you ok? Seriously

Is your neighbour @littlepattilou OP?

It is a real shame for his family he's passed away but there are now over 100,000 families who are experiencing similar grief (thankfully the majority without the fame and grief piggybacking aspect). Frankly it's disgraceful that what he did was even necessary.
The NHS should be sufficiently funded and it's prats like BJ et al who should be ashamed of their utter failures as the reasons it's not.
I'll not be out clapping, no change from the first wave of group hysteria either.

@squishedblueberry I would do the same, let them have their 5 minutes. I certainly wouldn't be pleased if people did this for my relatives!

VinterKvinner absolutely spot on.

OK maybe I am being a bit OTT, and no-one is slagging off Tom on here, but I have seen multiple threads (on here) where some people have been berating him and his family, and saying negative shit..

And when I saw the comment comparing him to Jimmy Saville, I just saw red, and reacted on here when I saw (what I perceived to be) another anti-Tom thread.

Apologies for my over-reaction on THIS thread. And I can see now that it's not him being slagged off on here.

Sorry all... I do genuinely apologise.