To ask what you're doing for Valentines?

[bartelbyfinnegan]

I am a bit of a romantic at heart but my partner, unfortunately, isn't (although he'd insist he is because he bought me flowers once )
His idea of a date night whether pandemic or not is a takeaway and a film, but we do that ALOT and I'd like it if we did something a bit different if possible.

Pre crazy covid times it would usually be me who'd book/ arrange something but obviously, we won't be going out to celebrate this year. We don't usually go crazy, just maybe a small cute/ funny gift and a "date night" (not on actual V day as it's always overpriced ) but I like to do something and I'd love it even more if he put the effort in for once

I have mentioned a couple of times to my OH that maybe he could light some candles/ cook for a change and we could have a romantic meal-out-but-in type thing, but I imagine he'll completely forget and then order a takeaway so I was just hoping to hear others' ideas on how to have a romantic lockdown Valentines?

Do your OH's spoil you? Do you have plans? If so what are they?

Thanks

Valentines is our 15th wedding anniversary too so I will definitely be marking the occasion! Was thinking of maybe ordering one of those afternoon teas in and some champagne? Obvs a happy drunk shag too

Got a bottle of champers left from Xmas and will buy each other a little gift but as we can't go out (as we usually would) I'm going to make it more of a family affair and decorate the dining room as a valentines party room and have a buffet & have ordered a chocolate fountain off Amazon which DS is going to lose his shit over as he's always wanted to try one.
Looking forward to a nice, quite, relaxing treat day with my boys, maybe an afternoon walk and a movie. Just chilled and lovely.

🦠

I usually get a card but we've agreed not to bother this year.

Planning on getting steak for him, salmon for me and having a binge night while watching movies. Got each other a few little presents, joke stuff really, nothing serious or romantic.

We've ordered a make your own pizza kit and have got a nice bottle of wine to go with it

A swim.
A decent meal in the evening.
Cocktails.
Film

Swim - where ??!! I would love to go swimming.

I expect we will have a nice meal, wine* and a film .... same as practically every single other night for the last 11 months. Probably exchange cards I bought a reduced one last year after 14 Feb if I can find it.

*maybe Cava for a change.

We will be rolling like thunder under the covers 😜

Gin, dinner, wine - same as every other single day of the year.

I made sure my partner would make an effort on Valentine's day to give me a special day before choosing him because I like that type of thing. He will get me nice gifts, cook a special meal, a walk to my favourite places and try to make the day special by doing nice things for me, I will bake some cookies

I'm gonna put together a valentines evening menu,
I'll transform the dining area into a romantic little sanctuary.
A couple of little gifts between courses.

Then were going to watch DHs favourite film.

He will very much enjoy that.

Both going to get a bit dressed up for our date.

He will plan our anniversary date about 2 weeks later.

We are celebrating on the Saturday, ordering a nice meal to cook (heat) at home from a restaurant we like. Opening a bottle of bubbly. Playing board games earlier in the day after the obligatory walk!

@AgeLikeWine

Nothing. Same as every other year.

Valentine’s Day is commercialised nonsense, and we choose to opt out. I do need the marketing department of fucking Tesco to tell me when and how to express affection for my partner.

I don't need anyone to tell me when and how to express affection either but me and DH still do something for Valentines every year even after 40 years together.

We both show affection all year round but it's nice to do something on Valentines Day.

Some years we go out for a meal, some years we get a takeaway, some years one or both of us cook. Some years we go away for a night or maybe 2 or more nights. We often go out for the day.

We always buy each other a card and sometimes a small gift such as a book, cd, perfume etc.

Not sure about this year as obviously very restricted but probably get an M&S dine in or cook a nice meal.

I get that some people don't celebrate it but plenty do so why the need to sneer at those that do?

Steak chorizo wine chocolate and watching serial killer documentaries probably.

Dont really do Valentines day, its ds's birthday so we celebrate that instead

We've bought paint equipment and are going to follow a bob Ross tutorial Followed by A Dishpatch meal

@Inpersuitofhappiness

I'm gonna put together a valentines evening menu, I'll transform the dining area into a romantic little sanctuary. A couple of little gifts between courses.

Then were going to watch DHs favourite film.

He will very much enjoy that.

Both going to get a bit dressed up for our date.

He will plan our anniversary date about 2 weeks later.

This sounds lovely! I think I'm craving an excuse to get dressed up 😂

I love the idea of a bit of romance, I never get it but it doesn't stop me dreaming!

This seems sad. How long have you been together? If you’ve been really clear that you want some fuss made and he won’t bother even once a year then he’s being withholding and mean, or just doesn’t care enough. And with this kind of bloke hints won’t work, you’ll need to be very clear.

@Nohairofcourseicare

I hate Valentine’s Day, it’s so naff. I always feel embarrassed for anyone that gets proposed to then, it’s so contrived.

We make a fuss of birthdays and wedding anniversaries and that means much more.

Why feel embarrassed for them? If they're happy what's it got to do with you? 😂

I respect that not everyone likes it, and that nobody needs to be told when they can show affection/ love to their significant other but on the other hand, if people want to join in and celebrate or use it as an excuse to enjoy a bit of cheesy romance, I don't understand why some people feel the need to look down on them, it all comes across a bit bitter!

I love hearing what other people get up to

We will get a posh takeaway and favourite wine and that's it. No presents but our anniversary is close so seems abit OTT. The takeaway is an extra treat as been on a diet so will be so nice eating all those calories mmmmm!

@SparklingLime

I love the idea of a bit of romance, I never get it but it doesn't stop me dreaming!

This seems sad. How long have you been together? If you’ve been really clear that you want some fuss made and he won’t bother even once a year then he’s being withholding and mean, or just doesn’t care enough. And with this kind of bloke hints won’t work, you’ll need to be very clear.

We've been together 9 years this summer. He's a good man and he shows me he loves me in other ways, he's just not one for planning big romantic gestures. I accept that and I'm fine with it, but I still enjoy hearing what others do I think I've watched too many films

If I tell him to make a fuss he will, but it doesn't feel the same if I've had to tell him. It loses the element of romance and surprise for me, I'd rather plan it myself and surprise him than have to tell him to do it if that makes sense?

I know I'm probably an idiot 😂

@FolkyFoxFace

I'm due soon, so it'll be our last one without kids. We'd wanted to get away somewhere, but obviously can't with Covid...and the weather is crap...so we're setting up a tent in the living room, bringing the plants and things in, popping fairy lights up, and having a very posh picnic, complete with forest sounds on the laptop. 😂

Bit daft, I know, but it'll be fun!

LOVE THIS!!

@Sweet666 maybe I should have done that years ago 🤣

@MaelyssQ

When my DD was little, she turned her bedroom into a candlelit restaurant for two, and served us spaghetti bolognaise and Vimto. I will never forget that, it was so lovely. She had decorated her bedroom with cut out hearts and flowers. The spaghetti was out of a tin and cold because she wasn't allowed to use the cooker. Best Valentine's Day ever.

This is so sweet!